Turning the "Anger" You Feel at Work into Positive Energy!
Today, I'd like to talk about the "anger" we feel while working.
Have you ever felt frustrated while working?
Beyond just a momentary emotion, that
feeling of being unable to suppress something, that restless, unsettled feeling.
Why does it have to be like that!?
Are you actually doing your job??
I just can't understand it!!
Do you ever have feelings like that come up?
But if you vent those feelings directly at the other person, it might lead to trouble.
I've made that mistake myself when I was younger (laughs).
Feeling "anger" is proof that you are taking things seriously.
The fact that anger wells up and becomes uncontrollable is
proof of just how seriously you are taking that work.
For example,
you might be working desperately without even taking a break, thinking, "I will definitely finish this by the deadline!"
and then you get irritated when you see someone who doesn't seem motivated.
"Anger" is born from the gap between your own common sense and reality.
"Anger" arises when something happens that is impossible according to your own common sense.
Unconsciously, you are comparing it to your own common sense.
The surprise of "Why??" and
the sadness and frustration that it ended up that way
—those emotions layer together, and "anger" is born.
Even in a situation that is nothing but a surprise to you,
for the other person, there are times when they think, "Huh? Is there a problem?"
and that happens.
Seeing a reaction like that can make you heat up even more!
The premises are misaligned.
In cases like this, the premises are often misaligned.
It's not that anyone is at fault,
it's just that
that wasn't the intention.
What are you prioritizing?
The most important and top-priority items (themes, objectives) at that time are different.
People who don't know the background information versus those who do.
There are also gaps in perception that come from the difference in knowledge and experience between those who are less experienced and those who have been involved for many years.
If you don't know or aren't aware of something, you can't notice the problem.
Lack of communication.
If you have close conversations on a regular basis,
you might have opportunities to realize, 'Oh, that's important!'but,
when there is a lack of communication,
naturally, things you think are understood are not understood at all.
I didn't think it was that important
—misalignments in perception like this occur.
And the fact that this happens without any ill intent...
is often a factor that makes the problem bigger.
How to deal with perception gaps that have no ill intent.
Japanese companies are full of good people.
I believe there are almost no fundamentally bad people.
Even so, when anger wells up,
is something misaligned!?
If you could look at it from a step-back perspective,
how could this situation be explained?
It would be great if you had the opportunity and composure to realize things like that, but...
When anger wells up and you can't suppress it,
it might be good to consult with someone experienced who always keeps a cool face.consult
try doing that.
I seem to be thought of as someone who is always calm and composed,
but surprisingly, I feel and think about many things (laughs).
I have also experienced many troubles,
so I can guess the structure and causes of why troubles occur to some extent.
In your workplace,there is always that quiet but experienced-looking older man or woman?
It might be good to try consulting them sometimes.
Borrowing the eyes of a calm third party,
consulting someone for a second opinion,
I really want you to realize that this is an option!
A story about my failures when I was young.
When I was in my early 20s,
because someone from another department kept making mistakes,
I was writing a report (internal memo) that was serious but bordered on a complaint, saying, Please remove that person from the project—when my boss found it and stopped me lol
You can't do that! he said.
The other person isn't making mistakes because they want to.
I wish I had the composure to wonder if there was some circumstance behind it.
Even if you complain, a replacement won't be found immediately,
and the risk that the relationship will sour afterward,
further hindering the project's progress, is higher.
At the time, I wasn't convinced,
but thinking about it later, my impulse was a hasty conclusion.
Well, I guess this is just a sign of youth...
It's a funny story now lol
Anger is a clash of energy.
I want to use it in a positive direction.
Please also refer to my previous article.
This article was written by
Shigeki Kawahara, 'Future Realization Partner' for increasing revenue streams
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