Unable to act. Three stages to move forward quietly after that

I know I should do it.
I also think I can't go on like this.

Even so, for some reason, I can't move.
Does that state sound familiar to you?

At times like this, many people
start blaming themselves,
thinking, "Maybe I have a weak will" or "Maybe I lack motivation."

But in reality, people become unable to move
not when they don't understand anything, but perhaps
when they understand to some extent.

The necessary information and the minimum knowledge
are already in their heads.

That is precisely why they can see that it is not easy.
They can imagine the possibility of failure and a future where they don't keep it up.

The state of "knowing what to do but being unable to act"
is not a problem for people who cannot think, but
a state for people who can think.

Chapter 1 | Can people not act unless they are "70-80% certain"?

First, as a premise,
the line at which one feels "I can act on this" differs from person to person.

Some people can act at 30%,
while others can take a step forward at 50%.

And in many cases,
I think many people cannot move to action
unless they feel about 70-80% sure that "it will go well."

If the feeling is around 50-60%,
they naturally stop,
thinking, "It feels too early" or "I want to wait and see a little longer."

What is important here is
that you don't have to think of it as a weak will.

As the amount of information increases, choices increase, and the more you think,
the easier it is for people to feel "I want a little more certainty."

"I know I should do it, but..."
This is probably the true nature of that phrase.

As a result,
a state is created where, even though you understand it in your head,
for some reason, your body does not move.

What is needed here may not be correctness,
but a feeling that "it seems okay."

Chapter 2 | What does "wait and see" mean?

It's not so much that you can't think "it seems okay,"
but that you can't feel it.

At times like that, we
make the decision to "not do it now."

Instead, you shift to the
**“side of watching how things go.”**

At this time, within us,
several stages (phases) are quietly progressing.

Phase 1 | Amazing. But, it might be impossible for me

The first thing you feel is a sense of “amazing.”

Looking at the post,
the level is high.
The level of perfection is also high.

At the same time,
a feeling that “this seems difficult for me” also arises.

At this stage, a certain number of people
quietly drift away without thinking deeply.

Phase 2 | Keep watching a little longer

On the other hand, if you don't leave immediately and
keep watching for a while,
the content being conveyed begins to come into view little by little.

Then,
what is being said is correct.
You also think, “Your point is well taken.”

However, something bothers you.
You begin to feel a small sense of discomfort.

Furthermore, as you continue to watch,
the way you see things gradually changes.

From here on, depending on the person,
the points they perceive will diverge.

Phase 3-1 | If it were me, I might do it this way

What is being said is correct.
The ideals are also high.

But,
“Isn't this just idealism and not realistic?”

“If it were me, I might convey that ‘gap’
a little more carefully.”

In that way, the way you see things changes.

Phase 3-2 | They seem desperate.

I understand what they want to convey.
There is also passion.

However, there are times when I feel
a sense of desperation coming to the fore.

For example—
The face is smiling, but the eyes are not.
The mouth is somehow twitching.

It is a feeling like when you see such an expression.

That is not necessarily a bad thing.

However, as a sense of discomfort,
a brake might be applied unconsciously,
thinking, "Maybe I should keep some distance."

"They say it's free, but I can imagine what comes next."
"I feel like I'm going to be strongly pressured later."

Whether that is a fact or not is another matter,
but aren't there moments when you feel that way?

Phase 3-3 | Telling all the answers

The explanation is very polite.
The talk is also easy to understand.

"I see, I heard a good story."
"I learned something."

For a moment, your feelings become positive.

However, after that,
nothing starts, doesn't it?

The true nature of the discomfort lies in the fact that
the feeling of "I understand" itself
has become a form of "satisfaction".

When all the answers are presented,
there is no room left to think for yourself.

As a result,
even if you understand it comfortably on the spot,
it does not lead to relationships or actions.

There is no malice, of course.
In fact, it is very kind.

But because it is too kind,
what is happening here is

"I learned"
"I understood"

a state where the feeling of
is completed on the spot.

That is,
"I feel like I learned something"
"I feel like I got smarter"
"I feel like it was a good reference"

It might be a somewhat troublesome pitfall.

Next time

Why do people
feel satisfied just by 'understanding'?

Furthermore, I would like to touch upon
a slightly embarrassing
but very natural mechanism of the brain.

※The continuation is here↓↓