The Eye-Opening Way to Create the Correct Wish List

To my regular readers,
This is an entry for the #CreativeAwards2026 #BusinessCategory.

I have summarized a portion of the research I have conducted and implemented regarding planners for nearly 20 years,
using the angle of how to write a wish list.

1. Nobody knows the correct way to make a wish list

Do you really know what a wish list is?

A wish list.
It can refer to an Amazon wish list or a list of desired items on a high-end brand's e-commerce site, but the theme here is a list you write when you want to improve your life or become a certain way in the future.

It is popular among business people in creative fields as part of brainstorming to organize their thoughts or refine future business plans, and among job seekers as part of self-analysis.
The naming varies, but it is always touched upon in planner and notebook techniques.

However, one way or another, the major trend is that it is a popular "talisman-like" content among women who want to make their dreams come true.

As an advanced application, it can take the form of a vision board using plenty of images, and there are also lists with time constraints, such as "things to do before I die (bucket list)" or "things I want to do this year."

By the way.
Are you getting the intended effect even after writing this?

There are quite a few things said about wish lists, such as "If you write it down, it will come true, and once you write it, you can forget about it."
Although the facade is starting to crumble with people saying, "Writing it down doesn't really change anything," the claim that it comes true just by writing it is very catchy and popular, and because dreamy people jump on it, it was content that could earn views.

Perhaps because of that, I feel that the concept of a wish list is quite misunderstood.

It feels somewhat impossible that "it comes true just by writing it," but that is precisely why there is a hidden mechanism that makes you feel relieved as if you have been given permission, and when you read testimonials from people who say their dreams came true, you get happy and think, "Let's try it!"

However, when I hear stories from people who say their dreams came true with this, in many cases, they are things involving family that didn't even need to be wished for, or things that they should have achieved anyway given their job—cases where they write down things that were bound to happen, then claim they came true, essentially engaging in self-directed praise. Truly, there are many.

Honestly, there is no dream in it at all. (In fact, it's disappointing.)

At this rate, it would be better to call it a broad To-Do list rather than a wish list. A To-Do list where you just set your goals a bit too high. Even though a wish list is something completely different from a To-Do list.

In other words, most people write them with the impression that they are just good things, without thinking even a millimeterabout what kind of function a wish list actually has.

A wish list is not such a vague thing.
I believe that a wish list has a clear function.

A wish list is a "tool to expand possibilities"

When you have a good wish list, incredible effects occur.

It has such unbelievable effects. Just by looking at a list written on paper of things you want to do or things you wish were true, this is what happens.
Or rather, if it doesn't reach this point, a wish list doesn't really have much meaning.

Having a dream come true means reaching this state at least once.
And it also means that this state is not just for a moment, but continues for quite a long time.

You might think I'm exaggerating, but without that level of effect, my life's turnaround story would never have happened.

The turnaround that happened to me

In fact, if I look back a little on how the wish list exerted power in my life, it began with my family home, which had been struggling with debt since I was about a high school student.

It was a family that already had some kind of problems, but they surfaced around the time I graduated high school and had to decide on my life, and everything blew away and disappeared, let alone going to university.
Then, it became a domestic violence household where knives were swung around every night, and after a few years of working part-time jobs, I fled to Tokyo.

I desperately came to Tokyo, and without knowing left from right, I lived in a share house with rent of 35,000 yen, living vaguely as a temporary employee.
Even in that state, one day I got a call from my mother.
"If we don't pay 500,000 yen by tomorrow, the house will be taken. Do you have any money?"

I thought, I guess I couldn't escape after all.

Like that, it was around the time I was 28 that I ended up having to start a business to rebuild my family's management while doing my own work.

With no money or connections, I was just writing down future plans on paper, aimlessly yet seriously, staking my life on it.
Thinking that my future would be either homelessness or suicide while still in my 20s if things continued like this—even though I was at rock bottom, or maybe not quite rock bottom since I was still managing to live—I wrote down future plans without any aim.

What I was thinking at that time was, "I will do everything that doesn't cost money." Writing down future plans didn't cost money, so I wrote them.
I also did something else: fundamentally changing how I perceived time, which was also quite effective, and I am currently selling a planner that incorporates that method.
The root of both is the same.
From a desk, paper, and a pen, I pushed forward on a path to overturn everything.

If you ask if I had a winning strategy, it might be more accurate to say, "I carefully chose a path where a winning strategy would emerge." Over about three years, I brought explosive orders, coverage by Mezamashi TV, and department store basement openings to my family's debt-ridden home in the countryside.
My mother and younger brother made their terrestrial television debut without makeup, and I was also interviewed by an amazing camera, asking, "How much does that camera cost?" It seems it costs about 10 million yen.

When this turnaround story, which started from a desk, paper, and a pen, was realized, I was in the eat-in corner of a bakery at Atre in JR Sugamo Station, biting into bread while shedding tears, and opening my planner.
The filming for the TV interview was over, the broadcast was set for a few days later, and I could see a little hope that maybe, just maybe, things would work out. I couldn't imagine what kind of typhoon would blow through. But a typhoon was coming.
It was a typhoon I had caused.

I caused a major change that could resist my parents' debt, not through crime or an unfortunate accident, but through my own thinking and steady actions.
Things I thought I couldn't do were becoming reality.

I wasn't the type to stand out much at school, I wasn't stupid but I wasn't exceptionally brilliant, I wasn't particularly beautiful, and nobody in the world knew who I was. But I did it.

Back then I was writing based on intuition, but now I can verbalize it and explain the structure.

A wish list is no good if you just write it.
Also, as long as you are writing things that seem doable, its function is weak.
It only functions when you write things that you probably can't do.

That is the "function of expanding the possibilities of life".
It's not about making dreams come true. That is, after all, just a bonus, or merely a result. What a wish list should do is aggressively expand the possibilities for reaching that point.

It is no good as long as you are writing down things you think you can do or things you think you should be able to do.

Since a wish list is a place to write down 'it would be nice if,' it often gets mixed up with irresponsible desires, like wanting anything you can get without effort even if you don't really want to do it.

This often includes unnecessary certifications, languages, or pointless diets.

This is a symptom frequently seen in people who believe that 'just writing it down makes it come true.' Since all you have to do is write it, the style is to be as greedy as possible and list everything that seems good.
It is packed with 'things I should probably do' rather than things I actually want to do.

A wish list dominated by this type of wish will instead become a list that makes the person who wrote it suffer immensely.

You have no intention of executing them even if you write them down, so the possibility of them coming true is very low.
However, just by writing them down, a person becomes conscious of the content.
'I think I have to do things like this...'
Getting a certification, being able to do this in English, learning Chinese and Spanish, being able to edit videos, becoming knowledgeable about AI, losing 8 kilograms, being able to design—it would be better if I became that way, but I don't really want to do it...

When a wish list is filled with things like this, it is paraded as 'this is my wish,' and it gradually becomes painful.
You are shown things you cannot do, and you start to feel as if you are being pressured to try harder as you look at it out of the corner of your eye.
As time passes, the reality of your defeat in not being able to do those things is further thrust upon you.
Your flaws, your shortcomings, and your helplessness are visualized more and more...
Is this what a wish list is?

