Avocados and the Blueprint of Your Life
Recently, I bought some avocados that were on sale at the supermarket for the first time in a while, and I've become completely hooked. There were six in the bag, and I've been eating them every day.
"Come to think of it, I've heard you can grow them indoors hydroponically..."
Thinking that, I looked it up and tried growing one.
I washed the pit, cut a little off the bottom, and floated it in water.
A few days later, the pit had cracked.
When I lifted it gently, a root was growing inside the pit!
What's here is water, oxygen, light, and time.
Just that.
But,life knows exactly how to grow and where to head.
I think people are the same.
What do you want to do? In what kind of environment do you feel alive? How do you want to live?
In truth, your life already knows.
However, people are a little different from avocados.
An avocado pit has a blueprint for life built into it from the start.
But people draw their own blueprints as they live.
To connect with others, to be accepted, to avoid getting hurt.
And sometimes, that becomes the person's "way of life" just as it is.
I am this kind of being.
People are like this, the world is like that.
Therefore, I must do this. I must live like this.
That kind of blueprint.
If the voice of your life and the voice of your blueprint are misaligned right now, what do you actually want to do?
In fact, humans can redraw that blueprint.
First, notice the blueprint. And notice yourself when you go beyond that blueprint. Watch it quietly, just like you would watch a sunset.
Anxiety and wavering feelings.
Things you tried not to look at because you didn't want to get hurt.
Anger, and the sadness or anxiety hidden deep beneath it. Immaturity.
Don't pretend any of that doesn't exist.
Accept yourself, including the parts you deny.
I believe a person begins to live their own life
when they are seen exactly as they are.
Rogers compared change to a sunset and said something like this.
"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, 'Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.' I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds".
"People are just as wonderful as a sunset, just as they are. Just as you wouldn't say to a sunset, 'Make the orange on the right a little softer,' you simply watch with awe and quiet as the scene unfolds before your eyes."
Every part of us,
our confusion, our weaknesses, our wavering,
even the old blueprints we drew desperately to protect ourselves, are as beautiful as a sunset, just as they are.
And by watching them quietly, they begin to change.
Just as avocados need water and light, people have conditions for living according to their own life.
To me, that isbeing accepted as you are, and love, courage, and connection.Connecting with yourself and connecting with others. The courage to live as yourself within those connections.
People can redraw their own blueprints at any time.
While listening to the voice of your life, more freely, and more like you.