Having 'Only Prejudices' Will Create Many Enemies

We all, to some extent,
view things through a lens of prejudice.

・People with quiet voices
are sloppy in their private lives.

・People who are unfriendly cannot get married.

・Child-rearing is a woman's job.

Regardless of the facts, we
unconsciously view others through a lens of prejudice.

Why do we
twist the facts?

And at the same time,
as long as you are viewing others by twisting the facts,
"your surroundings will be full of enemies."

If you feel that "people have been harsh lately,"
it may be proof that you are unknowingly
responding to others with prejudiced thinking.

Also, the other person will likely
be viewing you through a lens of prejudice in return.

Even though they might actually
be a kind-hearted person...

Even though they might be someone who cares about others...

Even though they might be a
wonderful person full of love...

A "lens of prejudice"
can be called a terrifying "brain disease"
that even changes your positive thinking.

The theme this time is
Having 'Only Prejudices' Will Create Many Enemies.

I hope you will read on
and deepen your learning
as one means of fostering good human relationships.

Well then, let's get started♬

✔The true nature of prejudice

The act of viewing others by assigning them meanings that differ from the facts = prejudice.

In the first place, why do we view others
through the eyes of prejudice?

There are three reasons.

① Lack of knowledge or experience
② Influence brought about by the environment
③ Self-protection

I will explain each of these.

① Lack of knowledge or experience
　We are creatures that feel
　fear and anxiety toward unknown information.
　
　In the case of information we do not possess ourselves,
　what becomes the basis for judgment
　is our knowledge and experience to date.

　However, when we are forced to judge
　based on limited knowledge or experience,
　the result is that we fall into biased thinking.

② Influence brought about by the environment
　The influence of those around us
　becomes a factor that fosters biased thinking.

　If you belong to an environment where many people support
　certain values or discriminatory opinions,
　a prejudiced perspective is inevitably cultivated.

③ Self-protection
　In order to protect our own pride,
　by viewing those around us with prejudice,
　we conclude that "that person is wrong,"
　which leads to self-protection and the relief of anxiety.

These three reasons intertwine,
and we twist the facts about others
and view them through "eyes of prejudice."

Also,
when you are not feeling well and lack peace of mind.
When you are irritated by stress.
When things are not going well in your personal relationships.

When you are overwhelmed by anxiety,
the more you worry
using only the pieces (thoughts) you have...
the 'eyes of prejudice' will approach you.

'It's fine, just give up.
It's only painful to keep holding on.
Look at the other person in a way that suits you.'

When you succumb to such devilish temptation,
you begin to twist the facts about the other person
and interpret them in a way that is convenient for you.

✔ My personal experience

This is a story about my boss.

My boss is a warm-hearted person
who respects those senior to him.

However, when an unfavorable situation
befalls him,
he always finds'someone'to blame.

And the words that come out
are nothing but baseless claims
seen through the 'eyes of prejudice'.

'That person has a bad personality.'
'There's a problem with how their parents raised them.'
'Young people these days are always like this.'

To the point where you want to ask,
'Is that a fact?',
he ignores his own faultsand blames the other person.

Perhaps,
even though 'that person is not the cause',
he acts as if it is 'that person's fault'.

People who see things through the 'eyes of prejudice'
are also 'geniuses at making excuses'.

There is no weight to the words that come out of their mouths.

As a result, the boss is not trusted by his subordinates
and manages to keep relationships
only on the surface.

This is because if any problem were to arise
when dealing with him,
there is a risk of being blamed for it.

The facts are twisted,
and you are made out to be the perpetrator.

In that case, it is only natural for people around him
to decide from the start to 'not get involved'.

✔ Bye-bye prejudice

Everyone has different values.

Everyone is different, and everyone is good.

I feel that to be liberated from "prejudiced eyes," one must
"acknowledge each other's values."

At the same time, it is important to "not expect too much from others" and "not demand anything from them."

Thinking about it that way, I get the impression that the more a person has a strong desire for approval, the more they are trapped by "prejudiced eyes."

Sometimes "the truth" is cruel, and there are things you do not want to face directly.

"If I acknowledge this value, I will no longer be myself."

When you encounter such a situation, "prejudiced eyes" creep up from behind.

They twist the facts and begin to interpret them in a way that is convenient for you.

But please think about it.

Acknowledging the value of others
lowering your own valueis something that rarely happens.

If you think about it in terms of performance evaluations within a company, it depends on the time and circumstances.

However,
“invaluable worth” that is not swayed by anything is also a reflection of that person's own values.

In the first place, there is nothing to compare it to.

“That’s amazing.”
“As expected!”
“Wonderful!”

Those who can translate the values of others
into their own personal growth
will likely take steps forward
one after another.

If you look at others through “prejudiced eyes,”
your progress will slow down,
and at worst, you will only regress.

Rather than twisting unchangeable facts,
you should spend your time
cultivating your own values.

If you do that, your values will naturally be recognized by those around you,
and you yourself will also respect the values of others.

By all means, let’s say a big goodbye
to those “prejudiced eyes.”

In order to cultivate
your own unique, universal worth...

Well then, until next time.
Goodbye.