A wish list is something that fills you with energy just by looking at it. It is not something that makes you feel depressed or shocked by being shown your own helplessness.

A wish list is not something that makes you able to do things (without effort), but something that expands the very 'possibilities of life' that lie far before that.
Possibilities that easily leap over the range of what you are thinking of expand, and accordingly, your options expand beyond what you could have thought of yourself.
To put it more simply, the range of what you feel you 'might be able to do...' expands, and it expands in the direction you truly desire.

This means that you can see a path to realizing things that you (currently) don't seem able to do.

Conversely, as long as you are writing down things that you can barely do right now, your possibilities will actually narrow. You cannot expect growth beyond your current state at the very least.

You might think that while it is somewhat understandable that writing down things you can do leads to no growth, doesn't 'things you should be able to do' expand possibilities? But the one proposing that is your current mind.
In other words, they are 'things you should be able to do' thought up by an ignorant and inexperienced human mind. It is like an elementary school student drawing a blueprint to build a skyscraper; you are in a state where you can only think of things that are not worth talking about.
The value of 'things you should be able to do' at that level is limited.

People cannot imagine a future beyond what they have been taught by someone else or what they have thought of themselves. This is the limit of humanity.

However, a wish list easily surpasses that.
It has that kind of function.

Let's redefine the wish list properly once more.

Honestly, having been involved with planners for over 10 years since selling my original planner and watching people who use them, I feel that the act of writing a wish list usually starts vaguely, danced around by someone else saying 'wish lists are great, aren't they?'

If you do that, getting good results will depend on luck, and depending on how you write it, it often leads to bad outcomes.
(I will explain later, but if you write it normally without being conscious of it, it will lead to bad outcomes. Especially since 2020, even more so.)

Speaking from the experience of turning my life around with a desk, paper, and a pen, that is no good.
A wish list is not something like that.
Vaguely failing to achieve the intended effect and instead causing bad effects—not only is there no point in writing it, but you might even become unhappy because you wrote it.

A wish list is something that expands the possibilities of life.
When you have one, motivation wells up even when you are depressed, and when you are happy, you won't get overly carried away and fail.
It becomes a support when reality is tough, and when reality is going well, it shows you a better route and guides you steadily so you don't lose your footing. When you make a mistake, you notice it immediately, and returning to the right path is not a struggle.
If you cannot obtain such effects, it is not a wish list.

If you can write a high-quality wish list, the effects can last for about 10 years at the longest. At the very least, they will easily last for about 3 years.

And turning your life around is not that difficult.
It will bring about results far more wonderful than you can imagine. That is what it means to expand your possibilities.

What you should write is a wish list that not only makes you feel positive just by having it, but also persists regardless of your circumstances, and as a result,lands you in a future far beyond your own imaginationwish list.

2. How to create the right wish list

Are there rules for how to write it?

So, what exactly is the right kind of wish list?

The content varies from person to person.
However, even if the content is different, I believe there are certain rules regarding the format.

Until now, the popular approach has been to aim at the unconscious mind and use a method that has a positive influence on it by focusing on controlling your words.
Methods like "writing in the present progressive or past tense" and "adding words of gratitude" are based on the hypothesis that the unconscious mind has no sense of time and does not understand subjects.

That may have some effect to a certain extent.
However, in reality, because people are so preoccupied with controlling their words, they end up writing wish lists that are just superficial strings of words, like meaningless writing exercises.

Controlling your words is not meaningless, but if done haphazardly, the negative effects are greater. There is a clear reason why that happens, but I would like to explain that in the second half.

If you think that the right way to write a wish list is to distort your wording and expression, you will tend to drift away from writing what you truly desire.
Just like writing "it would be nice if..." or "I wish I could do this," you end up trapped in a route of pursuing words that sound like they might come true rather than your own genuine wishes.

The rule is not about wording.
What you should pay attention to is the degree of feasibility.

The degree of feasibility, in other words, how likely it is to come true.

For example, I love ballet, I watch it often, I check the activities of famous overseas companies, and if possible, I want to become a ballerina myself and become an etoile. But even if I start attending a ballet class now, I can only get the feeling of it through adult ballet exercises.
Is this feasible? It's almost impossible. It doesn't seem like it will come true.
But it is a wish—I love it, and the desire to become that way has always been somewhere in my heart.

When asked if you would write this on a wish list, I think most people probably wouldn't.
I love it, but I know I can't become it.

However, writing down impossible wishes is the most important point for breathing power into your wish list.

When told that you should look at the degree of feasibility, many people react by asking if that means they shouldn't include impossible wishes, but it is the opposite.
You should include the impossible things that you love and wish for from the bottom of your heart.

A wish list has no power if it doesn't include impossible wishes.

A wish list has the function of expanding the possibilities of your life.
To make a wish list with this function, it is not enough to just write down things that seem like they could be done with a little effort.

For your possibilities to become even greater than they are now, they will not expand unless you include things that seem impossible.

When we are children, we don't know how the world works, so we don't know the limits of our possibilities. That's why, the moment we learn about an amazing vehicle called a Shinkansen, we easily fall in love with it and seriously think, "I want to become a Shinkansen!"

As we grow into adults, we come to understand that there are countless limitations: you need this to do that, humans can't do this, you can't do that unless you went to this university, and so on. And so, we aim to get by as best we can within those limitations.

Good adults don't get obsessed with things they can't do.
While that is adapting to reality, it also means you become unable to go beyond it.

However, a wish list is, after all, just a string of characters written on paper, so you can write whatever you want, and it will almost never have any impact on anything. It's not top-secret information, and no one will die like in Death Note.
Therefore, even as an adult, or even if you are in a position of responsibility, you should be free to write whatever you want (as long as you don't show it to anyone).
You are free to fantasize about winning a gold medal at the Olympics or anything else, imagine it, and write it down in words.

When you write down something that seems impossible in reality, the characters written on that paper become something that exists in reality—an object.

It doesn't mean that what is written will come true, but at least an object—a piece of paper with meaningful, readable characters—has appeared in reality.
This very faint mass becomes the key to prying open the future.

However, this is a very modest key, practically non-existent.
That is why the task of breathing life into it becomes necessary.

Even so, the experience of giving even the slightest bit of mass to something you think is impossible changes your life just by itself. It may be only a tiny, barely visible change, but if that slight change points you in the direction of something you want to death, there is no reason to deny it.

The things you should give mass to are the things you absolutely cannot do, cannot achieve, or are impossible for you right now.

Here, you give it a faint mass in the form of writing it down on paper.
You bring it just a little bit closer to reality.

Write down things that are outside the range of possibilities you think you have, things that are impossible, yet things you wish for from the bottom of your heart, things you are always drawn to somewhere, things you wish to be even if you know it's impossible.

Look at it with your eyes. Read it. Give it to your body.

With this process, your possibilities expand all at once.
You might not believe it, but your possibilities expand all at once. While you are surrounded by the limitations you set for yourself, the information the world gives you about how things are, the ethics and morals you must uphold, and the duties you must fulfill, something that stands independent and distant, unbound by and uninterested in those things, begins to shine all at once.

