Four Ironclad Rules
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A while ago, when I visited Chiba, I gave Mr. Yokota, who took care of me, a CD of a lecture by Mr. Fumiaki Nakamura.
I immediately received his thoughts after listening to the content.
It is a long message, but please take the time to read it carefully.
Yesterday, I listened to the lecture CD by Mr. Fumiaki Nakamura.
Mr. Tabata, although our actual circumstances and experiences differ greatly between Mr. Nakamura and myself, there were many commonalities at the root.
On the other hand, I also found some differences stemming from my own experiences.
[1] An honest heart and a humble attitude: "There is no 'no' answer from me to you." Once you have looked up to this person as a mentor, there is no "no," and you do not say "no" to customers...
I think that is exactly right.
In my company, when I was young (up until my 30s), I did not say "no" or "but" to requests from superiors or colleagues.
That is because it is difficult to explain the "reasons why it cannot be done."
Among my colleagues, there are many who say, "It's hard to explain why it can't be done, so it might be better to just do it even if it fails."
Conversely, there are also people who can explain the reasons why it cannot be done very logically and to the satisfaction of the other party (not by spouting sophistry, but by leading with 'it would be better to do it this way'), and I admired such people.
I say, "Yes, I will do it," but I always ask for the reasons and background of the request.
Or, I obtain it through another route.
That is because it allows for a higher +α result.
In Mr. Nakamura's talk, there was also this phrase:
"Most of what people worry about is comparison with others. If you live by comparing yourself to others, you will have to live that way forever."
In my case, many of my worries are about "becoming a lie, erasing the other person's joy."
Does this also stem from the subconscious of "living by comparing oneself to others"?
It is not the anxiety that the other person will be disappointed in me, but the frustration of not being able to draw out the other person's joy that becomes a worry or stress.
[2] Requests are tests: "Do more than the requester expects." I was surprised.
This is wonderful!
I hadn't noticed this until now.
Until now, I have been doing "things that exceed the requester's expectations" on a daily basis, but since I hadn't found value in this (I hadn't realized it), I realized just now, "Oh, I was doing something amazing without knowing it."
I have always naturally done "what was requested + α," not necessarily because I was trying to.
If you do just "what was requested," it's 75 points; if you do the +α that satisfies the other party, it's 100 points; and if the rumor spreads that "Yokota does good work" and you create a loyal customer, it's 200 points.
I have been doing things with that scale in mind.
*There are also experiences where the +α ended up being a nuisance to the other party, but I consider this as having gained experience, so it's fine.
Because it increases the possibility of making the next person happy.
[3] Do not say reasons why you cannot do something: This overlaps with [1] and [2] mentioned above, but for me, there is a slight difference regarding Mr. Nakamura's talk.
Explaining sophistry with all your might is the height of foolishness, but if it is "to clarify the cause (reason) in order to make the impossible possible," then "reasons why it cannot be done" have value.
On the other hand, there are times when I choose not to "do" (that action to achieve the final goal) rather than "cannot do."
It is difficult for people who only have the logic of "explaining why it cannot be done = I don't want to do it (escaping) = sophistry" to understand my values...
Since the act of "listening to the reasons why it cannot be done and then taking measures to resolve them" helps people grow, I do not categorically decide "do not say you cannot do it."
It becomes an action of "thinking about the reasons why it cannot be done, let's make it possible, or another means is fine."
However, when I realize it is sophistry, I scream, "If you have time to think about reasons why you can't do it, find reasons why you can!" (Laughs). Sometimes, there are people who don't understand the value of such "reasons why it cannot be done to make it possible," and I don't know where they learned it, but they scream, "Don't make excuses!" without listening.
In such cases, I say, "You are rotten for cutting off such a wonderful golden rule (which hides a chance to gain experience) with the dirty word 'excuse'," and I crush them.
[4] "Someday" is a forbidden word: It is also in a poem by Mitsuo Aida.
It is also posted in my workplace.
Mitsuo Aida: "Someday" Someday, when I save money, someday, when I build a house, someday, when the children are grown, someday, when work settles down, someday, when I have free time, someday... someday... someday... while repeating the reasons why I can't do it, in the end, I did nothing, the curtain of a hollow life falls, and on top of my head, a lonely tombstone stands. Someday, someday, the sun sets, the road I came on, I cannot return. When I hear the phrase "someday," I interpret it as, "Oh, this person has decided not to do it."
