7 Actions to Be Valued by Others

If you want to be freed from
relationship worries

You are not the only one who feels
that way strongly.

The fact that "you think so" means
the other person is thinking the same.

Many relationship problems lie in
mutual misunderstandings.

"I said this, you said that"
"It's not this, it's that"
"Why would you do such a thing?"

Due to differences in values and ethics,
opinions clash head-on.

As a result, if you draw a line saying
"I don't get along with this person,"
it will create a huge rift in the relationship.

Before that happens...

What I think is,
I want to ask, "Are you taking
actions that make others like you?".

"No, no, I don't want to be a people-pleaser"
—I fully understand that opinion.

Of course, I am not recommending
excessive service or behavior.

The actions introduced in this article
are common, but I have carefully selected
those that are easily overlooked.

The theme this time is
"7 Actions to Be Valued by Others".

Are you overthinking what it takes
to be valued by others?

Not at all.

Through simple yet fundamental actions,
you will be able to be treated
sufficiently well by others.

Naturally, your worries about human relationships
will likely decrease dramatically.

I would be happy if you would
read on for reference.

Now, let's get started (^^♪

✔ Basic mindset for
being valued by others

Before I share the seven actions
to be valued by others,
please first understand the basic principle.

To put it bluntly!!

If you yourself want to be valued by others, you should
provide the answers the other person seeks.

You don't value the other person.
But you want to be valued by them.

There is no such convenient story.

Humans are animals that live by emotion.

Even if things are decided by rules,
actions are greatly influenced by emotions.

Would you feel "valued"
by the words and actions emitted
from someone you think is "unpleasant"?

You would surely think,
"In that case, you don't have to do anything."

That is why,
if you want to be valued by others,
you should firstvalue the other person.

Furthermore, I will share with you
seven actions you should take.

✔ 7 Actions
　to be valued by others

I mentioned that if you want to be valued by someone,
you must first value them.

The important thing is, when the other person is in a difficult situation,
how should you act so that they
feel that they are being valued by you?

Now, from here on,
I will introduce seven specific examples
of actions you should take.

[Examples of people in trouble]

① Someone feeling lonely
② Someone cowering from a terrifying experience
③ Someone itching to chat
④ Someone reluctant to try something new
⑤ Someone feeling isolated without anyone who understands them
⑥ Someone running around busily
⑦ Someone who did something that pleased you

For each example,
I will introduce actions that will make
　the other person feel valued by you.

① Someone feeling lonely
　⇒ Stay by their side

For those who feel, or end up feeling,
lonely, please do your best to
stay by their side.

The sense of security that comes from knowing "I am here with you"
becomes kindness toward the other person,
and they will strongly desire to cherish
their relationship with you.

② Someone cowering from a terrifying experience
　⇒ Create a pleasant space

Painful experiences
make anyone feel down.

There are opinions that say,
"In such times, you should empathize
　or tell them to hang in there."

However, I also feel that
providing a fun atmosphere
and lifting the other person's spirits
is important.

Once you help them forget a fearful experience,
they should be able to
transform it into a good memory.

3. People itching to chat
⇒ Listen attentively to what they have to say

The act of listening is an act of
preserving the identity of both you and the other person.

That is precisely why,
when someone shows enthusiasm
to chat with you, you should listen sincerely
rather than doing it half-heartedly.

4. People reluctant to take on new challenges
⇒ Offer words of affirmation and give them a push

Everyone feels anxious
about "taking on new challenges."

If someone says, "I want to try
challenging myself with this...", please
be sure to affirm them.

If you empower them by saying, "You can do it,"
they will feel that you are
a special presence to them.

5. People who feel lonely without anyone to understand them
⇒ Think together about "what they want understood"
and empathize

The situation of "no one empathizing with my thoughts"
is plagued by a terrifying
sense of loneliness.

Even for people who like
working silently on their own,
they are seeking understanding in a corner of their heart.

I recommend gathering the courage to ask such people,
"What points would you like me to understand?"

The distance between you and them
will naturally shrink.

6. People rushing around busily
⇒ Reach out and ask, "Is there anything I can help with?"

The busier people are,
the less room they have to look at their surroundings.

That is precisely why
the act of you reaching out to them
is highly valued by the other person.

Please kindly ask them,
"Is there anything I can help you with?"

That mindset
will surely be conveyed to the other person.

7. For those who do things that make you happy
=> From the bottom of your heart
Express your gratitude

You must not dismiss the kindness of others.

Precisely because they have thought of you and acted
with the intention of doing something for you,
you should respond to their feelings.

Because the other person
wants to see your happy face.

* * * * *

Because we live in a human society,
the feeling of being cherished by others
is directly linkedto the "sense of living."

The "feeling of being needed by someone"
connects to your own sense of self-worth.

That is why, once again,
in order to be cherished by others,
I sincerely hope that you will
look back on the
"7 actions" I have introduced.

Furthermore, the mindset of cherishing others
is elevatedinto a
"mindset of cherishing yourself."

A person who can respect the existence of others
is someone who
"knows how to respect"themselves.

You too...
And the people who are important to you...

To maintain a relationship where you both
cherish each other's existence.

I hope you find this topic
helpful as a reference.

Well then, until next time.
Goodbye.