Just adding one impossible wish to your usual listchanges the scenery you see.

In the first place, a wish list is just a wish list.
A wish list is not something that makes things come true, and planning or budgeting is not the job of a wish list. You shouldn't entrust planning, research, or negotiation to something that is just a list of wishes.
Those are things that should be written on a different piece of paper after you've written your wish list.
Yet, many people put tremendous pressure on themselves to make everything happen at the wish list stage, and because of that, a situation arises where they can't even write the wish list itself.

A wish list that judges based on what is possible or impossible and only includes things that seem doable actually narrows your possibilities.
This is because, since they are judged as doable (regardless of whether you make the effort to realize them), your possibilities are in a state where they cannot expand any further.

Generally, the people who judge what is possible or impossible are those who have never done it, those who have no knowledge or experience. If you are being judged by such ignorant and foolish people (which is to say, yourself), it is inevitable that your possibilities will continue to narrow.

However, wishes that seem impossible to achieve but still drive you crazy easily transcend such limitations.
That is precisely why your possibilities expand.

It is a function of the heart that we must never lose: "hope."

You also need wishes that are achievable

However, don't jump to the conclusion that you should just write down impossible wishes to keep your hopes up. The important trick is to list highly achievable wishes right alongside them.

Some might be skeptical, wondering if there's such a thing as an "achievable wish." But surely you can think of more than a handful of things just by trying—like a travel destination you've been meaning to visit but haven't, a hobby you'd like to try, or clothes or shoes from a brand you've always wanted to wear.

A wish list is a place where things you think, "I can't do it now, but I'd love to if time and money allowed," accumulate, so even things you could do tomorrow end up on the list.

Treating these things the same way as impossible wishes creates the correct structure for a wish list. Collecting only these doesn't have much effect, but when placed next to impossible wishes, they suddenly start to have an effect.

A correct wish list is about expanding the possibilities of your life.
You must build it into a structure that has that function.
If impossible wishes are the driving force that greatly expands reality, then achievable wishes are the feet that move reality forward. You need not just the pull, but also the feet to step firmly into reality and move forward.

And when you have both, reality begins to move.

I use the analogy of three types of eggs to make this distinction in achievability easy to understand.

A raw egg wish, which cannot be eaten as is. A
boiled egg wish, which needs to be boiled to the right state, peeled, and seasoned. A
marinated egg wish, which is already peeled and seasoned, ready to be eaten.

A "raw, boiled, and marinated egg wish list" that contains all three types of wishes becomes a truly powerful wish list.

Let me explain in a little more detail.

The 3-Egg Wish List

Impossible wishes that you truly desire from the bottom of your heart become raw egg wishes.
Because they are raw eggs, they cannot be eaten as is—meaning dreams or wishes that seem impossible to achieve in your current life no matter how hard you try.
That said, you can actually eat raw eggs, so it's not completely impossible. After all, you could suddenly win the lottery.

Boiled egg wishes are more achievable than raw egg wishes. But depending on the item, they can be quite difficult, requiring you to boil them properly or peel the shell even if they are cooked.
In other words, things that seem impossible unless you pass some kind of exam, or things that require about 5 million yen—things that don't seem impossible but feel quite difficult. Of course, these are attractive wishes that you keep coming up with because you want to do them or become that way.
This might be the level that appears most often when writing a normal wish list.

Compared to these two, marinated egg wishes are overwhelmingly easier.
These are things you could do if you made a reservation, things you could do if you set aside a day to go out, or things you could do if you paid about 10,000 yen—things that are ready to be done but are not being done for some reason.

Writing these three types of wishes evenly on a single sheet of paper gives power to your wish list.
It becomes a list with a structure that expands the possibilities of your life.

For now, let's start by writing them down.

At a minimum, you want at least one of each egg, so three in total.
The ratio of the other eggs is up to you.
However, if you only have raw eggs or only marinated eggs, I feel there might be a major problem in your current life. If you lose the ability to think about facing reality, you might end up with only unrealistic wishes as an escape, or it might mean you aren't even doing the things you could be doing.
But even if you are in that state, start by writing them down.
The shape will change in the future, so don't worry.

Even if you think you only have boiled egg wishes, it is very common to find marinated egg wishes that you could reserve right away if you think about it carefully.
So, please just try writing them down once.

You don't need to be too tense; just go with the flow of writing a normal wish list.
Once you've written it down, just check which ones are raw eggs, boiled eggs, or seasoned eggs, and that's enough.
There's no need to force yourself to think, 'Is this a boiled egg wish...? Is this right?'
(The reason for the silly names like raw egg, boiled egg, and seasoned egg is so you don't have to think about it so hard.)

However, make sure to write everything so it is visible on a single sheet of paper.
If it's so voluminous that it spans several sheets, it's fine to create a 'best-of' wish list that collects the highlights, as long as you keep the three types of eggs on one sheet of paper.
Whether the types of eggs are scattered or neatly arranged, the final look is up to you. Just make sure they are written in parallel on a single sheet of paper.

That's the only trick.

Most people can't even write it down.

Having said that, not many people actually write a wish list.

Some people feel they have written a wish list because they have something like one in their heads.

But, actually writing it down on paper is more important.

Whether it's okay to write it out digitally, like on a smartphone, is a common point of discussion.
My conclusion is that even if you write it out digitally, if you finally make a clean copy on a single sheet of paper, the power feels completely different. I think taking the step of writing it properly on paper draws out the brain's power more strongly.
You can write the draft on paper, or even if you write the clean copy on paper, you can take a photo and keep it on a digital device, so I believe the step of passing through paper is essential.

If you are reading this because you want to know the correct way to write a wish list, you should write your wish list on paper.

Also, there are quite a few people who think they want to write it but find they can't write anything at all.
For those who have a lot in their heads but can't get it out or can't find a starting point, it is very common to remember things by just writing down the words that come to mind or the things you are most concerned about right now, and then expanding from there.

Also, there are quite a few people who suddenly start crying when they try writing it.
Some people cry or get angry because everything they wrote feels like a lie. Even though they are writing about happy things or things they want to do, such strange reactions can occur, but that is relatively normal.
Don't worry about it. If you want to cry, please cry.

Just by writing it, you have created a world of difference from the state of not writing it. Most people can't even write it.
Just starting to write it becomes a change.

Why is it 'how to create' instead of 'how to write'?

However, a trap occurs here again.
There are times when indulgence occurs, where you feel satisfied just by writing it down.

This is a state where you have concretely imagined the future once by writing it down, and your brain feels satisfied even though nothing has changed in reality, causing your motivation to take action to dissipate.
The brain has a weak ability to distinguish between reality and imagination, and when you write a wish list in a state of high concentration, there is a trap where it mistakes it for a real experience, misidentifies that the goal has already been achieved, and your motivation just fades away.

In the first place, an approach that uses such properties of the brain to try to twist an unsatisfactory reality is what is talked about in things like the Law of Attraction.
So, you could say the direction you are aiming for is correct. However, because of that, you are also firmly caught in the pitfall.

