"What if our relationship breaks if I confess?" A perspective to consider when you are unsure whether to share your feelings

I want to tell that person I like how I feel.

Anyone who has ever been in love
has thought this at least once.

That is a confession.

However,
there is a major risk lurking in that confession.

It is the collapse of the relationship.

Aren't we all
torn between the desire to express these feelings and
the desire not to destroy the relationship,
suffering,
and worrying every day
about something that has no clear answer?

This time, this is

an article for those who are currently worried, thinking,

"I want to confess, but what if our relationship breaks?"

I will start with the conclusion.

Based on my experience of
having had many unrequited loves and failed,
then learning about romance,
and winning the hearts of many women I liked,

my view is: "If your goal is to date them, you don't need to confess."

Thank you for always reading my articles.

I am Hideki Nagano,
a counselor specializing in unrequited love.

In my articles,
I write about
the romantic know-how and past experiences I learned
as a 162cm tall man with atopic dermatitis
who had a crush on the same woman for 7 years

before finally winning her heart.
I sincerely support those who

genuinely want to date the woman they like.↓ Click here for my self-introduction ↓

If your goal is to date them, you don't need to confess

"Huh? You don't need to confess? What are you talking about?"

You might think that.

I used to think the same thing once.

If the confession succeeds, you can date.
If the confession fails, you cannot date.

In order to date,
you must make the confession succeed.

We have been
brainwashed into thinking that.

However,
the reality is not like that.

You can actually date the woman you like
without even confessing.

I want you to think about it for a moment.

You know how there is such a thing as a "shotgun wedding"?

That is a pattern of marriage where people decide,
"We're pregnant, so let's get married."

Normally,
it should be,
"We're engaged, so let's have a child,"
but the order is reversed.

But,
they were able to get married precisely because of that situation.

What is the reason for that?

It is because
marriagecarries significant risks.

Once you get married,
you live in the same house,
you have to raise children together,
you can't hang out with other people of the opposite sex,
you have to earn money,
and you lose your own time.

People cannot easily make decisions
about things that carry such risks.

Therefore,
both the person proposing
and the person receiving the proposal

when it comes down to it,
become afraid of or dislike marriage,
and try to run away from it.

However,
"If a child is on the way, I have to steel myself."

Thinking that way,
they go through with a shotgun wedding.

Humans cannot easily shoulder large risks.

Dating is the same.

Once you start dating,
naturally you have sex,
you spend time for each other,
you can't hang out with others of the opposite sex,
you might even have a child,
and it might become troublesome after you break up.

It is full of risks.

Even so,
if you are "madly in love,"
it will be accepted.

But what if
you're not sure if you really like them?

You might get rejected if you confess, right?

Forcing the other person
to make a big decision
carries the risk of being rejected.

Instead of that,
like a shotgun wedding,

it's better to build a relationship that deepens naturally
without making a formal proposal.

That increases the chances of success.

For specific methods,
please check my paid article
linked below if you are interested.

I used to think
that a confession was a "wonderful form of love."

I thought that confessing was true love,
and that a relationship that just happens naturally was wrong.

But,
actually, I realized that many women
were looking for the kind of romance
I thought was wrong, rather than the true love I believed in.

The reason is
that true love is too heavy before you start dating.

Before dating,
it's just right for a man to be a little lighthearted.

When it comes to dating,
a confession isn't actually that necessary.

It took me over 20 years
to realize that,

but I don't want those who read my articles
to take such a long detour,
so I introduced it here.

For those who
really want to date the woman they like,
I hope this serves as a reference.

That is all.
Thank you for reading until the end.

See you in another article.