Thinking about parenting through the words of Kirin Kiki: Parenting can be 'well done' at any time depending on yourself

When raising children,
there are many moments when you stop and wonder, 'Is this okay?'

To us in those moments, the words of Kirin Kiki speak softly.
That it can be 'well done' at any time depending on yourself.

Today, I would like to focus on Kirin Kiki's 'way of thinking' that lightens the hearts of the parenting generation.

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'Live your life thinking it is well done.' 'I think my own life is well done.'

Recently, many people share their sparkling daily lives on social media.
There is nothing wrong with that in itself.

But how you perceive it is important.
'I want to sparkle too'
If you start thinking that way, a 'scarcity mindset' begins to grow.

Everyone's happiness is different.
If you can think of your daily life as 'well done,' that is not bad at all.

Instead of waiting to be evaluated by someone else,
acknowledge yourself.

Isn't parenting the same?

Even if you are not praised by someone,
even if you don't compare yourself on social media,

being able to tell yourself, 'I did a good job today.'

I think that becomes the most important foundation.

It doesn't have to be perfect.
It doesn't have to be exactly as you imagined.

If you sent your children off today, made meals,
and finished the day, that alone is 'well done.'

'It is natural for life not to go as you expect.'

Nothing goes as expected quite like parenting.

They don't move as you tell them to.
Things don't go according to plan.

Especially those of you raising small children
will understand this deeply.

In my own experience raising three children,
no matter how perfect a plan I made,
it would become powerless in front of my unique children.

However, the moment you can think, 'It's natural for things not to go well,'
your heart will feel much lighter.

Things not going as planned is not a failure.

Rather,

'That's fine too!'

If you have the composure to feel that way,
doesn't it seem like you could enjoy parenting a little more?

'Even if you think everyone around you is unpleasant, people at the same level as you will naturally gravitate toward you.'

'You are the average of your five friends.'
This is a common saying, and Kirin Kiki seems to agree.

When you are troubled by your environment or human relationships,
you tend to want to change the outside.

But what you really need to adjust
'your own way of being'
might be it.

It might be a little difficult to teach this to a small child.
In our home, we keep it simple:

・Say 'thank you' and 'I'm sorry' immediately
・Praise many people and make them happy

We make these our rules.
There are no bad people among those who can do this naturally.
That is what I believe.

That is precisely why I praise my children
a lot.
Instead of trying to make them do what they can't,
I accept what they can't do as it is,
and praise them a lot for what they can do.

By doing so,
children gain confidence
and develop a mindset to challenge anything.

'You might think a flower will wither if it gets too much sun, but there are also flowers that bloom beautifully because they are in the shade.'

Children always have both strengths and weaknesses.
Parenting while focusing on weaknesses
promotes a scarcity mindset.

Many people fall into a scarcity mindset,
and while wanting what they don't have,
they lose sight of 'their own way of being'.

Focusing on what you have now
and loving it
is
the 'abundance mindset' for happiness.

These words from Kirin Kiki
give us that realization.

You don't have to compare.
They just need to bloom properly in their own place.

Parenting is not something to aim for success in, but
a process of living through each day.

Including the days that don't go well,
if you can have the heart to say, 'That's fine too!'

surely our lives, and our parenting,
are already 'well done' enough, aren't they?