When this happens, you end up satisfied just by writing it.
Nothing changes. You get motivated for a moment, and that's it.

But with this raw egg, boiled egg, and seasoned egg wish list, even if indulgence occurs because of the impossible raw egg wishes, your reason still works, saying, 'Well, it's impossible anyway.'
In addition to that, there are seasoned egg wishes that are truly easy to execute, so it is structured to make it easy to avoid the trap and jump to the next stage.

This cannot be done just by 'writing'.
That is why it is not how to write a wish list, but how to create one.

Let's look at that in more detail next.

3. The real work begins after you put your wish list into motion

Go ahead and crush those soft-boiled egg wishes one by one!

If you just write a wish list and stop there, you will end up with the same results as your previous, incorrect wish lists.

First of all, it is almost impossible to write a high-quality wish list on the first try.

That said, just by looking at a wish list that evenly includes all three types of egg wishes, some of you may already feel that the sensation is completely different from how you used to write them.

I often hear feedback like this.

Once you reach this point, your wish list is starting to function in a fairly ideal way, but if you stop here, you’ll just end up with a warm, fuzzy feeling. To avoid that, you need to
go ahead and knock out those soft-boiled egg wishes one by one.

Soft-boiled egg wishes are extremely feasible. There are quite a few things you can do today or tomorrow just by paying a little money, setting aside some time, or gathering a bit of courage. The key is to quickly

do as many of them as possible.

Soft-boiled egg wishes will become the essential fuel that keeps your wish list running.

Raw egg wishes are, of course, impossible to fulfill right now, and hard-boiled egg wishes are quite challenging. They may eventually come true, but the shortest route to that is to keep crushing—that is, executing—your soft-boiled egg wishes.

It’s not that raw egg or hard-boiled egg wishes will come true simply because you executed your soft-boiled egg wishes. You might have 'Hollywood debut' as a raw egg wish, 'build a custom-designed home' as a hard-boiled egg wish, and 'go on a whirlwind overseas trip, like a zero-night, two-day trip to Hong Kong' as a soft-boiled egg wish.

Thinking logically (setting aside the Hollywood debut for a moment), if you want to build a house, the sensible approach would be to save the money you would have spent on a trip. But in the correct wish list method, it is better to eat those soft-boiled eggs and use them as nourishment to grow yourself. If you are afraid to spend money and can't take the first step, execute the soft-boiled egg wishes that don't cost much. If there are wishes that don't cost anything, I want you to crush all of those soft-boiled eggs.

As you execute your soft-boiled egg wishes, it will become clear whether what you have written on your wish list is truly correctfor you. That is why executing your soft-boiled egg wishes as soon as you write your list is essential to creating a wish list.

Is the wish list you’ve written truly correct 'for you'?

You cannot write a correct wish list without scrutinizing whether the content is actually right. Writing is just the preparation; you need to perform an operational check by actually executing them. Only after you have performed these checks and revised your draft can you finally obtain a truly correct wish list.

The wish list you wrote initially is just a starting point, so you need to keep revising it. You won't know how to revise it unless you execute those soft-boiled egg wishes. (I call this the 'Soft-Boiled Egg Feast.' You eat up your soft-boiled egg wishes and nourish your heart and body.)

While you are eating those soft-boiled eggs, if you getthe urge to reorganize the wish list itself, that is your chance. Keep rewriting it.

Surprisingly, many people treat a wish list they wrote once as if it were the crystallization of their life, but you will never write a good wish list on the first try. You need to rewrite it 100 or even 1,000 times to update it into a list that truly resonates with your heart, and naturally, the content of your wish list will change as your situation changes or as you get older.

I don't want you to misunderstand here: the wish list you wrote at the beginning isn't a lie, either. You might be mistaken or have misconceptions, but you should still give yourself the gift of realizing the things you can execute right now—that is, your soft-boiled egg wishes.

Your 'soft-boiled egg' wishes should mostly be things like buying something small or going to an event that requires courage but carries no real danger.
They might cost a little money or time, but I don't think they would cost hundreds of thousands of yen, so you should go ahead and make them happen.
After all, they are on your wish list precisely because they are attractive and you have wanted to do them someday. There is no harm in doing them; in fact, they are sure to bring you genuine happiness.
So, please feel free to go ahead and fulfill your 'soft-boiled egg' wishes as much as you like.

A wish list only reveals its true essence after it has been updated.

As you digest your 'soft-boiled egg' wishes, you might get the feeling that the world of your wish list becomes more colorful with each one you complete.
It might gain more depth, or you might even feel like you can hear music.

Conversely, you might also feel disappointed after doing something, thinking, 'I spent three or four years enduring and wanting to do something this boring...'
For those who have had this experience, the wish list will transform significantly.
In a good way, of course.

I have the impression that many people who want to write a wish list are those who are struggling to reconcile their lives with reality.
The reasons vary, whether it's for economic reasons or because their environment doesn't allow it. I also get the impression that people with stronger adult child tendencies are more enthusiastic about it.
I suspect many are in a situation where they can only reconcile with their current reality by dreaming.

Yet, such people often write the wrong wishes on their wish lists, use those wrong wishes as emotional support, and then realize in reality that they don't have that kind of power, leading them to slide in the worst possible direction.
It's like a story where you think your dream has come true, only for it to be the beginning of the next hell.
Such people have not performed any operational checks or verification of their wish list.

In the first place, verification requires execution, and since they lack the resources (money, knowledge, courage, support) to execute, they are comforting themselves by writing the wish list, leaving them in a dead end.
To break through that, executing feasible wishes is the best way.
No matter how small or trivial the wish, it's fine. Even so, you can set the wish list itself in motion and verify whether the wish list itself is correct.
Also, it is not good to dismiss them just because they are small wishes. After all, no matter how small, they are still your important wishes.

Verify your wish list, and use what you felt—whether good or bad—as material to revise, reinforce, or repair it.
A wish list updated in this way finally evolves into your true wish list.

A correctly written wish list has the power to brighten your mood when you are down, lead to stable confidence when you are happy, serve as a guide when you are lost, and gradually make even things you thought were impossible seem achievable, just by having it.

However, to obtain a list with such power, just writing it once is tough.
While you can get into a pretty good state just by gathering three eggs and writing it, your true wish list only begins to appear from the scenery you see when you digest your 'soft-boiled egg' wishes.

A wish list is also an evolution game that evolves every time you update it.

Conversely, adventuring with an initial-setting wish list is a bit weak.
To advance through the great adventure of life more dramatically, invincibly, and in the best way possible, you need strong equipment.
It is better to keep evolving your wish list as well.
This is no time to be hesitant about updating.

4. Summary so far

Definition of a wish list

A wish list is neither a graveyard for fantasies nor a list of things you think you can't do but would be nice if they happened. It is not something where wishes come true just by writing them down.

It is something that has the function of expanding the possibilities of life.

When you have that list, you feel as if a bright light is shining in.
It becomes emotional support when you are suffering, and a judgment criterion when you are lost. If you have it, you won't even get lost in the first place.
When something very happy happens, you accept the happiness straight on without denying it, and instead of being tossed about and frolicking in joy, you calmly connect it to confidence.

