Are you being too considerate? You might just be thinking you're doing something good for others...

As the world becomes more convenient, the relationships between people are fading.
That is precisely why I feel like I have been hearing the word “consideration” so often lately.

I think the fact that we have entered an aging society is also in the background.Young people must be considerate of the elderly. Young people must experience many more things.These kinds of messages are rampant everywhere.
Personally, I totally agree lol.
I am 28 now, and since I started reading books like crazy about two years ago and trying to be more considerate in my words and actions, I think I have gained a certain amount of promotion and knowledge.
(Of course, based on Socrates' philosophy, I still hold onto the spirit of knowing that I know nothing, so I am still studying.)

However, I have failed by overdoing it.
To put it simply, it was out of a naive thought that if I did work at the company that I shouldn't have been doing, “Maybe they'll think, 'So-and-so really does a lot for us. He's always helpful,'” and things would go well.
As for what happened as a result, people thought the following:

・It's nice that you do it, but it's half-baked, and the person in charge ends up having to clean up the mess.
・My own work didn't progress, and as a result, I ended up causing trouble for those around me.
・The vector was for my own sake, so I felt no sense of growth and received no recognition from those around me.

Something like that. In short, excessive consideration is...

“It leads to a burden on the other person, and you end up being thought of as an annoyance.”

Aren't there some readers among you who are reading this right now and feeling a bit of a sting?

I believe the essence of consideration is “a level that the other person doesn't even notice.”Doing that effortlessly is what I feel is
the pinnacle of consideration.

Therefore, while I do have the mindset of doing things for someone else, I also focus on “Can I sleep soundly when I look back on my day?”

In the end, no matter what, you cannot detach yourself from yourself.However, other people will definitely be detached at some point. If that's the case, I feel it's better to be able to say to yourself, not for others,
“You're a pleasant person!” than anything else.

I am still immature, but I want to live with a humble and polite attitude.

I'll still end up meddling at an annoying level though lol...