I cried even though it wasn't me. That person's difficult life
Have you ever felt unsettled by the "hardship" of someone whose name you don't even know?
"This person's life looks tough. But for some reason, I couldn't look away."
Have you ever had an experience like that?
It might be a close-up documentary on TV, or
it might be an anonymous account on X (formerly Twitter).
It might be a single article on note.
Even though it's the suffering of someone unrelated to you,
your chest feels tight as you read it.
You find yourself thinking, "For some reason, I feel like I understand."
In this article, while unraveling the true nature of that "why do I feel empathy?" emotion
from a psychological perspective,
I will write about "real life" where empathy and living emotions intersect.
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What is the reason why empathy gathers for a "difficult life"?
First of all, why are we attracted to a "difficult life" in the first place?
The answer is simple.
"Because we ourselves have 'similar wounds'."
The night you sighed looking at your household account book
The day you ate a frozen convenience store meal alone
The time you felt your heart palpitate when the electricity bill was in the mailbox
Because difficult episodes are "daily occurrences that could happen to anyone,"
you cannot completely treat them as "someone else's business."
Especially on social media and note,
unadorned words, details of life, and raw emotions are often written just as they are.
That is precisely why it pierces the reader's heart.
And that is why, unexpectedly, tears may fall.
“The anxiety this person is carrying is the same as what I felt back then.”
That emotion is the true nature of empathy.
Perhaps humans are creatures drawn to 'weakness'.
On social media, stories of failure go viral more often than stories of success.
More than a sparkling daily life, it's today's mud-stained meal.
Why is that?
The answer is, because weakness brings people closer together.
We are more drawn to clumsy people than to perfect ones.
For example, posts like these.
“I just had a banana for lunch.”
“I came home from work, passed out from exhaustion, and couldn't check my child's homework.”
“I thought I couldn't rely on anyone, but I actually wanted to lean on someone.”
These kinds of 'life failures' don't feel like someone else's business.
It's because there is a shared 'scar' within the reader that they react to it.
It makes you want to say, “You're doing your best” or “I understand.”
Empathy is not information or pity; it might be
something closer to a 'vibration of the heart'.
A difficult life that you still want to talk to someone about
A difficult life is usually the kind of content that people think is 'too heavy' if you talk about it.
But in reality,
“I want someone to notice me,” “I want someone to be with me.”
That kind of feeling is there.
For example, a daily life like this.
Searching for eggs even one yen cheaper at the supermarket, and suddenly feeling empty.
Having no money and enduring not going to the hospital.
Having told my child "maybe next time" over and over again.
Things like this cannot be talked about in public.
But, on note or social media, you can let them spill out.
We properly pick up those "spilled words."
Because,
we also wanted to try spilling them out.
Empathy is kindness born from "sharing weakness."
Among the readers of this article, there may be people who feel "my own life is difficult" or "I am anxious about the future."
What I want to tell you is,
"You are not alone." And, "It is okay to voice it."
You, who can empathize with someone else's difficult life, will surely be able to be kind to yourself as well.
It is okay to say "it is difficult." It is okay to say "it is painful."
Just by having that understood, you are saved a little bit.
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The fact that you "can empathize" is already a strength.
One last thing.
When your heart is moved by someone else's "pain."
In that moment, you have become someone's ally.
The power to empathize with someone's vulnerability is the driving force for creating a society that eases the
struggles of living.
So, if your heart felt stirred somewhere today,
please do not deny that feeling.
That is your kindness.
And even when you yourself are struggling,
please, turn that kindness toward yourself as well.
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(This article was created based on "AI." Please note that it may contain errors or inaccurate information.)
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