🌿 Psychology Lesson on Human Relationships Part 2: Why Can't People Realize When a Relationship Is Better Off Ended?

When you are in love,
you sometimes realize it somewhere deep down.

"This relationship is a bit painful."

"Is it really okay to keep going like this?"

Even while feeling such small discomfort,
we sometimes pretend not to notice those feelings.

In truth,
that you aren't being treated kindly.

That you aren't being cherished.

Even though you feel it somewhere,
there are still relationships you cannot leave.

Why is it that people
cannot realize when a relationship is better off ended?

One reason is
that the feeling of "love" is very strong.

The human heart is a mysterious thing,
and toward the person we love,
we sometimes believe in "hope" more than reality.

They will surely change.
Surely it will work out someday.

By thinking in such ways,
perhaps we are trying to accept the current pain.

Another reason is
the "fear of losing."

Once people have become deeply involved with someone,
they cannot easily let them go.

The time spent together and the memories,
the future you envisioned with that person.

When you think about losing those things,
even if the relationship is painful,
you may become unable to make the decision to leave.

Love sometimes
clouds a person's judgment.

Even though you actually realize it,
your heart does not want to accept it.

In that way,
you may find yourself wavering between your feelings and reality.

But I believe that
is not a weakness.

Precisely because you have fallen for someone,
you cannot give up so easily.

That is because it means
you were truly and deeply caring for that person.

If you are feeling pain within such a relationship,

there is something I would like you to remember for a moment.

Love, by nature,
should not be something you 'keep enduring,'
but rather something that 'brings peace to your heart.'

Valuing your own feelings
might also be a very important part of being in love.

That hesitation and pain,
too, are likely proof that your heart is deeply feeling something important.

Perhaps the human heart
is just made that way.

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