How to make 'consistency' easier to think about
Introduction
Good morning.
I'm Mugi.
Is there anything you are working on consistently?
While consistency is perfect for boosting self-esteem when you can keep it up, on the other hand, it can also lead to tremendous guilt when something causes that consistency to break.
it can also lead to tremendous guilt when something causes that consistency to break.
it can also lead to tremendous guilt when something causes that consistency to break.
In fact, I used to be the type to get extremely depressed in such situations, but thanks to finding a certain way of thinking, my perspective on 'consistency' changed, and I've become able to face it more easily than before.
So today, I'd like to write about the way of thinking that changed my values regarding consistency.
Whether you are currently challenging yourself with something or are thinking about wanting to challenge yourself with something in the future, this way of thinking might be a hint for you.
Make the hurdle for 'consistency' flexible
When setting a goal, I have the impression that many people set goals using specific numbers such as time or frequency, like:
'Study for XX hours a day!'
'Do XX squats a day!'
I used to set goals in that way as well.
I used to set goals in that way as well.
I used to set goals in that way as well.
Of course, if you have a goal where a time limit is approaching, such as 'there is a qualification I must get by a certain date' or 'I cannot graduate unless I pass the next exam,' you have no choice but to do so.
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However, this is not about those kinds of things, but rather my thoughts on goals you set for yourself.
Of course, it's not impossible to maintain consistency even with a method like 'deciding on frequency or time.'
After all, at the goal-setting stage, you decide after gauging to some extent the line that you feel you could keep up.
However, when you do it this way, you can sometimes be tormented by the hurdles you set for yourself.
For example, you might be hit by an unexpected trouble at work and be unable to secure any time at all.
Or, you might get sick and be unable to handle the usual amount.
When you encounter something irregular like that, the hurdle that you thought you had set with room to spare can suddenly become very high.
If it's temporary, you might be able to rationalize it by saying, 'Well, one day doesn't matter.'
However, if that irregularity happens with some frequency, it often happens that achieving the goal becomes difficult and you end up quitting.
That is something that can easily happen.
In this case, it could be that the initial goal-setting calculation was naive, but I think it can also be seen that including numerical goals like time or frequency in goal-setting increases the probability of failure.
I think it can also be seen that including numerical goals like time or frequency in goal-setting increases the probability of failure.
What I would like to propose here is to not include specific numbers like time or frequency in your goal setting, but to set a vague goal of just,
doing XX
and nothing more.
What is important here is to discard the arbitrary
assumption that 'this amount has no meaning.'
If you can just turn your attention to your goal and work on it even a little bit every day,
that is a respectable consistency.If you keep going, you will be able to handle the volume someday.
However, if you quit, it stops right there.
That is far better than that.
If you want to focus on continuing above all else,
a rough goal setting like "do something every day"
is just fine.
You have no obligation to listen to what others say about that.
Compared to people who haven't even started, it's a world of difference. If someone tries to assert dominance through quantity, just let them enjoy their own self-satisfaction.
Just think of it that way.
Just keep that in mind.
Focus only on continuing in a way that is comfortable for you.
Let's concentrate on that alone.
As long as you haven't quit, that is "consistency."
When we talk about consistency,
the fixed idea that you must continue every day, perhaps it is okay to discard this way of thinking as well.
I myself, who am saying this,
write on Note every day like this,
but this is just because I want to write,
and when I run out of ideas or my motivation drops,
I think it's fine to lower the frequency.
However, if someone asks if I have stopped being consistent,
I feel that is not the case.
In the rough goal setting of "doing something" mentioned earlier,
I am disregarding the frequency of "every day" to begin with.
For example, winter sports like skiing,
even though there are ways to do it like indoor practice facilities,
this is not something you can do every day even if you wanted to, right?
Yet, I go every year without fail.
Does this mean I am not being consistent?
Regarding consistency, frequency is also within the realm of self-satisfaction in a sense,
whether it is once every three days or once a month,
as long as the will to continue remains within you,
I think you can confidently say it is consistency.
Conclusion
Even though I am writing this so self-importantly,
because I have too many things I want to do myself,
I have been tormented by this hurdle of consistency until very recently.
Even if there were no problems when I started, daily environments inevitably change.
Even in such circumstances, I spent days exhausted, chased by the quotas I had imposed on myself for a while.
It was only when I reached the point where I physically ran out of time no matter what that
I was finally able to arrive at this way of thinking and forgive myself a little.
Categorizing things by numbers like frequency, time, and count is very easy to understand and sometimes necessary.
However, at times,
it can end up being something that holds you back.
This is also a result of my personality of being too serious in strange places,
but if the realization I gained this time
could lighten the feelings of those who are similarly
tormenting themselves, I would be happy.
Thank you for reading until the end this time as well.
See you in the next article.