I decided to stop 'trying so hard'.

Thank you for visiting. I am a science-major mom raising a two-and-a-half-year-old son who doesn't talk yet and a three-month-old daughter.

The other day, while watching a YouTube video recommended by someone who commented on my blog, the speaker said, "let's stop trying so hard".

Ah, I thought, "I read that in a book the other day too." When you see a message over and over like this, it's a sign that you should follow it.

So, today I would like to write down my thoughts on "stopping trying so hard" as they come to me.

The reason why you should stop "trying so hard"

The explanation for why it's better to stop "trying so hard" that resonates most with me was in a book called "Scientific Way to Rewrite Your Subconscious Mind".

According to this book, you should stop "trying so hard" because the act of trying so hard leads to self-deprecation.

By the way, what is recommended instead of "trying so hard" is "doing your best". Since there is no consciousness of self-deprecation in that, it usually works out well.

Trying so hard while saying "I'll do my best"

About a month after reading this book, just as I was consciously spending my time using the phrase "I'll do my best," I received this comment:

"Isn't it possible that you, as a science-major mom, were pushing yourself too hard to just 'look forward' without even knowing your own capacity?"

I realized, maybe I was trying to push myself while saying I would "do my best".

Trying so hard or pushing yourself is an expression of the belief that "the current me is not good enough."

That's why it feels a little exhausting, and when you suddenly notice it, you are out of energy. Maybe that's where I am now.

I will write about what I did after this realization another day.

Anyway, today is my declaration that "I've stopped trying so hard!" 😉

I hope you'll be kind to me.

Acknowledgments

To Kake Udon and Ginga Uchu, thank you both so much for your comments.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my gratitude.

Reference Books & Videos

Kenji Spirit

This YouTube channel was the inspiration for my declaration to 'stop trying my best'.

The calm, matter-of-fact speaking style makes it perfect for listening to with earphones while doing housework or childcare.

Scientific Ways to Rewrite Your Subconscious

This book provided the most convincing explanation of 'why it is better to stop trying so hard'.

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