Isn't it better if presents aren't a surprise!?
Are you busy with the end of the year?
(Note: Is everyone keeping busy?)
I am so busy with the end of the year again this year that I wonder if it's déjà vu from last year. I'm out of breath every day.
In the midst of all this, I'm writing a note for the first time in a while, and since it's the Christmas season (or rather, today is Christmas☆), I'd like to talk about my thoughts on presents!
What I want to say is exactly as the title suggests.
Isn't it better if presents aren't a surprise!?is what I mean.
I tend to think more like a minimalist, so I actually really dislike having things I don't need.
Starting with visible things like interior decor, tableware, clothes, shoes, and cosmetics, to things like LINE contacts and Instagram timelines (I also hate following people just to gain mutual followers when I'm not interested), I just don't want to have unnecessary things.
That said, I'm not a complete minimalist, so there are things I want variety in, such as books (I don't even know how many I buy a month! lol), skincare, face masks, nail polish, and so on, so I do have many different types of those things.
With that mindset, even if it's a present from someone I like, if it's something I don't want, I don't want it.
No matter how good the taste is, if it's not something I want, I have no occasion to use it.
(Even if I'm already using my favorite wallet, if I get a new one because it's my birthday, I only need one wallet, and above all, I'm thinking, 'I'm using my favorite one right now!' lol)
But when I say things like this, the 'cherish the sentiment' crowd, who say, 'Presents are about the thought, so isn't it normal to be happy with anything?', label me as a cold person.
That's not it.
It's not that I'm cold.
It's simply that I feel more comfortable being surrounded by my favorites.
I understand the sentiment, it comes across.
I'm happy about the thought that they want to give me something, I have no argument there.
But there aren't that many people who can hit the nail on the head with exactly what I want.
(Among all my ex-boyfriends, there was only one person who gave me a present that made me think, 'Wow! Seriously! You understand me too well!' I will never forget that person. lol)
If that's the case, wouldn't it be better if they just asked me from the start?
Do you think women won't be happy unless it's a surprise?
Are you being misled by women who speak in broad generalizations?
If it's the thought that counts, wouldn't you be happy even if it wasn't a surprise?
Because I'm the type who thinks that way, I want to give the other person something they will truly be happy with, so I end up thinking, 'Please narrow down the range as much as possible...!'
We're both in the same position of wanting to make the other person happy and wanting to convey our feelings, so do you really get that many extra points just because it's a surprise? lol
If you really care about the other person, I want to say loudly, let's stop making them pretend to be happy about things they aren't really happy with!!! lol
By the way, my boyfriend absolutely hates being asked what he wants for a present.
He doesn't ask, and he won't answer even if I ask.
He says that this is about the sentiment, so he's happy with anything he receives.
He is a maximalist, the type who has a lot of everything. He's bad at throwing things away and is a hoarder. (He's the kind of person who just keeps presents from his ex-girlfriends.)
From my perspective, I can't think of anything to give someone who already has tons of watches, glasses, shoes, clothes, accessories, skincare, and home appliances. Because they already have a massive amount of everything.
For people like that, instead of making me think, just tell me what you want...!!!
Even while thinking that, I know they won't tell me, so I keep an eye on his belongings and give him something I think he'll like in my own way.
He was happy with it, so I was glad.
But this suspense is bad for my heart!!! lol