I do not use words like "someday."
It is only either "when I will do it by" or "I will not do it."
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About history: My wife says she hates history.
It seems that "looking back at the past is backward-looking" and "it is bloody."
I like history.
Those who made decisions and succeeded or failed under desperate situations.
Clouds Above the Hill (Ryotaro Shiba), Kantaro Suzuki, Mitsu Miyagitani historical novels...
How moved I was, how my body trembled, and how tears came out!
I get excited when I know "what people thought and what they did."
What the people who made history experienced is absorbed into me now as (pseudo) experience, and I create new history.
If you don't know history, you can't gain experience in such a short time.
To make history means to leave experience for future generations (to let them gain experience).
"Leaving it for future generations" does not mean just leaving the results, but it is more important to leave the process, that is, what you thought and what you decided.
My colleagues at work often say,
"We are going to make history!"
Including me, everyone is always Project X.
We are unknowingly doing things that enhance human power.
There are many people who get fired up the more difficult it is.
I think I am quite happy for a salaryman to be surrounded by such members.
*Those who don't get fired up disappear.
My father passed away 6 years ago, but my father also made history.
From a military school during the war, to the effort of "living" after the war (there is no choice but to die if you say "I can't do it"), to the stubbornness of insisting "I am right!" even against the company president.
On the other hand, a father who neglected his family and doted on his subordinates (investing his salary in his subordinates), causing his mother great annoyance.
In his later years, as if he anticipated his death, he finished writing his autobiography and passed away a few months after self-publishing it.
On the day of the funeral, many of my father's subordinates gathered and said to me, "Your father's leadership was brilliant.
I was happy to be able to work with this person," and many people visited.
It is human power.
I am also living to polish this.
I want to achieve the "balance between wife and work" that my father was not good at, surpass my father, and when I eventually die, I want many people to visit my funeral and say to my son, "Your father's leadership was brilliant.
The words of 'thank you' that your father said to me helped me grow."
I am aiming for that way of life.
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About switches: In my company, various initiatives have been taken for several years to turn on switches.
We are trying to raise people who can always think about what they were born for and what they are living for.
Rather than raising, "trying to make them realize" is correct.
I also make vision boards and write mission statements.
I know what I am living for.
Sometimes, people ask me.
"What is the purpose of your life, Mr. Yokota?"
The immediate answer is----
"To be able to do what I couldn't do before." Another one is, "The value of life is how many times I can say 'thank you' to the people I have been involved with before I die."
There may be many people who want to be "a person who is thanked by others," but I am the opposite; I want to "increase the number of people to whom I can say thank you."
I think it was about 2-3 years ago that I started thinking this way.
Previously, the desire to be "praised by others" was my vitality, but as mentioned above, I changed after experiencing the pain of "stealing others' joy" many times.
"This time I stole your joy, and I am sorry for that, but this will become my experience, and I can give joy to the next person. So thank you."
That consciousness has sprouted.
Also, there are departments that use athletic-style switch-turning methods.
Every morning, they scream and repeat, "Today I will do it! I will do it! I will do it! Think after you try it!"
The △△ factory of ○○ company is like that.
From the perspective of people in the development department where I belong, it seems that many people get hung up on the words "think after you try it."
"What an idiot." The true meaning of the factory's "I'll do it call" is correctly meant as "don't sluggishly think about reasons why you can't do it"...
First, while answering "Yes, I will do it!", you instantly grasp the risks (trouble for the customer) and the success image and take action.
And, while taking action, you think about the next step, and whether you fail or succeed, you must think about it carefully again later...
This is the mechanism of this "I'll do it call."
The guy who got his switch turned on by this is intense.
It has become long.
After listening to Mr. Nakamura's lecture, there were parts that were very common (not empathy, but "common") (of course, the parts that are not athletic are not common), and it became such a long text.
Please forgive my poor handwriting and writing.
Thank you very much for staying with me until the end.
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Now, here is today's word.
Mountaineers,
from the steep path,
climb.
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