To You Who Keep Trying: How to Reclaim Your 'Inner Safe Base'
Hello, this is Kumasuke from the Institute for Living Your True Self.
The topic for this time is
Self-Compassion as an 'Inner Safe Base': Reasons and Practical Methods for Enhancing Sustainability in How You Work
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No matter how hard you try, there are days when your heart just can't keep up.
The more you blame yourself for failures, the more you lose your inner space.
However, the 'power to be kind to yourself' can become the strength to stand up once again.
I want you to listen to this if you feel this way.
You blame yourself and find it hard to look forward
You work hard but feel unfulfilled and on the verge of burnout
You have lost your peace of mind due to work stress
Ultimately, it comes down to this.
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Being kind to yourself is not self-indulgence, but a 'power of regeneration'.
Self-compassion cultivates emotional endurance.
Self-Compassion as an 'Inner Safe Base'
Reasons and Practical Methods for Enhancing Sustainability in How You Work
Humans are creatures who find it easier to blame themselves than anyone else.
With just a single failure, you plant a small thorn deep in your heart.
'It's not enough yet,' 'Try harder,' you keep whipping yourself.
However, you cannot run for long like that.
Because your heart will wear down, and eventually, you will come to a standstill.
What you need at times like that is
'self-compassion'—kindness toward yourself.
The more you blame yourself, the faster you burn out
The more hardworking you are, the more prone you are to burnout.
That is neither irony nor a sign of weakness.
The more you try to achieve something, the more you refuse to forgive yourself for failing, and you keep blaming yourself.
But when that harshness exceeds its limit,
your emotional energy quietly withers away.
In the moments you feel 'I can't try anymore,' you have often lost your kindness toward yourself.
The 'Inner Safe Base' that self-compassion provides
Self-compassion is 'directing the same kindness toward yourself that you show to others'.
When you fail, when you feel down,
don't blame yourself as you are, but quietly accept it.
"Everyone makes mistakes."
"It's okay as it is for now."
By saying these things, you create a warm place within your heart.
This is not escapism.
Rather, it is a "safe base" from which to stand up once again.
By being compassionate to yourself, your heart regains its calm,
and you recover the strength to face reality with a clear head.
Small habits to build an "inner safe base"
Self-compassion is not an innate personality trait, but
a skill that anyone can cultivate through practice.
Self-Compassion Break
In moments of suffering, whisper this to yourself in your heart.
"This is something that happens to everyone," "Let me be kind to myself right now."Soothing Touch
Place your hand on your chest or stomach and take a deep breath.
Just by feeling yourself in the "here and now," your heart will soften.Write a Letter to Yourself
Write a letter to your current self as if you were speaking to a friend.
By putting it into words, your emotional pain is organized,
and the fog of self-denial gradually clears.Loving-Kindness Meditation
Quietly close your eyes and chant.
"May I be safe," "May I be happy."
These short words light a soft flame in your heart.
Kindness is not self-indulgence
Some may think, "Being kind to myself is just being soft."
However, kindness is not weakness, but the "wisdom of recovery."
Rather than continuing to blame yourself,
you will recover faster if you accept yourself with kindness.
Self-compassion is also the mental muscle needed to work
for a long time and in a fulfilling way.
Precisely because we live in an era of rapid change,
let us cultivate a "safe base" within ourselves.
From there, you can start walking again.
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I am Kumasuke from the Institute for Living Your True Self.
For people who are "Shark Types"—those who don't know their true feelings or what they want to do—
I pursue a way of life that removes the lid from the heart
so they can realize their own irrepressible curiosity.
I am shaping a "life lived with your true self."
I have experienced the struggle of being caught between my current self and the 'teachings of others' that pull me and my family away from living a life true to our hearts.
Because of that experience, I consider living a life that cherishes the thoughts that well up from one's true self to be the ideal.