Commonalities Between Parenting and Employee Development: Bringing Out Motivation

The book I am introducing today is about parenting, but
it also contains lessons applicable to employee development.

What is more important than praising?

Don't force yourself to praise.

There is a saying that you should praise to help someone grow, but
if you force yourself to praise, the lie will be exposed.

If it's discovered that you are forcing it,
it will end up hurting them even more.
To avoid lowering their self-esteem...

Find their good points.
When you praise, be specific!

Be genuinely happy.
It's okay to praise when your own heart is moved.
The emotions you feel at that moment should be overflowing from your whole body.

Watch over them with a smile.

What is more important than praising is
properly watching over them.

Watch over them with a smile.
Show empathy.

The feeling of being watched and cared for
creates a gentlebond of trust.

Securityandtrustare important.
They don't necessarily want to be praised.
The other person justwants to feel secure.
Acknowledge their existence (existence recognition).
Acknowledge what they have done (action recognition).

It is important to have an attitude of watching over them, not monitoring them.

Consciously convey that you care about them.

This might seem a bit difficult, but
you could bring up small things you noticed precisely because you care about them.

I wonder if such casual words and actions really get through to the other person.

Only one piece of advice at a time.

Even if there are many things you want to point out, it is more effective to focus on just one.

Also, when you don't understand why they are doing something,
try asking for the reason (a simple question).

Instead of giving instructions, conveying your thoughts using I-messages prevents conflict.

If they object, discuss it.

If they object, it is a chance to talk!
Listen carefully to what they dislike.
Convey your own feelings as well.
Neither side should hold back.

But speak gently and carefully.

(Whether you are in trouble or not) It is important to have a relationship where you can talk anytime.

Delegate and let them gain experience.

I end up saying this and that because I know they will fail.
But there is much to be learned from failure, and many things that can only be understood through failure.

After all, they are a different person.
The other person is an individual with their own personality, and someone to be respected.

I want them to grow so that eventually they can do things on their own.

That is why I delegate and let them gain experience.
There is meaning in the experience itself.
There is value in taking on challenges.

Once you have delegated, do not nitpick.
Gently watch over them as they work with enthusiasm.

Do not hold back.

Communicate properly and watch over them.

A relationship where both sides can say what they dislike.
Do not hold back.

Do it the way you want to
Decide for yourself and do it
Get absorbed in it and do it

Watch over them with a smile
Enjoy every day
Find the fun even in unexpected events
In such an environment, they are likely to grow up healthy and strong

Parenting and employee development
They are similar, aren't they?

This article was written by
Shigeki Kawahara, a "Future Realization Partner" who helps increase revenue pillars
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