To you who struggle with self-esteem. Things I want you to remember

"It's better to have self-esteem."

"First, you have to learn to like yourself."

Don't you sometimes feel a little suffocated by words like those?

I am sure that right now, you are
just trying your bestto face yourself,
trying to overcome something,and living your life with all your might.

From my perspective,
that aloneis wonderful because you are trying to improve yourself.

But,
when you are in such pain,"Start by affirming yourself"
even if you are told that... somewhere,it feels like you are being quietly told,
"You are not enough as you are now."

And yet,
you end up blaming yourself again, thinking, "I feel this way because my self-esteem is low."

Feeling like that,
going around in circles,is by no means because you are weak,
but rather it is a very human way of thinkingas you try to move forward
by handling things on your own.

In Adlerian psychology, there is a concept called
"community feeling."

It is,

"I am accepted because I am superior to others," or

"I like myself because I can do something. If I can't, it's no good."

It is not that, but rather something at the very root:

It is the feeling of being able to sense that.

In the first place,
you don't actually have to force yourself to affirm who you are...

It is perfectly fine to set the word "self-esteem" aside for a moment.

There is just one thing
that would be good to realize. And that is ▼

that just by living,
you are an irreplaceable member of the community.

When you are in the presence of such a perspective,
your heart may begin to loosen up little by little.

It is about an environment that does not deny the other person,
where you do not deny others, and others do not deny you.
It is a place where you can feel at ease.

It is not something that
boosts your self-esteem in an instant like a sauna, but rather it takes effect gradually.
Sorry for the sauna comparison. It is just an example... It might be like a small light bulb turning on in your heart.

But you know, once it lights up a little,
it will start to shine brightly in the blink of an eye,
and I think you will be surprised at how quickly it happened.

For example, even on note...

Someone feeling "I understand" when reading an article you wrote on a painful night.

You, having the courage to post on note,

are encouraging someone you have yet to meet.

That, too, is a sprout of a sense of community.

So, please do not rush.

You do not need to blame yourself for "lacking self-esteem" anymore.

It is okay to stop blaming yourself. There is courage that comes naturally, even without thinking about it.

By simply being
who you are,

you are building this world together with us.

Please do not forget that.

Please do not forget that.

Thank you for being here today.

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