About Psychogenic Urinary Frequency

(Reposting this from some time ago.)

Good evening. I don't expect to be of help to anyone, but I would be very happy if you found this post and it resonated with you in some way.

Do you know about psychogenic urinary frequency?
As someone who has experienced it, it is a very painful illness (?).

Psychogenic urinary frequency is an illness (?) where symptoms of needing to use the restroom occur in places without one or in situations where you cannot go. Examples of where these symptoms occur include parks, mountains, buses, trains, being stuck in traffic, or during important meetings. When I am at home where I can go to the restroom at any time, I don't feel the need to go often.


I think the trigger for this illness (?) is often trauma from an experience where I almost had an accident in a situation where it was difficult to go to the restroom. That was the case for me as well.

The most painful part for me was the embarrassment of going to the restroom so many times and the limitations on my actions.


During breaks between classes in my student days, I went to the restroom every single time. Because of that, I avoided talking to friends. Since there was no one around me who went to the restroom every time, I think I must have looked like quite an odd person. I couldn't tell my friends about this illness (?), so I was just seen as someone with a weak bladder. Even though I was nervous during school classes, school events were hell. Entrance ceremonies, graduation ceremonies, school trips, and many other things—they were truly painful days.

I thought countless times about how much I could do if I didn't have psychogenic urinary frequency. I still think about it sometimes even now.

To avoid going to the restroom as much as possible, I lived my life without drinking any fluids from the morning until the graduation ceremony. I'm surprised I didn't get heatstroke.

Being asked, "Are you going to the restroom again?" was the most stressful thing. I have lied many times to avoid hearing those words. I have lied and said, "I got a phone call," just to go to the restroom.

A friend once said to me, "If you have to go to the restroom so often, what will you do when you're an old lady? You'll be in diapers." It's painful, isn't it? It feels like wearing diapers is a sign of defeat. I felt a bit disappointed, thinking, "They don't understand this pain, so why would they say that..."


I thought it was so painful that I wanted to quit life just because I had this illness (?). It seems like it's easier for small children to get it, but if you develop it after you've become conscious of your surroundings, life truly becomes hard mode. I feel like it's hard to cure...



After living with it for 6 or 7 years, I've gotten used to it, or perhaps I've come to terms with it... I feel like the number of times I worry about the restroom has decreased, little by little.
Maybe it's because I publicly declared in a certain place that I have a frequent need to use the restroom.

Lastly...
I once consulted a psychiatrist, and the words they said to me have stayed in my heart. They said, "The fact that you can't tell your friends you're going to the restroom means you are kind." It's true; I think it's hard to go to the restroom because I don't want to inconvenience others. That's why I think many people who develop and worsen psychogenic urinary frequency are kind people. You are kind!! Please have confidence!! Take it easier!!

Relaxing your shoulders is probably just right.

Well then 👋