And your actions naturally head in a direction that triggers developments even more wonderful than you could have imagined, to an unbelievable extent.
That is a wish list.

How to create a correct wish list

1. First, write it down (write it on paper)

2. Be sure to include impossible wishes among the ones you write down.

3. Also include highly achievable wishes that you can carry out as early as tomorrow.

4. Write three types of wishes on a single sheet of paper so they appear on the same level.

5. Execute the highly achievable wishes that you can do immediately, one after another.

6. As you execute them, revise and update your wish list.

For now, this is the foundation work.

Next, I would like to consider why the conventional way of writing wish lists is flawed, and what is necessary to avoid falling into those traps.

5. Why the conventional way of writing wish lists has become obsolete

Now, let's look back from a historical perspective at how the conventional way of writing wish lists was formed and how it diverged from the current reality.

The historical background of how the wish list was formed

The background of the wish list is based on the ideas of the 19th-century American New Thought movement, which posits that thoughts become reality. It refers to the activities of Christian religious groups that emerged during a period when the economy was beginning to grow explosively following the era of westward expansion. Unlike the Calvinists, who emphasized a simple and ascetic attitude, this sect sought to pursue wealth and success in reality.
I think it is a relatable feeling that, in the midst of an explosively growing economy, asceticism would seem foolish.
At the same time, explosive growth also meant that financial collapses occurred frequently; in a state where success and bankruptcy were two sides of the same coin and a spiritual anchor was needed, their ideas spread and gained support beyond the framework of religion.

The basis of their thinking is that "thoughts become reality" and "what you think about and your state of mind create reality."
By combining this with worldly wealth and success, it has become a very attractive development.

Since the New Thought philosophy has also influenced thinkers in the Japanese business world (such as Kazuo Inamori, Konosuke Matsushita, and Yukio Funai), I think that is why business books often have a strangely religious feel to them.

Apart from the business-oriented context, works influenced by New Thought philosophy, such as Burnett's "A Little Princess" and "The Secret Garden," and Montgomery's "Anne of Green Gables," were imported into Japan as children's literature.
Stories of girls who, even in adversity, grasp happiness through positive thinking that completely ignores their current situation were loved by a great many people. The aspect of ignoring reality and practicing positive thinking feels exactly like New Thought philosophy.
However, they were accepted as "good things" that did not feel out of place even from the perspective of Japanese morality.
I think that rather than success, the style of not complaining even in adversity was seen as educational in terms of obedience.

Therefore, even if we do not know about New Thought philosophy, we cannot ignore the possibility that it has permeated our sensibilities with the recognition that it is something morally good.
And since then, hit works have appeared many times, having changed their signboards to the fields of spiritual content and business self-help.
In the business field, there is Napoleon Hill, and in the spiritual field, there is "The Secret," the bible of the Law of Attraction.

The method of the wish list—writing down what you want to do or your dreams on paper—has always accompanied them.

In other words, the direction of the basic thinking behind how to write a wish list was created by a religious movement.

Even though the doctrines and rituals have fallen away, the style of thinking that "what you think becomes reality," "thinking good things changes reality," and "no matter how painful reality is, if your mind is in order, reality will move in a better direction" has maintained its popularity and transformed into various forms.

Attention to the brain function called RAS (Reticular Activating System)

In addition to ideas rooted in such religious activities, advancements in medical and brain science research have come to support those ideas. RAS (Reticular Activating System) research is a prime example.

The RAS is a part of the brain that has the function of noise-canceling other information in order to gather necessary information. A method that was highly touted was that if you strongly imprint a goal onto your RAS, your brain will surely gather information for you on its own, rather than you thinking about this and that.

It is that thing explained by examples like, "Once I started thinking about getting married, I began to notice only people wearing wedding rings," or "I only meet people who have the things I want."

In other words, "It is important to strongly imprint wishes into your subconscious" and "Set goals clearly and concretely, not as vague dreams" are methods that utilize the RAS.

Prioritizing the RAS feels like something you thought of on a whim or something given to you by fate, so it is highly compatible with religious mysticism, and because it involves dramatic experiences, it also has excitement as entertainment.
At the same time, I have the impression that more people are becoming interested in it, along with a sense of security, due to the powerful approach of "revealed by the latest brain science research" that eliminates superstition.

These were then mixed with fields such as counseling, including cognitive behavioral therapy, and psychology.

At first glance, you might feel it is better because it has a scientific background rather than religious thinking, but this also has its own problems.
Relying on the RAS after setting a goal means that if you set the wrong goal, you will be taken to an outrageous place. It is possible to head straight into a terrible situation.

In this day and age, the situation is quite different from the trends of the past.
In other words, regardless of brain function, the way it is used is slightly wrong, and it is highly likely that everyone is just copying and reusing old methods without anyone correcting them, especially in how they write wish lists.

This feels like it won't lead to very good results.

The disadvantages of writing a wish list with an incorrect structure

The way wish lists have been written until now is a method cultivated in an environment with "bright expectations for the future" during a growth society with a booming economy, where the flow of information was slower than it is now and you couldn't peek into other people's lives on social media.
Also, even if it moves away from religious styles, the structure of the thinking fundamentally contains some outlandish, unrealistic developments (mysticism, miracles, etc.).

Therefore, if you write a wish list using the style of a previous era, since the social structure, cultural resources, and human resources you rely on are different to begin with, there is a possibility that it will have no effect at all, or rather, lead to a bad situation.

If it's a light motivation like just writing down what you want to do to organize your thoughts, that's one thing, but if you are seriously writing a wish list to make your dreams come true, the style of the previous era might end up shrinking your life by writing it, and you might end up jumping into a flow where you ignore the reality of the situation and can't see what's around you.

In the first place, there are people whose RAS (Reticular Activating System), which plays the main role in "if you write it, it will come true," is not active.
As research on autism and developmental disabilities has progressed, it has begun to be recognized that not everyone sees the same landscape with the same brain.

Also, there are often patterns where the assumed methods do not work due to biased reactions related to upbringing, such as in adult children (e.g., the amygdala in the brain overreacting as if being attacked just by hearing an opinion, leading to unnecessary fear or resorting to violence).
Especially in Japan, I think we cannot ignore the fact that unhappy forms of thinking are attached to women who were forced to bear burdens in a male-dominated society.

The style of writing wish lists from the previous era assumes that everyone's brain shape and function are the same, and it is set for a way of making an effort in a social environment where you are properly rewarded if you work hard during a booming economy.
It was believed that even heartache could be solved by the prayers of friends gathered at church, and I think that was a salvation for many people.

But the people trying to write wish lists now do not have those social resources. It is precisely because they lack those resources that they are clinging to writing things down as a low-hurdle way to try to manage.

Even if you try hard to make your brain's RAS work, it is actually happening that prices change suddenly and things that should have been obtainable become impossible to get in just a few months.
Because the real society is changing rapidly, the request procedures of the past are in a state where they cannot do anything.

Yet, the way of writing wish lists does not seem to change, and everyone writes them vaguely and gets caught up in the thinking of the old era, stopping their movement.

