What to do when you're left on unread or read: Part 1 - When I was searching for the right answer

Good evening🌛

When you are left on unread or read,

you don't know what to do.

So,

you want to talk to someone.

You search online.

You watch videos.

You read notes.



He is an avoidant type.

Long LINE messages are bad.

Double-texting is bad.

Asking questions is bad.

It's better to wait half a year.

It's better to send a light message.



The more you research,

the more you start to wonder,

"So, what is the right answer for me?"

It begins.



"How are you?" is bad.

"I'm doing well😊" is also wrong.

Then what should I send?

Wait!?

We can't even have a conversation🤣



Even on Coconala,

this kind of exchange happens sometimes.

But that just shows how serious everyone is.

I don't want to make a mistake.

I don't want to be disliked.

I don't want him to drift further away.

That's why,

you end up searching for the right answer.



But,

there is one thing I want you to know here.

There is no single "right answer."

Even if they are the same avoidant type,

the length of time you've been dating,

his personality,

his work situation,

and your relationship history are all different.

Therefore,

the method that worked for Person A

might not work for you.



What's important is

not to search for the right answer,

but to think about "what is right for him right now."

When you think about it alone,



you get more and more lost.

At times like that,

it's okay not to carry it all by yourself.

You cared for him so much

that you were searching for the right answer.

You didn't want to make a mistake.

You didn't want to be disliked.

You didn't want him to drift further away.

So,

instead of searching for the right answer alone,

let's organize the current situation together,

"What would be right for him right now?"

Let's think about it together from that perspective😊