What I realized after being someone who tended to carry everything alone.

I felt that way I could control things, and if I couldn't make a deadline, I could just work myself to the bone. That was my mindset.

I also felt bad asking others for help because I didn't want to be a burden, and I wasn't sure if I'd get what I needed by the deadline. So, I thought, I'll just do it myself. That was my way of thinking.

But there was a 'turning point' where I realized that wasn't working, when suddenly I had so much work that I couldn't keep up. (Well, obviously. Haha.)

At that time, I was doing all the accounting and administrative work myself, so I felt the limits of taking everything on alone, and that's when I learned to 'rely on others.'

In my case, I had no choice but to rely on others because I physically couldn't keep up, but meeting various people also changed my values.

After all, people who are good at their jobs are all good at delegating to others.

They only focus on creating the core pin.

The rest is systematized and delegated to others.

Something like that.
I had absolutely no sense of that at the time, so it was a shock.

People who can delegate to others are people who trust others.

So, did I not trust people? I think I didn't. (Boom)

First of all, because I lacked self-confidence, I felt I didn't have the ability to compensate if something went wrong after delegating it to someone else, and in the first place, I didn't have the capacity to spare, so I couldn't even embrace others. It wasn't that I lacked love... I think I just didn't have the capacity to do that.

I also watched various other people, and seeing people suddenly leave made me afraid of that happening to me. So, I felt that if I did it myself, I wouldn't have to be sad. That kind of feeling.

But fortunately, when things reached a point where I couldn't handle them, although it was scary at first, being able to delegate to others was a stroke of luck for me, and I think I was blessed with a good opportunity. There were times when things didn't go well, though. The responsibility was mine, and as I tried to figure things out, I eventually learned how to make it work.

Therefore, it's not about 'once my capacity expands' or 'once I become able to delegate to others,' but rather, you become able to do those things because you do them. That order is certain; you won't be able to do it unless you do it. People are never fully prepared when they start something. You become able to do anything by doing it.

Originally, I was a person who strongly believed in 'this is how it should be' in both work and my private life, so I created my own boundaries and felt like I was a rigid person.

I was afraid of stepping outside of common sense, and even though I was walking a different path than others, I was like someone who couldn't walk it to the end. Maybe I hadn't fully let go.

But with starting my own business, I let go of that little by little, accepted that version of myself, asked for help with what I couldn't do, and accepted my flaws, which made things much easier.

The catalyst was realizing that I tend to shoulder everything on my own, and understanding that it would be better to meet many people and correct my way of thinking.

That's why there is so much to learn from others, and why realizing things is so important. I'm still halfway there myself, though.

I hope this serves as a helpful reference for you.🫶🏻