We have entered an era where it is impossible to set goals in advance

Having sold planners for over ten years, I have learned that almost no one knows how to set good goals.

Until now, whether it was for school, work, or dieting, having a "good goal" was considered essential. We were told that if you had one, things would go quite well, and in fact, we often felt that to be true.
However, I think people are largely unaware that setting such a good goal for oneself is an extremely difficult task.

In the past, patterns for goals were quite fixed.
Therefore, just by setting a general goal, one could achieve decent results even with poor goal-setting skills. I believe this is why the lack of individual goal-setting skills never became a major issue.

However, we are currently in the midst of a collapse of the "traditional forms of goals and objectives."
Now that they have collapsed, it is very clear.
Ourskills for setting goals are poor.

Until now, the winning pattern for women was to marry someone rich, or if they were poor, to marry someone who worked hard so they could have a good life through their husband's labor.
It was even better if you were beautiful.
For school, it was decided that getting into a good university and joining a good company was an excellent life, and of course, being a doctor or lawyer was even more wonderful.
Like this, without even having to think for yourself, winning patterns were determined in great detail down to the smallest aspects of various fields.

Of course, what constituted a "win" was often debated due to differences in cultural spheres and lifestyles, but regardless, the image of "how to win" was quite fixed.

That is precisely why wish lists were expressed in terms of having big dreams and high hopes, and then working backward to achieve them, or making reservations for the future.
It is a method based on the philosophy that the future is already fixed, and all you have to do is get on the right route to reach it.
It is a way of thinking that says, within what is already decided, you should stretch yourself and fulfill high aspirations without hesitation.

Therefore, the way wish lists have been written until now is selective, and could also be calledconvergent.
The goal is decided from the start. Therefore, if you set a better goal and instill it strongly in yourself, you can get on that route.

However, the shape of the future has gradually begun to collapse significantly.
In Japan, there were major disasters like the Great East Japan Earthquake, followed by a pandemic that spread its influence across the entire world. Due to the bizarre development of social media, while face-to-face human relationships have become thin, information alone erodes our minds to the point where we mistake people we have never met for our own acquaintances, and we continue to pay money to maintain that without any sense of reality. On top of that, the devaluation of money and the emergence of AI have deepened the confusion even further.

Until now, it felt like a correct answer for everyone to get married as a "good woman" and achieve a wonderful lifestyle, or conversely, to pursue the exact opposite style as a counter-culture. But now, everything has turned into "that didn't really have much value, did it?" or, when you thought you were close to saving enough money to buy a house next year, a sudden price hike makes you realize "that amount is impossible." Meanwhile, a post you made on social media might go viral, causing your life to take an unexpected turn. There are just too many unforeseen developments.

Until now, goals were essentially about choosing your preferences from a set of options prepared for you to some extent, but now, half of the goals prepared from the start have rotted, and the other half are just anxious things that might be rotten but you won't know until you try them.

With the goals we have been given until now falling apart, almost no one can set a good goal for themselves without relying on anything.
Because choosing a fixed goal was the correct answer until now, very few people have honed the skill of setting a good goal for themselves—that is, creating a goal from scratch.
There are also almost no opportunities to be taught the skill of goal-setting by others.

Therefore, people end up doing meaningless muscle training, studying for certifications while feeling it has little meaning, or conversely, becoming devoted to suspicious spiritual content. (Spiritual content gives answers and tasks easily, so the brain doesn't have to work.)
Many "oshi-katsu" (fandom activities) pack behaviors for such people, telling them "you should act like this," and entertain them. Since they provide goals one after another, it is no wonder that they end up hijacking one's life direction before one realizes it.

In this situation, it is almost impossible to predict the future yourself and set a goal for success.
You cannot set a good goal for an uncertain future.

Wish lists written in the style of the previous era are constructed with the assumption that the future is definitely bright and economically prosperous.
There is a strong sense that pushing forward into the uncertain future after 2020 with that style will not work.

If you feel that writing in the old way feels somewhat chilling, and while there is a sense of being soothed by the lack of reality, the anxiety itself keeps growing, then I think you are correctly grasping the social situation.

You should not use a wish list to check your progress.

With that in mind, there is a premise that the way wish lists have been written until now does not fit the times. Based on that premise, let's look at some common practices when writing wish lists that are leading to less-than-ideal results.

Among them, let's talk about progress checks, such as "checking off what you've done to measure your level of achievement."

I often see people who write wish lists checking how many of the 100 items they wrote at the end of the year were achieved, and posting about it on blogs or short videos.
When I see that, I want to imitate it.
Because it feels fulfilling, and I simply think it looks nice.

However, I believe that you should not track progress on a wish list.

If you introduce a scale of achievement to a wish list, then "impossible wishes"—like the wish for a soft-boiled egg—would have to be considered invalid.
That alone undermines the very function of a wish list: the power to expand the possibilities of your life.

In the first place, the old-school style of writing a wish list and checking off progress is rooted in a hustle culture mechanism designed to confirm goal achievement and fuel motivation.
Hustle culture refers to the "work 24/7" lifestyle. We had that era in Japan, and in the U.S., since the 90s, there has been a culture in tech companies and corporate environments where working yourself to death to compete for results, stepping over others, and running on alcohol, drugs, and bizarre states of excitement was considered cool—something to aspire to.
Because of that, modern society is now dealing with severe mental illnesses and what we call death from overwork, and people are saying, "Let's stop doing that."

Yet, checking progress on a wish list means that even though you wished to escape such things, you are easily being pulled back into hustle culture.

Some of you might be wondering, "Then what happens when a wish list item is completed?"

A wish list is a list of wishes. If you mix in To-Do lists or obligation lists on your own, the power of the wish list will diminish, so you must keep it purely for wishes.
Therefore, when you think, "I'll do this," and execute it, it has already transformed into a schedule. Schedules cannot be in a wish list, so it graduates from the list.
Simply deleting it is fine. And your schedule will then be filled with all your time being used to execute what you wished for.

To begin with, a wish list is just a list of wishes.
Planning and thinking about what will happen when you actually do something are things that should be done outside of the wish list. The moment you start thinking about what is possible or impossible within the wish list, you are significantly deviating from its function.

A wish list should only contain wishes.
Therefore, it is impossible to track progress within a wish list.

In other words, you should not make your dreams come true within the wish list.
Making dreams come true is a matter for outside the wish list.
Outside the wish list—for example, in a planner or schedule management—when a wish becomes an action, it is always tied to time. A wish list has no time. Therefore, you cannot make dreams come true within a wish list.

A wish that you have taken outside of the wish list becomes reality.

If you actually try to execute it and it doesn't go well, you just need to turn it into a new wish that says, "I'll do this next time," and add it back to the list.

You might feel that crossing off the wish for a soft-boiled egg is a form of progress tracking, but crossing off the egg is just a functional check of the wish list, which is necessary during the production process.
However, progress tracking tends to follow a flow of clearing items based on the premise that the wish list is complete, and often involves giving yourself tasks that don't fit your incomplete self. That creates a flow that leads to landing in the wrong direction.

