Don't let yourself be trapped by events that haven't even happened

Introduction

Good morning.
This is Mugi.

Have you ever stopped yourself from doing something because you thought,
"What if I'm told this?" or "What if I fail?"

Have you ever given up on an action because of such imaginings?

Today, I'd like to write about my thoughts on limiting your own ideas
due to these kinds of 'what-if' scenarios.

90% of worries never happen

When you try to take action,
you might find yourself hesitating because only negative thoughts come to mind.

I can't say I never do that, but I think it happens less than before.

I believe this is because my way of thinking changed a little after encountering a certain book.

"90% of worries never happen"
I don't remember exactly when I read this book, but I remember being greatly impacted by the title alone.

This book is available in an affordable paperback edition, and
it seems you can even read it for free on Kindle Unlimited now!

I think those who resonate with my posts
will find many elements to relate to if they read it ☺️

Looking back at the table of contents,
I realized there are many parts that connect to the content I share here,
so I'm planning to read it again.
This time, rather than touching on the detailed content of the book,
I will focus on the point of
"fear of failure."

With the ability to easily share your thoughts on social media, including this Note,
while it is convenient for people who weren't originally famous to reach many people with their ideas,
it is not uncommon to see news about people being attacked by a certain number of trolls or haters,
and in the worst cases, even losing their lives.

I have various thoughts about people who attack others on the internet, so I've been preparing a separate article about it for a while and will probably publish it eventually.

At the very least, because of these negative facts,
many people might be afraid to share their thoughts because they are scared of becoming a target.

That is where I want to keep in mind the way of thinking I introduced this time.

I can't say there's zero possibility of me becoming a target of an online firestorm.
But the question is, what percentage of people actually get caught in one?

In the first place, you need a spark to start a firestorm.
And that spark needs to be fanned by many people to flare up.

If that's the case, I don't think it's very likely that a small spark, which is barely noticed by anyone yet,
will suddenly flare up into a huge fire.

In reality, people who tend to get into firestorms usually have a large influence to begin with.
I get the impression that someone like Horiemon often becomes that spark,
but he always dodges it brilliantly, which is refreshing to watch.

When a voice is loud, many people feel uncomfortable with that opinion.
That's really all there is to it.

So, in most cases, no matter what an ordinary person like me says,
it's unlikely to cause a backlash.

When I think about it that way, I feel like the time I spent hesitating to post was a waste.

However, my stance is that
it's natural for other people's opinions to differ from my own.
I just think, 'I see, so that's one way of looking at it.'
And if I judge that the intent is clearly to attack rather than to express an opinion,
I consider it a matter of taking appropriate measures.
If you attack others,
you can't complain if you have the blade turned on you, right?

Everyone is afraid of failure.

Even so, if I can help it, I don't want to fail.

I understand that well.
There aren't many weirdos who would choose to fail if they could help it.

As a mindset for such times,
I believe the content of this article I posted previously can be useful.

If you don't do it, nothing remains, but if you do something, 'experience remains'

What lies ahead of an action is either 'the result you expected' or 'a result different from what you expected'

These are the two ideas I value.

I've been posting on this Note for a little over two months now,
and while some things have been very well received,
there are others that didn't get the reaction I expected.

But I don't view that as a failure,
but rather just

'something different from what I thought'.

And then, it becomes an opportunity to think,
'Why did this result happen?'
and by turning it over in my mind,
I eventually

come to think of it as 'fun'.So, without being afraid of failures or backlash that haven't even happened yet,
I honestly follow the feeling of wanting to do something.

I think being honest with myself in that way is what leads to protecting myself the most.

Conclusion

Regarding this content, I never thought I'd reach a conclusion similar to my previous post...
In a sense, this also became a
'different result'from my initial plan, but
as a result, I decided to use this because I felt it was more fitting as a message.
In the first place, I even think that it's rare for things to actually turn out exactly as you expect.

So, I objectively accept the results that emerge,
and find it interesting to wonder why it happened.

When I do this, there's nothing but fun.

I'd like to continue challenging myself with various things as they come to mind ☺️

Thank you for reading to the end this time as well.
See you in the next article.