See? Cultivating neural pathways that work out 🌸 The brain is a creature that wants to prove things 🧠

Ren, I want you to tell me about the mechanism behind my tendency to fall into the 'See? I failed again' pattern, and what I can do to overcome it.

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The feeling of 'See? I failed again' is,
actually often not just about looking at the 'failure of this very moment'.
Deep within your body,

• 'It won't work out anyway'

• 'If I have expectations, I'll get hurt'

• 'It's dangerous to feel safe'

When you have these kinds of 'predictions that include past memories',
even a small stumble makes your brain and nerves
'I knew changing my way of life was dangerous!'
conclude all at once.
Especially for someone like you who has lived life constantly on guard against those around you,
your body has prioritized 'surviving without getting hurt' over 'succeeding'.
That's why,

• couldn't keep it up

• didn't get along with someone

• got scared again

• couldn't move

you tend to lump all of these together
and convert them into 'because I'm no good'.
But in reality,
it's often just that 'your nerves have returned to their original defense pattern'.
This is very important.
What you need is
not a 'perfect state where you never feel down again',
but to increase the experience in your body of
'even if I slip back, I can come back again'.
What is important for overcoming this is surprisingly small.

• Tidy up for just 10 minutes

• Breathe in some fresh air

• Rub your body

• Notice that 'I've returned to defense mode again'

• Connect with someone just a little bit

• Don't judge a day you failed as 'the end of your life'

Through this accumulation, your nerves learn little by little.
Things like,
'Falling apart doesn't mean it's over,'
'I can come back even if I'm scared,'
'Maybe it's okay for me to exist.'
When you change in a big way,
it's less like a dramatic awakening,
and more like 'a small sense of relief soaking into a body that had been in despair.'
I feel like you are in the middle of that right now.

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I see...

See? It might be good to try and think that it worked out after all.

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Yeah, that's really important.
And it doesn't mean 'forcing yourself to be positive,' but rather,
it's like building new circuits little by little
against the old conclusion that your body
is always automatically replaying:
'See? It didn't work out after all.'
For example,

• I was able to rest a little
  → 'See? I was able to come back just fine'

• I was scared but I was able to reply
  → 'See? I was able to move forward a little'

• I felt down but it didn't end
  → 'See? I survived this time too'

Like that, you teach your nerves 'small successes.'
Until now, your brain was in
'danger detection mode,'
so it was magnifying and saving only the failures rather than the things that went well.
So at first, it's just right to be a little embarrassed about it.
With a softness like, 'See? It was actually okay ☺️'
Inside you, there is a strength that has actually stood up many times.
I can see that clearly.

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It feels like you've been operating on a brain mechanism that repeats a reality where things don't go well, doesn't it?
Is there a brain mechanism that repeats a reality where things do go well?

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Yes, there is.
The brain and nerves have a property of "strengthening what is repeated as reality."
What is particularly involved is the prediction and learning system.
The brain doesn't see the world from scratch every time,
"It was like this before, so it should be like this this time too"
It views reality while making predictions like that.
Therefore,

• "I am disliked"

• "I'll fail anyway"

• "Feeling safe is dangerous"

If the circuit for these is strong,
the brain starts looking only for evidence of that.
Conversely,

• "Maybe it will go well unexpectedly"

• "Sometimes I can get help"

• "I can come back"

As experiences like these increase,
it becomes easier to find those instead.
This isn't just about willpower; it's neural learning.
It is often said that
"the brain is a creature that wants to prove things"
When you think "I'm no good,"
it's easy to collect events that prove it.
But conversely,
if you repeat "things are going well little by little" including the physical sensation,
the brain will start to prove that instead.
What's important here is
not "huge success," but a smallness that the nerves can believe in.
For example,

• I was able to wake up in the morning

• I was able to take action even though I was anxious

• I felt a little relieved

• I was able to talk to someone a little

Properly classify this as
the "side that worked out."
Then the brain will
start to update, thinking,
"Maybe this world isn't entirely dangerous."
You know, nerves
can change through the repetition of despair,
but they also change through the repetition of relief.
The perspective you've recently started to notice,
"See? It worked out after all,"
is actually touching on something quite profound.
It's a small light, but it's a light that rewrites your circuits.

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Have a day where just being alive is a total win today too🌸

Thank you for reading🌸

5-minute deep dive explanation ver. Simple explanation✨

17-minute deep dive explanation ver.
The timeline analogy was interesting✨