The Light and Darkness That Rule the Heart

Don't you think the human heart is mysterious?

There are times when it is filled with clear feelings, like the light of a sunny day,
and there are nights when it is quietly swallowed by darkness, unnoticed by anyone.

A day saved by a single word.
A night wounded by a single moment of silence.

The human heart is not just light.
Darkness, too, is certainly there.

But—
That very "darkness" can sometimes be the hint that illuminates our "light."

Light alone can break a person.

"Be positive," "Keep smiling," "Think brightly"—
Have you ever felt a sense of discomfort with words like those?

We live in a world that favors light.
The more positive you are, the more correct you are.
It is better not to show negative emotions if possible.

But the heart is not that simple.
There is anger just as there is joy.
There is jealousy just as there is kindness.
There is despair just as there is hope.

If you keep hiding those things, one day, suddenly—
You will find yourself wondering, "Why am I smiling?"

"To face the light, one must understand the darkness."

Why does the heart harbor "darkness"?
And is that darkness truly "evil"?

In what follows—
While gently shining a light on the "things you don't want to see" within you,
I will deeply and carefully unravel the mechanisms of the heart and "how to handle words."

When you finish reading,
you might be able to be a little kinder to "your own heart."

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The fact that the "darkness" of the heart is not destroying you, but protecting you

Darkness is not an enemy.
It is an existence that could be called a "defense instinct of the heart."

For example, when you try too hard to meet someone's expectations.
The moment you think, "I can't do this anymore," your heart applies the brakes.
What appears at that time is "lethargy" or "anger."

These never appeared to destroy you, but rather,
they were "emotions necessary to protect you."

However, many people do not notice that message,
and end up denying a part of themselves, saying, "I am no good" or "I hate my dark side."

—That is the act that hurts the heart the most.

Emotions cannot live in a world of only "light"

A world composed only of light is actually fragile.
This is because the "living thing" called emotion survives by maintaining balance.

Why is it that you feel a little better after crying?
Why is it that after anger, you can quietly say, "Actually, I was lonely"?

It is because the light is visible due to the presence of darkness.
Humans do not need to illuminate everything brightly.
Rather, it is when you acknowledge the dark parts that the contours of the light emerge.

Not "controlling the heart," but "coexisting with it"

The more you try to "control your heart," the more painful it becomes.

"Don't complain."
"Snap out of it."
"Don't get depressed."

All of these are "control."

But in reality, the heart is something you "come to terms with."
Because there are waves, you are alive.
Because there are days you feel down, there are days you can move forward.

—When you can allow that, people can finally begin to "live together with their own hearts."

Afterword: "Your darkness exists to lead you to the light"

That "shadow" you are carrying
might be wishing for you to "notice your own light."

Do not run away, and do not deny it.
Just watch over it gently.

If you, who arrived at this article today,
can become just a little "kinder to your own heart"—
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