Potty Training Beginners: Graduate from Constant Failures in 3 Steps! A Complete Guide to the Basics Taught by Pros
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Conclusion: Constant potty training failures become easier to manage by changing the order, not the method. 🙂
When potty training isn't going well, these three things are actually common causes.
The child is not ready yet
The child is anxious about the toilet environment and cannot sit
The adult's impatience is being conveyed to the child
Therefore, rather than pushing through with sheer willpower, the shortcut is to prepare the environment and the way you invite them, and accumulate small successes.
First, let's check: Guidelines for whether it's okay to start now
To reduce impatience, here is a rough checklist.
The interval between urination has started to increase to about 2 hours
They can sit stably and follow simple instructions
They can communicate whether they have gone or not through words or gestures
If it still seems difficult, taking a break without forcing it is a perfectly valid choice.
Rebuilding in 3 steps: The basic route from constant failures
Step 1: Make the environment work for you first
Ensuring the child isn't scared and can push effectively is the top priority.
Use a potty seat that doesn't wobble
Use a step stool so their feet are firmly supported
Improve the toilet if it is cold, dark, or smelly, as these factors have a subtle impact
Keep cleaning supplies in an easily accessible place
Just by getting these things in order, you will feel a change in the success rate.
Step 2: Change what you do based on the failure pattern
Toilet refusal type
Do not force them to sit
It is okay if they just get close to the toilet at first
Starting with a potty chair is also an option
Frequent accidents type
Note the times they go for just one week
Invite them at set times first (it is okay if they don't go)
Have them drink fluids in small amounts rather than all at once
Difficulty with bowel movements only type
A posture where their feet are supported is the most important thing
Only invite them during times they are likely to go
Create a flow where they go in the toilet, even if they are wearing a diaper at first
Step 3: Keep your verbal prompts light and build up successes
When they fail, short words that do not blame them are the most effective.
When a failure happens
It's okay, there's always next time
Thank you for telling me
Let's clean it up together
When a success happens
You did it
You feel refreshed now, don't you
You were able to tell me yourself
For some children, a casual compliment works better than making a big deal out of it.
What made things easiest for me was fortifying my defenses.
At first, I tried to power through with just training pants, and I was exhausted every day from laundry and mopping the floor.
From there, I increased the number of places where I laid down waterproof sheets and switched to a step stool and potty seat that prioritized stability. This made it harder for me to get discouraged when failures happened, and as a result, my child also progressed more calmly.
I believe potty training is a set that includes not just the child's practice, but also finding ways to reduce the burden on the mom.
Little tricks for when you feel like you're going to lose your temper
Take a deep breath before speaking (to prevent harsh words from slipping out)
It's okay to step away for a moment (saying "Mom is going to take a break" is enough)
Create a system where you don't compare (don't listen too much to social media or what others say)
When to seek advice: If you're worried, it's fine to ask early
Potty training has large individual differences, so I can't say for sure.
However, I think it's okay to consult a pediatrician or similar professional in cases like the following.
There is almost no progress even after turning 4 years old
The interval between urinations remains extremely short for a long time
The fear of the toilet is so strong that it interferes with daily life
There are signs that suggest pain or physical illness
Summary: 3 actions to start from today
Prepare the toilet from the child's perspective (brightness, warmth, posture)
Change how you invite them according to their failure patterns
Keep your words short, don't blame, and stack up small successes😊
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