A wish list is neither a schedule nor a To-Do list. It is just a list of wishes, nothing more. It is precisely because it is just that, that I believe it is a mechanism that generates hope.

Writing unfulfilled wishes in the past tense as if they are already completed only doubles the stress.

Another common piece of advice for writing wish lists is, "Write in the past tense; use expressions as if unfulfilled wishes have already come true."

This is touted based on the theory that it is an application of RAS utilization that subconsciously imprints ideas: "Since the subconscious doesn't understand subjects or time, if you use phrasing as if it has already come true, the brain is tricked and moves toward that state."

The theory is likely not wrong, but first of all, it assumes that you are in a blessed environment and that your brain functions are extremely healthy and have high capacity.
Honestly, if you were in that state, you wouldn't even need to wish; if you put in the effort, it would just come true naturally.

I don't think it is taken into account enough that people suffering from symptoms like depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or anxiety disorders are also trying to write wish lists to realize their dreams.

There is no problem with believing "I am a princess" a little bit to straighten your posture, and it is a good way to lift your spirits.
While it's fine to just be mindful of your posture, when you are desperately trying to write a wish list, I think you are in a state of significant stress regarding life itself. You are engaging in it to try to improve or solve that.

To remind yourself that you are physically and mentally healthy and have blessed relationships and financial circumstances, expressing that you are already fulfilled is fine, but people who are in the midst of lack and confusion do not have the resources to feel that way.

Humans experience the least amount of stress when their words, actions, and heart (emotions and thoughts) are in alignment. Conversely, when these are misaligned, it leads to feelings of stress. Smiling and being friendly to someone you don't even like, or saying "I respect you" to someone you actually want to curse, can sometimes feel so repulsive it makes you feel physically ill.
That is how much the misalignment of words, actions, and the heart causes confusion and stress.
This is also referred to as cognitive dissonance.

Therefore, writing that a wish has come true when you are fully aware that it hasn't actually happened only creates further unpleasant stress on top of an already stressful state.

So why is writing in a way that creates a mismatch between words and reality recommended as an effective method? It is because the discomfort caused by that mismatch (cognitive dissonance) is intended to be converted into a force that forcibly aligns the current situation with the state described in your words.

I believe this also stems from the New Thought movement, which suggests that your mindset changes your situation and that thoughts become reality.
There is also a hybrid, heavily modified version that incorporates the Japanese concept of 'kotodama' (the power of words).

Writing in the past tense as if it has already happened, or even adding words of gratitude, is very helpful for people living a life of leisure, but for those struggling to survive, it can sometimes be a fatal approach.

Instead, it is better to simply write your wishes honestly.
In fact, it is more effective to express what you are currently feeling—that is, to align with your heart.By simply aligning your heart and words, it becomes easier to align your actions as well.
It is better to use your energy to be honest rather than using it to twist yourself out of shape.

Why is writing 100 items so popular?

When people hear 'wish list,' they often ask, 'You mean writing 100 items, right?' Writing 100 items has become a standard. This is a common occurrence.

This is partly because such books were hits in the past, and it has been a stable style practiced by many for at least 20 years, so it is widely recognized that a wish list means writing 100 items.

Writing 100 items also provides a great sense of accomplishment in terms of numbers. It is a number that feels impressive.
Besides, 100 items feels like something you could manage to write.
The level of difficulty is very appealing.

However, the goal here is also to extract what is in your head by putting pressure on yourself through the attractive challenge of writing 100 items.

In other words, what is important is not the number, but exhausting everything you think and feel.
However, because the number 100 becomes the main focus, the means become the end, and the discussion often centers on how to manage to write 100 items.

For those who cannot write 100 items, it is generally recommended to categorize them into work, health, family, relationships, etc., rather than just trying to write 100 blindly.

When you do that, it tends to become more of a to-do list than a wish list, and obligation lists start to creep in heavily.
Once that happens, it starts to involve time constraints, turning it more into a list of this year's resolutions, and then you start wanting to add the decoration of progress checks.

The pressure to write 100 items contains a structure that easily leads to this kind of degradation of the wish list.

If you have 5 wishes, 5 is fine. People don't actually have that many wishes.
The number is not the issue. 325 is also fine.

The methods I thought were good have all backfired

Looking at how wish lists originated from a historical perspective, one can feel that they are by no means an absolute rule common to the entire universe.

If you engage in these methods without knowing about such discrepancies, you will fall into a negative loop where things backfire. The more seriously and earnestly you do it, the more that happens.

I have written about many negative aspects, so I think more people are starting to feel that writing a wish list is not a good thing, but the wish list itself has power.
Otherwise, it wouldn't have continued for so long.

From this point on, it is necessary to move away from the old-fashioned style of wish lists and shift your perspective to a style that fits the current era.

Until now, against the backdrop of a prosperous and stable society, wish lists have been used to converge toward self-selected goals. However, we are now in a state where it is difficult to even find those goals themselves.
In other words, it means there is a need to readjust the focus of the RAS, which functions to fixate on goals and shut out other information.

Here, the new wish list I propose focuses the RAS on finding your own goals.

While it used to be easy to set goals, we are now in an era where that is no longer possible, so you must set the RAS focus to “finding the goal that is right for me.”

Instead of setting goals like “meeting my ideal partner and getting married” or “achieving these specific results at work,” you should focus the RAS on the stage before goal setting: “finding the objective I should aim for.”

The goals or objectives found in this way are likely not things that will come from thinking with your own head. Rather, they exist in places you cannot yet know.

That is precisely why you should not set goals by thinking for yourself, but rather have your brain find them by fully engaging your RAS and subconscious. This is what it means to expand the possibilities of your life.

What you can think of with your own head is limited. Especially since the things you want to put on your wish list for the future are things you have never actually done, they are just ideas squeezed out by the ignorance of a beginner. There is no way you can build a good plan in such a state.
However, instead of thinking as such an ignorant and powerless self, you should use the RAS to incorporate a wider and deeper range of information and new events by making your brain work more broadly.
Rather than struggling to think with insufficient knowledge, use your brain more extensively to give yourself options beyond what you had previously imagined.
Things you cannot do now will become possible as you grow. You must draw out that growth.

This is the power of a wish list.

But if you write a wish list in the old-fashioned style, you won't gain that power; in fact, everything will backfire.

What is scary is that the content itself does not change whether you use the old style or the style suited for today. At a glance, you cannot tell the difference. Therefore, if you are swayed by appearances, you will make the wrong judgment.
And you will unconsciously reproduce the flow of the old way of doing things.

Therefore, it is necessary to prevent yourself from being pushed back into the old style by placing your wish list into the format I propose: the “Soft-Boiled, Hard-Boiled, Marinated Egg Wish List.”

6. Transitioning from a Convergent Wish List to a Function that Expands Possibilities

A wish list is nothing more than a list.

If you think a wish list is something that makes dreams come true, you won't be able to write one.
This is because a wish list is just a list, a string of characters, and it does not mean that the government will protect you or that you will be given unlimited money just because you have one.

First, you must stop placing excessive expectations on your wish list. It is not the list that makes dreams come true, but the actions of you, the person who holds it.

