Ways of Living and Thinking Learned from Buddhism: 'The Fact That They Are Just There Is Enough'

It is a happy thing to make a close friend or partner.

You are filled with the expectation of healing loneliness, sharing fun times, and living a fulfilling life.

However, as you spend time together, being together eventually becomes taken for granted, and I think we often end up demanding various things from them.

The joy of being with someone you loved gradually fades, and if they lounge around on the weekend, don't clean up, or just watch TV, it becomes something that bothers you incessantly.

And before you know it, you end up venting your dissatisfaction.

Of course, for the person being told, being asked for something can make them feel happy as if they are being relied upon, and there is also a sense of satisfaction in being needed.

But in the first place, isn't asking for something also a way of saying you are trying to use them?

And when you try to use someone, I think it becomes more of a 'contract' than a 'karmic connection'.

In other words, they become a 'person under contract' to work for me or to make me happy.

If you look at your partner or friends with that perspective, won't those actions eventually come back to you?

And perhaps the Buddha may not do anything for you or give you anything.

They are simply there by your side, quietly.

I have begun to think that a relationship where you have 'received a karmic connection' is one that is neither more nor less than that existence.

☆Today's Verse☆

The Buddha
Just simply by my side
Standing there