A Moderate Distance Is the Best Spice
A post of around 400 characters that can be read in just one minute.
Today is the first installment of the "Readable in 1 minute" series. Since spring is a season of both new beginnings and farewells, I plan to write a few posts about human relationships.
Even if you are not aware of it yourself, human relationships often lead us to be overly considerate.
Perhaps some of you are "trying too hard."
Trying too hard to accommodate others,
or being overly attentive...
"I have to do this properly,"
"I don't want to be disliked,"
I think there are times when we try too hard because of these feelings.
However, if you keep being overly considerate of others, you will drain yourself and accumulate stress... you end up more exhausted than you realize.
That is why it is important to cherish "mental space."
It is okay not to react immediately.
You do not have to accept everything about the other person.
By having a slightly detached perspective, your feelings will become much lighter, and you will be able to think about human relationships from a different angle than before.
Strangely enough, having a relaxed sense of distance often allows for building a more peaceful relationship.
A sense of distance that values yourself fosters effortless human relationships.
If you are someone who tends to get tired of human relationships, trying to be conscious of a "kindness that doesn't get too close" can help protect your own feelings.