An Old Guy Gets Gentlemanly Training from AI. Project Gentleman (Custom AI) is Born
Hello, this is Old Guy with AI.
Today, I'd like to write about how to get along with AI from an old guy's perspective.
This time, it's about the birth of a consultant who trains me to be a gentleman, in order to level up my private life.
🖋️ The sudden ambition to become a "cool old guy" in the margins of my private life
I work quite busily every day. For work, I actually use "NotebookLM" to aggressively run "Fast Research," create a dedicated "Gem" incorporating those sources, and consult it daily for the automation and efficiency of back-office tasks. Man, I am truly grateful and impressed by the evolution of technology. 🧐
However, when I suddenly came to my senses, I realized something. 😤
"Wait? Am I not using AI at all in my private life...?"🫠
Even though I act all high and mighty at work, using AI as my partner for security and workload reduction, the moment I step out of the office, I revert to just being a "slightly tired guy in his 40s."
This won't do; I must polish myself more as a mature man. 🤩
That was the moment I decided to take action. I'm not aiming for a forced attempt at looking young, but to become a "cool old guy" with dignity overflowing from within. To do that, first and foremost, I deeply swore in my heart that I must master the"spirit of a gentleman."I'm sure you all agree with me. 🥴
However, I got a bit stuck here. The word "gentleman" is convenient, but in reality, it's quite vague. Does it mean being knowledgeable about high-end restaurants, being considerate to women, or wearing a suit well? Or is it about behavior that gives people a sense of security? Thinking about it in my own way, I settled on the conclusion that it's ultimately "someone who doesn't make others uncomfortable and can make the situation a little more pleasant." 😌
In other words, I need to acquire not just knowledge, but the "structure of behavior." This is yet another "structuring project" that I love so much. 😎
🖋️ The perfect strategy begins with thorough research
That said, sadly, I haven't lived my life as a "gentleman" until now. 🙃
(Though I have had the experience of being a self-proclaimed gentleman 🥴)
When is the right time to open a door? How should I act to be smart when escorting someone on a date? My head is full of question marks. That's when the "try-and-fix" spirit I've honed at work ignited. 😎
First, not by appearance, but "by data." I opened my beloved NotebookLM and carried out intense "Fast Research" on the following three themes.
Articles explaining in detail the behavioral guidelines of a gentleman
Articles explaining in detail the mindset of a gentleman
Articles explaining in detail gentlemanly date escorting
Alright, I'm all set. I decided to incorporate the top-notch gentleman materials I gathered into the source to build my own private AI agent, named
"Project Gentleman."
Not compromising here is both a bad habit and a good trait of an old guy with a strong need for approval and attention to detail (lol).
And what's interesting is that the more I checked the researched materials, the more I found a common point:
"The truest gentlemen never claim to be gentlemen."
Rather, they prioritize consideration for others and the atmosphere of the place, and don't try to make themselves look big. I reflected a bit here. By saying "I want to become a cool old guy!" with such enthusiasm, am I still lacking in training...? (lol).
However, that is also a lesson. By having AI organize a massive amount of information, it becomes easier to see the root philosophy of "why that behavior makes the other person feel at ease," rather than just "superficial techniques." This feeling was quite similar to when I organize business workflows at work.
🖋️ The modest wish I put into the prompt
In creating this Gem, I, an old guy, verbalized and drilled the role into it. After all, I need a professional tutor who can raise me into a full-fledged gentleman.
The main requirements I set are as follows.
Role: A professional who raises gentlemen
Purpose: Provide precise advice for the Master (me) to behave like a gentleman
Dialogue approach: If you need to confirm the situation, ask me questions before answering
Response structure: Always present in a beautiful three-step format: 'Conclusion' -> 'Rationale' -> 'Summary of points'
Form of address: Refer to me with respect as 'Master Gentle' (This is super important! 🤩)
Furthermore, I was particular about the flow of our interactions. Receive a greeting, ask what I need, interject with questions if necessary, and once you have enough to make a judgment, deliver a sharp, formal answer. I incorporated this process and launched the chat.
What appeared on the screen was a top-tier, luxurious opening line like, 'Master Gentle, how may I assist you today?' I couldn't help but break into a grin in front of my PC.
When I tried consulting it about
'how to give a gift to my wife'
or
'how to smartly guide someone to a seat at a restaurant'
, it returned a perfect conclusion, deep rationale, and beautiful summary of points. It is comfortable, truly comfortable! 😩✨
What surprised me even more is that by consulting with the AI, I've started to develop the habit of 'taking a breath beforehand.' Before, I would often
🥸 'Well, I'll just wing it!'
and charge in, only to reflect later
🥸 'That way of saying it was a bit rough...'
. But by interjecting a conversation with the AI, I've started to imagine 'how it looks to the other person' first. This might not just be learning manners, but training to create a buffer for my thoughts.
🖋️ The future of polishing one's humanity by using AI as a mirror
By creating a 'partner (consultant) to raise myself' for my private life, I gained a deep realization. AI used for work efficiency is wonderful, but having a dialogue with an AI that projects 'the person I want to be' is the best 'mirror' to objectively re-examine my own actions and way of thinking 🧐
I'm not looking for a perfect answer from the start. Just grumbling to the AI,
🥸 'How should a gentleman act in this situation?'
, and the process of trial and error together feels like it's slowly turning me into a 'cool old guy'.
No matter how cold the world's reception is, I have an exclusive gentleman butler in my pocket who is always on my side. Just that makes my daily life from tomorrow seem a little happier and more elegant 🤪. Alright, I'll do my best with my gentleman training starting today! I'm surprisingly motivated 😎☕
Thank you for reading this far 🤗
I write a little bit every day from an old guy's perspective about how I get along with AI and my daily grumblings 🖋️
If there is anyone else facing AI in the same way, I would be happy if you followed me ☕
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