For clients struggling with a mismatch between their inner and outer selves

Knowing what suits you is about reclaiming your true self

When I ask clients what prompted them to seek image consulting, I find that each person has their own unique background.

A client who visited me the other day came for a personal color diagnosis and personal design analysis after quitting her job about two years ago and experiencing various changes in her private life, including family matters.

While listening to her concerns about her appearance, I asked about the clothes she had chosen in the past and what she likes.

As we talked about various things, I felt something once again.

That is,

that "knowing what suits you" is not just about making it easier to choose clothes or colors

is what it means.

What kind of person am I?

What kind of aura do I have?

What do I actually like?

And how do I want to be seen by those around me?

I believe that knowing what "suits" you is also an opportunity to rethink these things about yourself.

When your inner and outer selves align, a sense of "this is me" is born

Of course, there is nothing wrong with having a gap between your inner and outer selves.

In fact, that unexpectedness can sometimes be a charm, can't it?

However, having done this work for many years, I notice that many people are troubled by the discrepancy between their inner and outer selves.

For example,

"Even though I don't intend to, for some reason I am perceived as being intense."

"Even though I actually like more flamboyant things, I end up choosing only safe, plain clothes."

"Even when I wear clothes, I don't feel like myself."

It is a small sense of discomfort like that.

Each one might not be such a big problem on its own.

However, as those feelings of discomfort pile up,

"I don't know what I should wear"

"I can't feel confident in myself"

"Even when I dress up, it just doesn't feel right"

It can sometimes lead to feelings like these.

Conversely, when your inner self and outer appearance begin to align little by little, changes start to emerge in your daily life.

You become less hesitant when choosing clothes.

The discomfort of wondering, "Is this okay?" decreases.

You become able to honestly say you like what you like.

You stop worrying more than necessary about how others see you.

And above all,

"This is me"

you become able to think that way.

I believe this is one of the great benefits of image consulting.

A client who kept choosing "safe clothes"

This client told me that until now, she hadn't really expressed her individuality, choosing clothes mainly based on simple designs or items that wouldn't cause any issues in the eyes of those around her.

However, when we actually performed the personal color diagnosis and personal design analysis, the results were significantly different from what she had expected.

What was particularly impressive was that

a slightly playful, stylish design suits you very well

is true.

The client herself was also very surprised.

Oh, really?

While reacting like that, we looked at various designs.

And as the diagnosis progressed, a phrase suddenly came up.

I don't actually dislike it

That phrase left a deep impression on me.

Perhaps, somewhere in her heart, she had been drawn to such things for a long time.

However, due to her past environment and experiences,

It's better not to stand out

It's safer to be conventional

Things like this don't suit me

She may have gradually diminished her own individuality.

Knowing what suits you can bring out dormant individuality

By knowing your personal color and personal design, colors and designs you haven't chosen before

Actually suit me

You may realize that.

Then,

I realize, "It's okay for me to wear clothes like this."

I realize, "This is the kind of thing I actually liked."

I realize, "I have more personality than I thought."

You may discover a new side of yourself.

This is not just about having more fashion choices.

It is also about rediscovering things that were once inside you but had become invisible over time.

I believe it is that kind of process as well.

And as your inner self and outer appearance gradually align, when you look in the mirror,

"This feels like me"

becomes easier to feel.

When your appearance changes, your feelings and actions change too.

The benefit of aligning your inner and outer self is not just a reduction in fashion-related worries.

By wearing clothes that feel "like you," you may find that you feel less resistance to being in public, or that you feel more inclined to try new things.

This is because your appearance also serves as a message to yourself.

"I am fine as I am"

"This is what I like"

"It is okay to express my individuality"

You can cultivate these feelings little by little through your daily attire.

When you do this, wearing clothes becomes not just about "how I am seen by others," but also about

"how I want to be."

It becomes something that expresses who you are.

Life changes can also be a catalyst for re-evaluating your fashion.

Just like with this client, when your life stage changes—such as quitting a job, a change in lifestyle, or a shift in family relationships—the clothes you used to wear may suddenly stop feeling right.

Clothes that used to suit you might feel a bit off for who you are now.

You might find that you no longer want to wear things you once loved.

Conversely, you might find yourself drawn to things you wouldn't have chosen before.

That happens, too.

It may not just be because you have gotten older.

As your own values and environment change, naturally, what you seek in your appearance changes as well.

That is why, at turning points in life,

“What kind of person am I now?”

I believe there is value in taking a fresh look at yourself.

Image consulting is “time to reclaim yourself”

Image consulting is not just about knowing what clothes suit you.

It is also a time to discover charms you hadn't noticed yourself and personalities you had sealed away, and to gradually set them free.

When there is a large gap between your inner and outer self,

a small sense of discomfort, like

“something just doesn't feel right,” accumulates.

But when your inner and outer selves naturally connect,

“I am forcing myself to put on a performance”

that feeling will diminish, and

“This is who I am now”

you will naturally begin to think.

Doesn't that also lead to treating yourself with more care?

If you are currently feeling:

“I’ve always chosen safe clothes, but I actually want to express a bit more personality”

“I don’t know what suits me”

“I feel like the clothes I like and the clothes that suit me are different”

“Lately, my old clothes don’t feel right anymore”

If you feel that way, I recommend taking a moment to re-evaluate the balance between your inner self and your outer appearance.

It is surprisingly difficult to notice your own charm on your own.

That is why, by having someone else find your “uniqueness” from a third-party perspective, you might make some unexpected discoveries.

This client also signed up for our Advanced Course, which includes a personal shopping session.

How will we express the “original personality” discovered during the consultation when choosing actual clothes?

I am very much looking forward to seeing how you will look during our shopping session in a month.

I am really excited about it!

For those looking for personal color analysis, personal design analysis, and makeup lessons in Yokohama and Shizuoka.

At OnYourColor, we don't just make knowing “what suits you” the goal; we offer image consulting that considers the next step: “living comfortably as yourself.”

Changing your appearance is not about changing who you are.

It is about noticing the charm that was already within you and naturally expressing it in your appearance.

I would be happy to help you with that.