Introduction to Being a Princess for 5-Year-Olds (5) | Chapter 4: The First Meeting, The Day Of

It is morning.

I would like to call it the day of destiny, but for you, at five years old, it is just another morning.

Pancakes are served as usual.
The little birds are screaming as usual (see Chapter 2).
Strawberries are on top, as usual.

The only difference is that you cannot choose your dress.

The color of the dress.

Now, I will finally talk about the color of the dress here.

As a five-year-old reading this book, you are surely thinking this:

"I want to wear a pink dress."

Rejected.

Your opinion as a five-year-old, for this day only, will not be adopted at all.

Why?

Because the attire for the first meeting of a political marriage is not for you, but for the country.

• Pink → A message from a country that wants to say, "We are approachable."

• White → A message from a country that wants to show, "We are pure and honest."

• Blue → A message from a country that wants to give the impression, "We are composed."

• Red → A message from a country that wants to declare, "We are going in with a bit of strength."

• Black → A message from a country that wants you to realize, "We are already finished (in mourning)."

In other words, the color of the dress is the country's diplomatic policy.

It does not matter what color you, at five years old, like.

If you can accept that while you are five, things will be easier later on.

(By the way, to you, the 32-year-old reading this book.

When you become an adult, similar things happen at weddings, job interviews, and presentations.

There will always come a moment when "the clothes you want to wear" and "the clothes the occasion requires" are two different things.

At that time, worrying about "not being yourself" is a waste of time.

While wearing the outfit the occasion requires, be yourself on the inside.
This is an adult princess.

If you practice while you are 5, you won't have to cry when you are 32.)

The first words.

Now, you are dressed in a gown, your hair is styled, you are put in shoes, placed in a carriage, and taken to the reception room of an enemy country (it's a metaphor, probably).

On the other side, a 6-year-old boy is going through a similar ordeal.

He might have just been forced to eat green peppers, too.

Both of you are victims.

Here, the adults will say:

"Now, go ahead and say hello."

......

It is the biggest "now" of your life.

Here are the candidates for the first words a 5-year-old princess should choose.

I will list the candidates.

Candidate 1: "Nice to meet you" A safe bet. By the book.
But nothing starts.

Option 2: "It is a pleasure to meet you." Perfect honorifics.
However, it's obvious you're just reading a script written by an adult, and you'll be found out.

Option 3: "..." Stay silent. This is surprisingly powerful.
However, when a 5-year-old does it, they just look like a nervous child.

Option 4: "Do you hate green peppers?" This is the correct answer.

...Huh? You thought that, didn't you?

It is the correct answer.

Green peppers are information you gathered in Chapter 2.
"My fiancé cannot eat green peppers.".

If you drop this information in the very first sentence of your first meeting, what happens?

The other person will be surprised.

"How does this child know that?"

At this moment, the other person's mental simulation stops for a split second.

The moment it stops,
the other person recognizes you as 'a being who possesses information'.

In other words, they realize, 'This is no ordinary 5-year-old.'

First impression, complete.

However, there is one point to note.

Say it with a big smile.

If you say "Do you hate green peppers?" with a straight face, it becomes a threat.

Say it with a smile, like an angel, with an innocent face, and tilting your head slightly.

"Do you hate green peppers?"

The other person will be confused.

They have a 5-year-old in front of them who holds information but has the face of an angel.

Even for adults, there is no way to deal with this.

The true meaning of "silently smiling"

Now, what happens after the other person is confused.

This is where the real work begins.

The other person will try to say something.

"Um, well, why..." "I, green peppers, um..."

At this point, you, as a 5-year-old, do nothing.

Silently, you smile.

This is the true meaning of "silently smiling".

It is often misunderstood, so I will write it clearly.

"Silently smiling" does not mean being quiet and demure.

It means waiting for the other person to start talking on their own.

Humans cannot endure silence.

Especially a 6-year-old prince, who will definitely start talking.

Once they start talking, that is information.

You can cross-reference it with the information you gathered in Chapter 2.

• Heard he has 3 dogs, but he says "2" → Did one die recently?

• Heard he is bad at horseback riding, but he says "I'm okay at it" → He has high pride

• Heard he hates green peppers, but he says "I can eat them now" → He is a child who likes to show off

It is all information.

In other words, "smiling silently" is

a technique to make the other person introduce themselves on their own

.

As a 5-year-old, you are just smiling.
The other person will talk about themselves on their own.

Zero pressure. Maximum information.

This is the basic strategy of a princess.

(By the way, for you, the 41-year-old who just got promoted to department manager reading this book,

you can use the same thing in your 1-on-1s with subordinates.

When you stay silent, your subordinates will talk on their own.

What they say is their true feelings.

A 41-year-old can learn from a 5-year-old. Seriously.)

In closing, just one thing.

At the end of Chapter 4, I will write down something important.

You don't need to do everything perfectly at your first meeting.

• The dress didn't suit you → OK

• Stumbled on your first words → OK

• Tried to smile and your face twitched → OK

Because there will be dozens more first meetings.

You will be seeing the person chosen for your political marriage for the next several decades.

It is a long game.

Aiming for perfection on the first day, becoming completely tense, and failing to observe the other person is a loss.

Therefore, on the first day, 70% is enough.

The remaining 30% is a margin to let the other person lower their guard, thinking, 'That girl has a bit of a gap, she's cute.'

At 5 years old, intentionally creating a gap.

Yes, it is advanced.

But, a princess starts at 5 years old.

Now, in the next chapter, we finally move on to the 'Daily Life' section.

After the first meeting is over and the engagement is officially decided, you will go to live in the other person's country.

We will look at things like the luggage you will take, how to conduct yourself locally, and how to dodge your chaperones.

We will look at these things.

That is all for today.

Did you eat your strawberries properly?

Oh, you had green peppers today?

......That is a problem.

But, it is okay.

A princess practices eating vegetables she dislikes with a smile.

Why?

Because in the future, a day will absolutely come when you have to eat some mysterious dish from your fiancé's country with a smile.

Green peppers are a rehearsal for that.

…When you think of it that way, don't green peppers become just a little bit easier to eat?

They don't?

I see.

Well then, let's meet in the next chapter.