Thought Patterns of People Who Don't Worry Needlessly: The Difference Between 'Giving Up' and 'Moving On'
Recently, I've encountered cases during consultations that make me go, 'Hmm?'
Sometimes I just can't understand why they are worrying about that.
Are you worrying needlessly?
That is the topic.
I found a good article, so I'm sharing it.
What is the difference between people who worry and those who don't?
I will introduce it by quoting from here.
'Not worrying' and 'just giving up' are completely different!
'Worrying about "what you can't do" happens because you "don't give up." If you give up right now, the worry disappears.'
This is often said.
If you keep repeating, 'I see, I should just give up,' every time you hit a difficulty at work, you will eventually become someone who can't do anything.
Being 'quick to give up' at work does not necessarily lead to 'not worrying.'
It's a common scenario, but...
Is it really impossible?
Did you properly consider the problem structure and the options?
I want to press them on this lol
Is cost-performance obsession the root of the disease of not thinking things through??
'Because it's inefficient to keep going like this. It's better to stop doing things that are inefficient, right?'
There are people who would say something like this.
With the spread of ideas like cost-performance and time-performance,
there is a tendency to give up on everything in a short-sighted way.
I want them to have a bit more attachment and curiosity toward their work, but
it just makes them look like they have no motivation.
In the first place, efficiency means saving effort through a method that has already proven successful.
If you pull out at a stage where you haven't even found a method that works yet,
it cannot be called efficiency.
It is self-deception to look away from the 'self that is giving up.'
Putting it into words this far is harsh.
I feel like the other person won't be convinced unless I explain it a bit more carefully.
Don't give up, 'switch' quickly!!
People who truly 'don't worry' are not 'quick to give up,' but rather
“quick to switch”
Let's focus on the difference between 'giving up' and 'switching'.
Instead of giving up on the purpose or goal,
give up on one method,
and then try a different method.
This is 'switching'.
The thinking algorithm of people who truly 'don't worry' is that
when they encounter a difficult task, they do not abandon the goal.
They discard their current approach andit is natural for them to explore the next method.
When something isn't going well, think of another way.
This is the thinking pattern of people who don't worry and think things through properly, isn't it?
People who continue using the same method even when they don't get results are just stubbornly refusing to give up.
These people only have the execution of their initially decided method in mind, and
in reality, they have lost sight of their original purpose.
Forgetting the purpose and obsessing over the means is what makes someone stubbornly refuse to give up.
I feel like I've cleared things up!
I sometimes think, 'Let's think properly! Why don't they think?'
but I realized that
confusing purpose and means might be the root of the confusion.
For people who are worrying, breaking down purpose and means is difficult, so
it is necessary to have the patience to dialogue while using diagrams and think together.
Worrying means that one's thinking is in a state of confusion.
Since they don't know what they should be thinking about,
'In the first place, what were we thinking about this for?'
'What would count as a success?'
It seems good to reconfirm the purpose and goals while asking questions like these.
This article was written by
Shigeki Kawahara, a 'Future Realization Partner' who helps increase revenue streams
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