Things I can say 'it can't be helped' about

My son has a combined type of ASD and ADHD.

What I think is ASD-like is:
1. He can't stop an action unless he is convinced.
→ It takes time for him to switch tasks.

2. He throws a tantrum if something he expected to be able to do becomes impossible.
→ He is weak with changes to plans. (He lacks flexibility.)

3. He says exactly what he thinks.
For example, to a friend who was transferring schools:
He said, 'Don't cry! Because another friend will come anyway.' (An episode from when he was in the lower grade of kindergarten.)
*I wonder if this is also impulsivity?

4. He is sensitive to smells and pain.
He is especially bad with cheese and artificial smells.

Today, I will talk about this point 2.

Today is the release date of the Pokémon Happy Meal.
Apparently, on weekends, you get not just a toy, but two Pokémon cards.
I mistakenly told him, 'They say they'll give us the Pokémon cards today,' but when we actually bought it, there were no cards...!!

If it were my son from before,
I think he would have cried loudly or kicked, saying,
'Why aren't they there?! No, no, no!!'

But today he said,

'Oh man... 😢
But maybe they sold out?Because McDonald's was super crowded.'

He was able to let it go smoothly, and it was cool. ✨

Recently, there are more things he can let go of with an 'it can't be helped' attitude,
even things he couldn't give up on before.

His condition is still everything, so
if he's sleepy or hungry, he'll still make a huge fuss like a two-year-old,
but the fact that he's able to calm down a little, just a little bit more, is a sign of hope.

Even when he has a tantrum, the time it takes for him to calm down has become shorter!

When he succeeds, praise him immediately.
Even if it's not a 100-point action,
it's effective to praise him using the '15% rule' (praising him for 15% effort).

If I immediately say things like, 'You calmed yourself down' or 'You were able to go back to being kind [Name] right away,' he also looks satisfied.

Everyone is happy to be praised.

Even though he was so attracted to Pokémon that he went to McDonald's,
in the end, my son was obsessed with Survival (books) instead (lol).