The words you say to yourself determine the quality of your work

"I messed up again. I'm useless."

Have you ever muttered that to yourself in your heart?

It wasn't said by anyone else.
You are saying it to yourself.
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In my series,
I havealways addressed words to others.
A leader's words change their team members, I've said.

But, in fact,the most influentialwords might be
the words you say to yourself.

In their heads, peoplemutter 60,000 times a day.

In psychology, there isa field of research called [Self-Talk].
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While awake, humans
constantly continue"monologues"in their heads.

Psychologist Lev Vygotsky explained that
the"monologues spoken aloud"that children have
transition into"words inside the head"as they grow.

In other words, much of adult thinking
is made up of unspoken[Self-Talk].
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Ethan Kross, a psychologist at the University of Michigan,
studied how people use self-talkin situations involving
pressure.

He had subjects prepare a speech in front of others, and divided them into a group that spoke in the first person, saying
"I am nervous", and a group that spoke in the third person, saying
"(Name) is nervous".

As a result, the group that used third-person self-talk had lower anxiety and higher performance.


When you speak as "I", you get swallowed byemotion.When you
"speak using your name", you can view yourself with a little distance.

Just by changing the words, the way the brain processes the situation changed.

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Sports psychologist James Hardy is a leading expert who has studied
【self-talk】 for many years. There are two main types of self-talk, and they are effective in different situations.


Instructional self-talk

└ "Focus on your form," "The sequence is this"
Motivational self-talk

└ "I can do it," "I can do more"
Instructional self-talk

is effective for tasks requiring precision or technique
, while motivational self-talk
is effective for situations requiring endurance or persistence
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Speaking in the first person
keeps you trapped 【inside your own head】. Speaking in the second or third person
allows you to support yourself as if a coach were standing right next to you, providing

objective encouragement.

The words you say to yourself determine your actions and shape your thoughts

The theory in this series is that "words change, leading to changes in actions, which then change thoughts." This applies not only to others but also to yourself.

NG:



"Why can't I even do this?"OK:
"I managed to do this much this time. What should I fix next?"NG:

"It's impossible."OK:
"It's tough right now. But I've made it this far."NG:

"I am nervous."OK:
"(Name) is nervous. But I have prepared for this."When you change the words you use with yourself, your posture


changes, your tone of voice changes, and your actions change. Once your actions change, the thought that I can do this

will follow.
-----------------------------Which words did you use with yourself today?Even though you choose polite words for others, are you using
the harshest words


only on yourself?
If you have words that nurture your team members, you can surely find words that

nurture yourself as well.Today, in front of the mirror, I want you to call your own name.
From there, what will you continue to do?