#87. People are liked for their strengths and loved for their complexes

Hello! Good evening! This is Mimi. I am sharing thoughts on the heart and happy partnerships from Argentina in South America.

I think everyone has complexes, but in my case, I have felt a complex about the shape of my legs since I was a child.

*Here, I am using the word 'complex' to mean 'an inferiority complex or a part of myself that I dislike'.

I think the image of a beautiful leg shape is one where the ankles are slim and the area above the knees is also slim, but my legs have neither ankles nor knees. Well, they have them (laughs), but since they aren't slim, they are just a straight line. My legs have a shape that spreads out straight and thick from my ankles to my knees and thighs.

I have been doing yoga for over 10 years, and my knees, which were slightly bow-legged, have come together, and because I have gained some muscle in my legs, the area around my knees feels a bit slimmer, but I still don't have ankles, and my legs tend to swell easily.

Because I have a complex about my legs, I have always lived my life worrying about how others see them, and on days when someone I liked would say things like 'You don't have any ankles,' there were times I wanted to curse my own legs.

However, one night, because I was premenstrual and my body was swollen, my legs were swollen and painful, so I was having my husband massage them.

Then my husband said, 'They look like little piglet legs! Haha,' and while laughing repeatedly, he gave those little piglet legs a careful massage.

When he said that, I replied normally, 'Yeah, that's right, they are little piglet legs.' Or rather, I was thinking, 'Wait, what do piglet legs even look like anyway?' Haha.

While I was a little surprised at myself for accepting it normally without feeling depressed or hurt by my husband's words, or cursing my own legs, and without my emotions moving even a millimeter,

'Oh, I've changed,' I thought.

And so, I thought about why I had stopped hating my legs so much, even though I had continued to hate them for nearly 40 years.

Thinking about it, I realized it was probably thanks to the training of changing how I view and interpret the parts of myself I dislike, and the habit of apologizing to and thanking myself, which I share in the 21-Day Free Online Course.

There is a proverb that says this, but I'm going to tweak it a little,

I think you could say that.

When you start to think that the parts of yourself you've perceived as complexes, hated, and cursed might not be so bad after all—that they might not be worth hating so much—or even better, when you start to think, 'Aren't these slightly imperfect legs actually charming and cute?!'—that is when someone who loves those very complexes will appear...

So, what is it that you consider to be your complex?

Once you acknowledge it yourself and are able to accept it, thinking, 'Maybe it's not so bad? Maybe it's actually cute?!', someone who will say, 'That is exactly what makes you cute!' will surely appear!

This is because the way you treat yourself is how the people in front of you will treat you as well.

Please accept and acknowledge your complexes, and become the person who is loved precisely for those complexes!

Today, too, I am rooting for your world filled with love!

Mimi

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