An Introduction to Communication, Learning from "Super Communication Skills" by Atsushi Tamura

A refreshing communication introductory book with a big smile on the cover

Let me introduce it to you!

Atsushi Tamura, who was not originally good at communication

The author is the comedian Atsushi Tamura from London Boots Ichi-go Ni-go.
He says he wasn't originally someone with high communication skills.

In junior high school, his presence in class was about average or slightly below.
He says he wasn't popular either.
That's surprising, isn't it?

Communication skills are not a talent, but a skill.
It's true that many people feel uncomfortable with it, but
that comes from a misunderstanding.

Anyone can do it if they try!

However, he repeats practice and reflection,
and he has a geeky side where he tries quite a lot...
He doesn't seem like an ordinary person.
(Well, obviously lol)

The purpose of communication is to build good human relationships.

Most human worries stem from human relationships.

Building good human relationships is directly linked to happiness.

And good communication = good human relationships.
They are so deeply related that you could say that.

Good communication -> Good human relationships -> Ultimate happiness

Speaking well, or
becoming popular, isn't the goal.

That makes a lot of sense lol

The power to make the other person feel comfortable talking, rather than talking yourself.

The foundation of communication is, rather than speaking,the power of listening

• A pleasant smile, nodding, and positive reactions

• "Amazing," "I see," "Is that so?" (Tamura-style SNS)

• Facial expressions that empathize with the other person's feelings

Listen carefully to what the other person has to say
If the other person is talking comfortably, that's a good start!

A crisp and clear "Yes!" response

The small 'tsu' in the response "Hai-tsu!" conveys your feelings and sincerity

It seems like a positive atmosphere will spread

Affirmation (understanding, empathy) + Question

Stock up on interest in the other person (Why is it like that??) within yourself, and
think about the other person's interests

The desire to know more enhances your questioning skills

Accept the other person's story, understand and empathize with it, and then ask a question

Once you have acquired the questioning skills that make others feel comfortable talking, you are at an advanced level

It is okay to say "I don't want to" sometimes

Being positive all the time is exhausting

Sometimes, there are moments when you want to say no

It is not about denying the other person, but
conveying your own honest feelings

Ultimately, if you have the desire to get along with the other person,
that is fine!
Communicate what you don't like and what you want to do

Staying still while feeling uncomfortable is more stressful
Don't procrastinate; clear up those uncomfortable feelings quickly

A place where you can feel at ease and say what you want to say

A place where you can open your heart and say what you want to say
Belonging to a safe and secure communityIf possible, it is better to have multiple such places

I realize that here too, human relationships are what really matter

A place where you can be yourself
Time alone is important, but not being lonely is even more important

Home, work, and one more place
A third place, perhaps?

Interacting with various people also broadens your perspective
Good human relationships create happiness

Rather than a typical how-to book,
it was a good opportunity to think about building relationships with people through communication.

It is easy to read and leaves you with a good feeling afterward

This article was written by
Shigeki Kawahara, "Future Realization Partner" for increasing revenue streams
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