"Life is about losing continuously"... Is that really true?

(This is just my personal thought, and I am not denying anyone else's ideas or opinions regarding this.
There is no right or wrong in how one feels or thinks; it is simply a matter of acknowledging those thoughts. I do not wish to deny them at all, but these are just my own thoughts. I hope you can accept this as one perspective.)

"Life is about losing continuously"?

I came across these words.

There are many different values, and I am often struck by the realization, "I see," and I am truly grateful to be able to encounter and learn about such ways of thinking.

It is precisely because we "lose continuously" that we can develop ambition, view ourselves objectively, and make course corrections.

But, for some reason... I feel a sense of discomfort.

Why is that? I tried to think about it.

To begin with, isn't "winning or losing" painful??

In the first place, I feel that "winning or losing" is painful!

It's like "winning" is a circle, and "losing" is an X.

I don't think it has to be a dichotomy...

Instead of "winning or losing," wouldn't it be better to think in terms of "what fits and what doesn't"?

I want to live a life where I, at least, never deny myself♡

For me,

The formula "losing" = "wrong" = "no good" ends up being created.

When I "lose," I end up denying myself.

(This is just my personal value system. I think for some people, it can lead to ambition and have a positive influence.)

I want to live a life where I don't deny myself.

I think there will, of course, be times when I am denied by others.

Because there are many different people, and each has their own values.

Even so, rather than a life that is accepted by everyone,

I want to live a life where I can be my own ally,
a life where I, at least, can always fully affirm myself.