A single line to untangle the worries of difficult people in the workplace.
Today was a day for individual support using the sensibility approach.
The client was being driven into a very painful situation due to their interactions with "difficult people" at work.
Work worries, when you get down to it, are really "relationship worries." The more I heard, the more complex it sounded—to the point where I thought, "Well, it's no wonder you're struggling." At the same time, it was also a "common problem" found in every workplace.
The sensibility approach I use is quite simple. In today's session, I just drew a line on the whiteboard.
Good people are the ones who worry the most. Precisely because they are thoughtful and have a sense of responsibility.
That is exactly why I told them this today:
"Let's draw a line through your worries."
It was such a simple thing, yet strangely, their heart began to loosen up.
"That issue belongs to that person." "In essence, you don't have to take it on."
As I said that, their expression began to change little by little.
Of course, it is natural to think, "If they keep doing things like that, what will happen to them?"
However—that result, too, belongs to that person.
When they realized that, something within the client seemed to unravel smoothly.
Finally, we drew an image together of how to be themselves. It is an image of being able to maintain one's own core, no matter how unpleasant the situation.
The trick to the imagery is very simple. Experience it with your five senses and feel it with your heart.
Just by doing that, the way reality looks begins to change.
Today was another "here and now" moment that flew by. It is not about solving the worry, but changing how you "receive" the worry.
It was a time that made me feel once again the power of the sensibility approach.
Rejoicing in the days, Sensibility Lab, Hiroyuki Okada
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