So, while writing your wish list, I think rational judgments like “This kind of luxury is impossible” or “It’s tough to have these hopes at my age” might cross your mind, and that is a very correct sense.
It is just unnecessary when writing a wish list; it is a very important sense for daily life and work, so it would be wrong to discard or seal it away.

It is simply not needed when writing a wish list.
That is a capability that should be utilized outside of the wish list.

A wish list is just a list. Therefore, it won't grant your wishes on its own. You, the person who holds the list, look at it and mobilize all the experience and knowledge you have acquired to think about what to do.
After the wish list, that comes next.

At that time, your reason will emerge, saying things like “This is probably impossible” or “This is the more realistic interpretation.”
But if you have a good wish list, that reason will also begin to think from a different angle than before.

You know you can't become a ballerina at this point, but your brain starts to think, 'If I were a ballerina, I would make this choice...'

How you manifest that in your current life becomes the stage that follows the wish list.

From Convergent to Expansive

In a world where the solid certainty of 'do this to succeed' from the past has vanished, the 'reservation' approach of setting goals blindly, or the 'reverse-calculation' approach that starts from arbitrary goal setting, has become high-risk.

In contrast, a wish list that 'expands life's possibilities' directs the function of the RAS entirely toward expanding possibilities rather than achieving goals.
The focus has been shifted from the way wish lists were written in the past.

To shift the focus, you must include impossible wishes (raw egg wishes) alongside achievable ones.
This creates a visual effect where the impossible begins to look possible, which leads to focusing on expanding possibilities.

The rule for stimulating the RAS was that the higher the specificity, the better, but the higher the specificity, the lower the possibilities.
In the first place, the RAS (Reticular Activating System) is a function that filters and picks out information that fits a single condition from a vast amount of data (all perceptions like sound, sight, smell, as well as memories like knowledge and experience), so it is a process of ruthlessly cutting off and crushing possibilities.
In other words, the old-school style of wish lists is a style that cuts off possibilities one after another in exchange for achieving a goal.

Instead, you use the RAS function to increase the options for a future that is beneficial and appropriate for you. Here, the filter is: 'Is this beneficial to me?'

However, you cannot fully judge what is beneficial to you on your own.
Getting appropriate feedback from others is good, but that is also honestly difficult. People are creatures who engage in position-talk that is convenient for themselves.
Another approach is to set the brain's RAS function to 'possibilities that seem likely to be beneficial to me' beforehand. Even if your own mind thinks it's better to choose the cheaper option, information scrutinized by the RAS might tell you, 'You should choose the content that satisfies you, even if it's a little more expensive.'
When that happens, even though you usually buy the cheaper one based on price, you might suddenly feel the urge to check, 'Maybe this one has better quality?' If you actually touch it, you might feel that it's worth paying a little extra, leading to a new behavioral change where you choose based on quality rather than price.
In this way, you can naturally take actions that gradually break through the dead ends of your current situation.

This is not something you force yourself to do by pumping yourself up.
It is simply about naturally having ideas and becoming more likely to take different actions than before, while feeling a little bit of anticipation.

When that small accumulation happens frequently in several areas, your environment begins to change all at once.

Conversely, if you think in a convergent way, not only are there no other options, but you also tend to put pressure on yourself or get exhausted by piling up meaningless efforts like 'I'll do 10,000 affirmations until it's ingrained in my subconscious!'
You end up exhausted without any results.

However, no matter what filter settings you use, running the RAS at full capacity means running your brain at full capacity, which in itself consumes a lot of energy.
Therefore, I want it to be an activity that yields results, not exhaustion without results.

Before behavioral change, there is emotional change

A good wish list naturally puts you in a state of mind where you feel motivated just by looking at it, your heart doesn't break when bad things happen, you don't get too carried away when good things happen, and you can properly recover when sad things happen.

Just by writing them down (preparing the three types of wishes: raw egg, boiled egg, and seasoned egg), you get closer to that state all at once.
However, if things other than what you truly wish for are mixed in, it is difficult to reach that state of mind.
If you don't reach that state of mind, there is a high possibility that there is some mistake in what you have written and that things that are not 'wishes' are mixed in.

But anyway, once your state of mind is well-adjusted, your behavior will change smoothly.

It's not just about writing; as you cross off the seasoned egg wishes, they become even clearer.
If incorrect content is in your wish list, you can clearly see what got mixed in, or you might realize that what you need to write is missing and add significantly to it, increasing the perfection of the wish list.
When that happens, your state of mind is adjusted to a good state again.

You can judge what to write based on this state of mind.
If this doesn't happen, there is a high possibility that something is wrong with that wish list.

In the end, what should I write?

I have written about many things up to this point, but I imagine some of you are wondering, 'So, what exactly should I write on my wish list?'

However, in reality, I suspect some of you have already started writing, thinking, 'If I can write down even impossible wishes, I'll write that one,' while others might suddenly feel motivated when they realize, 'Oh, I can write down things I can do as early as tomorrow.'

In other words, you should not ask others what you should write. What you write is the correct answer for you.

I feel like my handwriting is messy. (You can write it out neatly later. Besides, no one else will read it, so don't worry. Just make sure you can read it yourself.)
I feel like I'm writing strange things. (Everything you desire is correct, so write it down without hesitation.)
I heard it's better to write in the past tense. (That's a lie. Prioritize a writing style and expression that feels right to you.)
Should I write 100 things? (You don't have to, but it's fun to write as many as you can think of, and what you write will serve as a proper guide.)
I'm afraid to write things that seem impossible, as if it will just prove they won't come true... (The result is the same whether you write them or not, so try writing them down once. It's common for something to change a little once you've written them down.)

At first, you might have these kinds of surprisingly childish anxieties.
But that is perfectly fine.

Write down your incomplete and immature wishes.
Be sure to include impossible wishes, and include achievable wishes on the same level.
There must be many other wishes you have, so keep adding those as well.

The important thing is that writing them down does not mean your wishes will come true.
Look at what you've written, read it, and see what kind of emotional changes occur within you. That is the very first step.

And once you feel a change in your emotions, act accordingly and update your wish list further.

Move your life forward while writing your wish list.

The catchphrase for wish lists has always been that writing them makes them come true, but I wrote this long text for those who have strayed from the right path into a dead end because of those words, wasting their lives just mass-producing mysterious lists.

I wrote this for the fools who made the foolish choice of mistaking the act of writing a wish list for the goal itself, believing that if they wrote it correctly it would come true, and neglecting everything else.

People can become foolish when they are very tired or have experienced something shocking.
Their original wisdom disappears, they get swayed by outdated and useless methods, and there are heaps of people who continue to push themselves toward unhappiness in their notebooks.

I hope that such people will regain their sanity, recover their inherent sensitivity and straightforward power of expression, and use their own wisdom to head straight in the direction their hearts truly desire.

I believe that is what it means to write a very simple wish list—writing down the wishes in your heart—and from there, you will begin to steer yourself in the direction you truly need to go.

Wishes do not come true just by having a wish list.
Because it is merely a list of wishes.
However, when you write it out correctly, a driving force to move in that direction is born within your heart.

May a wish list that guides you correctly appear in your hands.