The Happiness of Giving = The Happiness of Receiving: Does it hold up?

Last night, I participated in a workshop with the unusual name, "The Only-Talk-About-Pickled-Plums Team." Despite the name, it was a very serious and meaningful time for reporting progress on our respective goals and exchanging opinions.

The topic of the three types of happiness came up.
There are three types of happiness.

"The happiness of receiving" is,
the joy a grade-schooler feels when their parent dresses them,
the happiness a new employee feels when helped by a senior colleague.

"The happiness of being able to do" is,
the joy a grade-schooler feels when they can do a back-hip circle on the horizontal bar,
the happiness a new employee feels when they can conduct a business meeting all by themselves.

"The happiness of giving" is,
the joy a grade-schooler feels when they look after younger students during group walks to school,
the happiness a new employee feels when they support a senior colleague.

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If you add the element of age to these three types of happiness,
once you pass 50, it likely becomes
happiness of giving > happiness of being able to do > happiness of receiving,
I suppose.

When I was young, I selfishly pursued only "the happiness of being able to do."

"The happiness of giving"—for example, supporting, assisting, helping others, donating, or volunteering—was put on the back burner. Or rather, I feel I avoided it, thinking it was a waste of time.

Aging is a mysterious thing; once you pass 50, perhaps because the "happiness of being able to do" has decreased, the "happiness of giving" has become the most enjoyable.

Among the participants, there were some young people who said, "I want to contribute to people's growth and the blossoming of their abilities. That is my happiness." Being able to share our individual thoughts was a major takeaway.

Just by reaching out a hand to someone who is struggling, you become happy.
This is surely what "the happiness of giving" is all about.

At the logical thinking discussion group requested by a friend the other day, I acted as the instructor and spoke a lot. The sense of comfort that remained was likely because it was "the happiness of giving."

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At the logical thinking discussion group,
I was filled with "the happiness of giving," but
now, did the friends experience "the happiness of receiving"?

The happiness of giving = The happiness of receiving
Does this actually hold up?

For the recipient of "the happiness of giving,"
there should be "the happiness of receiving," and a win-win situation should be established.
If this balance collapses, it becomes a win-lose or a lose-lose relationship.

For example,
a senior colleague will likely find a new employee who only asks for help to be bothersome.

A senior colleague who continues to fuss over a new employee who has already become independent will likely be annoying.

I often see scenes where elderly grandmothers reach out to their grandchildren's generation. It is easy to understand how a win-win situation can be built through things like New Year's money.

However,
old customs,
trivia that doesn't apply to modern society,
past experiences that aren't needed,
being forced to eat more even when you're full,

being lectured endlessly,
and persistence
are unbearable for young people.

Quite frankly, these actions
can be a nuisance.

If we consider that these actions, which elderly people perform thinking they are doing something good, are actually acts through which they gain the "happiness of doing for others," then this unnecessary meddling can be explained.

(Mako-san's inner voice)
I don't want to become like that.
It's just a self-centered act, after all.

If you sincerely accept a request, there is a benefit for the other party, and you can also feel the "happiness of doing for others." It's a win-win.

The unsolicited, forced goodwill of elderly people is a disadvantage for the other party and only provides a sense of accomplishment for oneself, so this win-lose relationship should be avoided.

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I participated in a workshop and received so many realizations. I was able to feel the "happiness of having things done for me."

I would like to thank the team leader, the assistant leader, and the members who actively participated in the discussion for coordinating the schedule.

I was able to feel the "happiness of having things done for me" from such wonderful members.

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