You are trusted because you take on the 'troublesome' tasks

Being relied on by others
feels good, doesn't it?

When I am asked by my boss, subordinates, or sometimes colleagues to
"please handle this,"
I immediately reply with
"With pleasure!" and accept the task.

Now, what kind of person is trusted by others?

Last time, I wrote an article about how"people who can put themselves second"
are "trusted by others."

Because you respect the other person's existence,
they recognize you as
"a wonderful person."

This time, I would like to share with you
another theme to consider
in order to be trusted by others.

It is...

You are trusted because you
take on "troublesome" tasks.

There are so many
"troublesome" things, aren't there? (-_-;)/

General household chores like laundry, dishwashing, and cleaning.

Studying for certifications, exercising, reading...

In terms of work,
daily tasks, meetings, and dealing with customers.

If you start thinking of things as "troublesome,"
they will overflow endlessly.

I have even seen the phrase
"it's even troublesome to breathe"
used in manga.

Taking on the burden of various
"troublesome" daily tasks.

A person who reaches out to the"itchy spots" that you feel are "troublesome"
and asks, "Is this what you need help with?"

Without a doubt,
this kind of personis trusted by others.

Why are you trusted when you lend a hand
with the "troublesome" parts?

I have given it some thought, so
I would appreciate it if you could bear with me.

Well then, let's get started♬

✔ An 'emotion' everyone has

Feeling 'troublesome' is
an emotion that everyone has without exception.

From children to the elderly,
regardless of age or gender.
(Babies cannot express it in words, so
it is difficult to judge...)

No matter how much of a genius at effort you are,
you cannot escape
the emotion of feeling 'troublesome'.

Mainly,
when you feel 'troublesome' is...

・When your brain has spare capacity
・When performing actions that place a heavy burden on the brain
・When trying something new

When accompanied by the above actions,
you feel 'this is troublesome'.

Now, I mentioned that 'troublesome' is
an emotion everyone has.

That is precisely why
it is easy to gain empathy from others and is also
one of its characteristics.

And,
hidden behind 'troublesome'
is the emotion of
'wanting to take it easy'.

✔ Helping others
　to take it easy

In other words,
when faced with a troublesome situation,
people want to be released from that state.

They think, 'I want to take it easy'.

If you reach out and say,
'I'll help you' to someone who is
thinking, 'I want to have it easy'
in their heart,
how do you think they will feel?

'You saved me'
'Thank you'
'You are a thoughtful person'

As shown above, they will feel gratitude.

This is because you are the
person who freed them first and foremost from the troublesome task.

In other words, you will be
recognized as a 'reliable person'.

* * * * *

Everyone, without exception,
'believes that they are the most important existence' to themselves.

I, too, of course,
'myself' am important to me (´∀｀*) hehe

But, rather than just thinking about yourself,
it is the feeling of caring for others who are not you.

People who value the existence of others
in that way
will also be treated with care themselves.

Troublesome things come in all shapes and sizes.

The
'degree of trouble'
differs from person to person.

That is precisely why it is important to
notice the 'troublesome' things
for the other person.

After all, I think there is no harm in actively
lending a hand with actions that the other person
sees as 'troublesome'.

In a good way, they will feel,
'This person understands me.'

Is there anyone around you who is
struggling with 'troublesome' matters?

That is precisely the'opportunity'you need.

To win trust, why not
take the initiative and act?

When you free others from what is 'troublesome',
the time will come when you, in turn,
will be freed
from what is 'troublesome' by them.

Well then, until next time.
Goodbye.