How to Deal with the Fear of Failure

Before an important task,
right before speaking in front of others,
or before starting a diet, for example.

There are times when you're afraid of failure
and it's hard to get motivated
to try something new, aren't there?

The thought of
not wanting to feel anxious,
and thinking that it's better to just stay as you arerather than risk failing and having a bad experience...

is probably
a very common feeling, isn't it?

I don't always challenge myself either,
and I think that by choosing the job of a nurse,
I am naturally a person who prefers stability.

But,
because I have a stable world secured,
I am able to write notes like this,
do radio broadcasts,
and provide listening services.

So, I'd like to address the title now:
when you are afraid of failure,
how do you deal with it?

The conclusion is,to acquire recovery skills.
That is what it comes down to.

Instead of making 'not failing' your goal,
you should think about how to recoverafter you have failed.

For example,
suppose your child is drinking milk from a glass
and accidentally spills it.

At that moment,

'Hold the glass carefully!'
'Focus and don't think about other things!'
'Milk smells bad, so be extra careful!'

If you scold them like that,
it seems the child will start to feel
that drinking milk from a glass is stressful.

The accumulation of such things
makes them think,
'Isn't it better to make a stable choice'
rather than trying something new?

And
without thinking about how to recover,
you start choosing options that won't lead to failure.

If you do that, even when you become an adult,
you won't be able to perform well
in stressful jobs or
situations under pressure.

Even if you think you want to live a life without challenges,
to a greater or lesser extent,
in life,
situations where you have no choice but to take on challenges or show courage
will definitely come.

But as in the previous example,
if a child is just afraid of
drinking milk from a glass,
they will only try to escape,
they won't develop a challenging mindset,
and they will only be left with regret when they fail.

Thinking from that perspective,
if you are educating a child,

if they spill milk from a glass,
you must teach them the recovery method of
apologizing to their mother
and wiping the table with a cloth.

My 2-year-old daughter also
often spills tea or juice,
so I make her clean it up with a dishcloth each time.

Before I knew it,
she started trying to drink tea
from adult glasses that are a bit hard to drink from,
and she started trying to eat udon
with chopsticks that she couldn't use well at all.

I have gotten angry because she spilled tea many times,
but

I don't think that made the child
more careful,
and rather than that, I think it's better for their mental health
to acquire the mindset that
it's fine to just fix the failure.

Once you become an adult,
you have no choice but to educate yourself.

To build a mindset of
taking on challenges and not fearing failure,
think, "How can I recover if I fail?"

By thinking that,
and by accumulating actual experience in recovering,
the confidence that
"I'll be fine even if I fail"

will grow,
and you will be able to respond calmly
even in situations under pressure.

That was the topic of this talk 😉

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