To you who work in an unwanted environment🍀 How to deal with negative emotions.

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I am a night-shift nurse working in a rural area.

My workplace is
aging due to the declining birthrate and aging population, and the staff is aging too.
People in their 50s, 60s, and even up to their 70s
are working "full-time with night shifts."

Since salaries remain the same even after retirement age,
department heads and head nurse-class staff continue to work after being rehired post-retirement.

Because positions are not being passed on to the younger generation,
maintaining the status quo = decline
is a workplace that is the perfect picture of that.

I prefer to think about "how can we make things better?"
Therefore,"a place where there is no intention to change anything"is not fun to work in.

Similarly,
staff who join with the ambition of "wanting to improve the workplace even a little" end up quitting.
Or,
they stop voicing their opinions, thinking "nothing will change even if I say something."

A situation that is becoming less and less enjoyable.

I work for my children's tuition, but
working in an unwanted environment is,
honestly, painful😭

At the workplace, complaints and gossip have become routine.

Every time I go to work,
"What do you think about so-and-so?"
I get probed like that.
"So-and-so is like this, right!"
I am asked to agree with negative talk.

It's not that there is one specific target,
but they are constantly whispering about someone (each other).

"We shouldn't be saying that, right?"
Even personal information that I think
is commonly flying around.

When I look at the seniors who love gossip,
"If I keep working here, will I become like this too?"
I get scared when I think that.

"the future I wish for"A workplace that is going in the opposite direction.

To avoid being swept away by that,
lately I have been practicing my ignoring skills.

"I see,"
"So that's what happened," I say,
🌵 Listening to the story but not agreeing with it.
🌵 Not talking about other staff members myself.
🌵 Doing my work quietly.

That is how I ignore it.

Maybe they think I'm
"a boring person"?

Even so, that's fine!

Because I don't want to become
a megaphone for negativity!

Of course, when you work, there are many things that make you feel uneasy.
There are times when you want someone to listen to your complaints!

However, what good does saying that do?

In my life so far, gossip has never made anything better.
That's why I think, isn't gossip unnecessary?
.

For me, as someone who works exclusively night shifts, keeping my peace of mind is quite difficult.
Because at night, it's easy to be pulled into negativity.

At night, the brain's amygdala (the area that feels fear and anxiety) tends to become active.

If you are curious about why we become negative at night, please refer to the article below 😊

I find it hardest when I have consecutive night shifts.
When my internal rhythm doesn't return and I start the next night shift without recovering from fatigue,
both my heart and body reach their limit 🫠

Even so, I want to look forward as much as possible.

When I feel myself leaning toward negativity, I started to think objectively,
“Oh! My amygdala (the area that feels fear and anxiety) is active!”
”

By doing that, I can distance myself from the negativity just a little bit.

When your heart is weak, you want to complain,
and sometimes you might get carried away by the “gossip” of a smooth-talking senior.

When you are weak, getting pulled into that makes you even more exhausted 😓

That is precisely why I think it is important to know
when you become negative.

Just by knowing your mental habits,
you will be able to look at yourself from the outside and think,
“Ah, it’s that usual thing.”

If you are in the middle of negativity,
it becomes pitch black and you can't see anything, so it's like the image of
stepping one step outside and looking at the negativity from the outside 👀

To continue working in an unwanted environment, you need to maintain your heart.

For that, first, know where the “unpleasant emotions” come from.
🌵 When do they come?
🌵 When do you feel them?
🌵 When you are with whom?
🌵 When you go where?

And, it is to make sure you don't get pulled into negativity.

Know your mental habits, and when you are about to choose
“unpleasant feelings,” try to distance yourself by objectively seeing it as,
“The usual thing has come!”

Unwanted things coming from the outside,
・Someone's complaints
・Gossip
should be ignored with a “I see.”

Let's try not to take them into ourselves!

I am currently working in an unwanted environment, but I am studying various things to escape someday!
(To be able to earn money on my own 😤)

If you are working in an environment you do not want,
the most important thing is to
protect your mind and body!

Next, let's think about ways to get out of there.

The world is vast!!
There are infinite paths✨️

Let's choose a happy life together😊