【Making Interactions Easier】Take a Deep Breath Before Getting Angry! The Real Reason Why Children Are Restless
To you, who sighs on the way home thinking, 'I got angry again...'
You warn your child about the same thing over and over, and before you know it, your voice has become harsh.
From that moment on, your chest feels heavy, and on the way home, you feel self-loathing, thinking, 'I did it again...'
——Don't you have days like that?
I was one of those people too.
Even after gaining experience as a childcare worker, I couldn't escape the 'frustration → regret' loop.
The trigger was a word from a parent
One day, there was a child who seemed restless from the morning.
No matter how many times I spoke to them, they would pester other children, leading to trouble.
I ended up scolding them in a harsh tone.
On their way home, the child's parent told me this:
“It seems they couldn't sleep well last night, and even this morning, they started standing up and playing in the middle of getting dressed or eating breakfast...”
At that moment, I was startled.
They had already exhausted their energy before even arriving at the nursery, and had almost no time to settle down.
It wasn't that they 'lacked motivation,' but rather
they weren't in a state where their body and mind could rest——When I realized that, something in my chest loosened.
Since then, the number of times I get angry unnecessarily has decreased, and my relationship with the children has become much easier.
One other thing I realized
It was a 'lack of communication with parents.'
After all, parents know their child's situation at home best.
Since then, I have started asking even about trivial things,
“How were they doing today?”
A conversation of just a few dozen seconds can greatly change how you interact with them that day.
3 backgrounds for why children are restless
The body wants to move
They have been sitting for a long time and have excess energy.An environment where they cannot feel at ease
There are elements that are stressful for the child, such as line of sight, sound, or light.The task is too difficult/too easy
They cannot find interest and cannot maintain concentration.
When you change your perspective, your actions change too
Triggered by this experience, I began to be conscious of
environmental adjustments and securing time for physical activity before 'warning' them.
Reduce visual stimuli
Remove some posters and colorful toys to create a space where they can focus.Incorporate short exercise breaks
Add light exercise like jumping or stretching between activities.
A few minutes of effort can be a major catalyst for helping a child calm down.
A step you can take starting today
Take a deep breath before getting angry, and
try to explore, "What is the background behind this behavior?"
Conclusion: Small changes make relationships easier
Just by changing your perspective a little, your relationship with your child will become much easier.
If there is anyone else struggling with the same thing, please give this a try.
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