“I’ll find a boyfriend soon anyway”: The one thing I, at 43, completely overlooked
Every time I looked in the mirror, my confidence dwindled just a little bit.
When I broke up with my last boyfriend at 43,
I genuinely thought this.
“Well, I’ll find someone else soon enough.”
I was popular in my 30s, and
I was also supporting women’s love lives as a dating consultant.
So, I had this baseless confidence that I’d be fine.
But—
It didn’t happen.
It wasn’t that I had my heart broken.
It wasn’t that I was being left on read, either.
To begin with, I wasn’t even actively looking for love.
It’s just that,
my romantic antenna was down.
“There are no attractive men out there.”
That’s what I was thinking.
(How condescending of me.)
I understand it now.
When I’m thinking like that,
there’s no way I’d be chosen.
And yet, I...
I want someone handsome.
I want someone younger.
I want a business owner.
For some reason, my standards were just that high.
What I was truly afraid of wasn't romance.
What was really tough wasn't romance, but my “body”.
Unexplained rashes broke out all over my body,
I reluctantly went to the hospital,
and the medical expenses were more than I expected.
And then, my period stopped.
To make matters worse, I had pain in my fingers.
I learned later that it was “trigger finger”.
If I stay alone like this, what will happen to me?
I felt anxious.
Back then,
it wasn't that my love life had stopped,
I had lost my sense of security about the future.
The reason I felt I had lost my charm was also,
probably because I had lost the “space in my body and mind.”
The real reason I was able to get married at 49
I didn’t polish my dating techniques.
In fact, it was the opposite.
How to win in the dating market,
how to be chosen,
how to meet the criteria.
I stopped looking at those “external” things.
What I stopped doing was,
Directing my judgment outward by saying, “There are no attractive people.”
Listing conditions based on strange pride.
Blaming my environment for not being chosen.
And,
Putting my own heart and body on the back burner.
I developed a rash,
I started worrying about medical expenses,
and my hands began to ache from menopause.
“If I stay alone like this, what will happen to me?”
That was the turning point.
Instead of trying hard at romance,
I started focusing on getting my life in order.
Tending to my heart.
Tending to my body.
Tending to the state of my connections.
Then, strangely enough,
in a world where I thought there was “no one”,
there were actually people there all along
My current husband
doesn't meet a single one of the criteria I used to set (lol).
He isn't younger,
he isn't a business owner,
and he isn't a handsome guy.
But,
It's a cliché, but
someone I can feel at ease with
someone who makes me laugh so much.
(This is important)
I, who am aligned,
chose an aligned connection.
That is all.
If my words resonate with you even a little right now,
if you feel like you're
working hard at love, work, and abundance,
but for some reason, you're 'not being chosen'.
The problem isn't a lack of effort,
it might just be that you aren't aligned.
Knowledge alone won't change things.
For those who remember the feeling of being 'aligned' in their bodies,
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P.S.
I got married at 49.
However, I didn't aim for marriage right away.
The first thing I did was,
The act of "tuning."
Life
begins to move with small adjustments.