What does it mean to have a 'wonderful end to life'?

Recently, there was a draft article I wanted to post, but I just couldn't seem to finish writing it.

The premise I needed to explain before getting to what I really wanted to write became too long, so I just couldn't get it to feel right. I wrote and saved it many times, but it still wouldn't come together well 💦

That was when I read Fumiko-san's article‼️

I thought, 'This, this is it.'

I realized that the kind of family relationship I am aiming for with 'a wonderful way to welcome the end of life' = 'Shukatsu' (end-of-life planning) is exactly like this...

I really want you to read Fumiko-san's article mentioned above ☝️ to see what she and her parents worked on.

Because every family has different circumstances, backgrounds, and parent-child relationships, not everyone may be able to do what Fumiko-san did.

But Fumiko-san also has a history of overcoming challenges in her relationship with her family.

You must read the trilogy within this article! Because Fumiko-san has struggled, taken on challenges, overcome them, and rebuilt her relationship with her family, I am so moved by the article I introduced at the beginning.

It is my ideal of what the end of life should be like...

Her parents and Fumiko-san talked about their thoughts with smiles, accepted each other, and even though it was a story about 'the end of life,' it included laughter and even a sense of excitement, which I felt was one of the best approaches to 'Shukatsu.'

Perhaps, for Fumiko-san and her parents, this is just the beginning.

I'm sure there are still things she wants her parents to do, organize, or leave behind. Her parents might also have things they want to tell Fumiko-san.

But first and foremost, I truly believe it is a blessing that her parents were able to decide on their own 'end of life' and that their daughter, Fumiko-san, was there with them to accept it.

This will also serve as a catalyst for the necessary discussions that follow.

For example, that might include talks about graves, inheritance, or the division of assets...

While we are still alive, it is generally difficult to have such conversations because people might think it's bad luck, that you're waiting for them to die, or that you're just after their money.

But I believe that is exactly where the most important discussions lie. That is because I am someone who has actually had a very difficult experience with this.

Having been able to have this kind of conversation, I am sure Fumiko-san and her parents will be able to move forward with discussions for the next steps, little by little.

In society, it is said that writing an 'Ending Note,' a 'Living Will,' or a 'Last Will and Testament' is an important part of 'Shukatsu'.

Of course, that is also very important.

However, I believe that true 'end-of-life planning'—or 'a wonderful way to end one's life'—is not just about taking stock of your own life or writing down your wishes for your final moments alone, but rather, if possible,
talking with the family you leave behind, re-evaluating relationships, connecting in new ways, and sometimes even rebuilding them.

For example, regarding funeral arrangements, there might be differences in the thoughts and positions of the person passing away and those who are seeing them off.

I think it would be wonderful if we could talk about that while we are still alive and reach a final moment where both sides can feel, 'This was good.'

Of course, this is an ideal scenario.
Some may feel, 'I cannot build that kind of relationship with my parents.'

There may also be cases where you feel you expect nothing from your family, or that it is too late to regret anything.

There may also be cases where you simply do not want to face them.
I think that is possible.

But 'the end of life' is something that everyone will inevitably face.
It is the end of life.

And I think that even those who speak of ideals (like me) are important. Even if people say it's just an ideal and impossible for them, I still want to talk about it.

This article is about my take on 'a wonderful way to end one's life.'

If this has become a starting point for you to think about it, I would be very happy with just that.

'End-of-life planning for parents' and 'end-of-life planning for myself'—I want to keep thinking about these things!

Yes, 'end-of-life planning' is about me.
I want to think about what kind of end I want to have, and for that sake, how I will live my life and how I will connect with my family.

If you would like to know why I learned about 'end-of-life planning' and why I am sharing my thoughts like this, I would be grateful if you could read the article below.

Although I am someone who talks about 'end-of-life planning,' what I most want to convey is the recommendation to live a rich life, and as a proposal for that, to enrich your 'relationships with family' (including those who take the place of family) in your life.

While I am fully aware that there are various conflicts, I hope to continue sharing my thoughts (*^^*)

Finally...

I also wrote that recommending 'end-of-life planning' is about living a rich life.

I believe it would be good for everyone to have a place where they feel safe, trusted, and comfortable.

And I hope that the 'Dream Consultation Room' can become one such place.

The workshop for November is below👇️👇️👇️
We look forward to the participation of those who are interested (^-^)v

Thank you for reading again this time
Thank you very much
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