☕The price tag you put on yourself is visible to the world too

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Today's special is,

"The price tag you put on yourself is visible to the world too Latte"

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Did that make you flinch a little?

It's okay.

Manager Ayappe also used to put a surprisingly low price tag on herself for a long time.

Trying not to be a burden to others.

Trying not to be disliked.

Trying not to ruin the mood.

Trying to be useful to someone.

Living life with all your might like that,

before you knew it,

I'll go later.

That has become my default setting.

You know, for HSP people.

You notice other people's value right away.

That person is,
actually working really hard.

Behind this person's smile,
there is a little bit of loneliness.

That person's words,
actually have warmth.

You find those things,
faster than anyone else.

But when it comes to yourself,

I'm nothing,

I haven't done anything special,

There are people who can do more,

you say,

and suddenly start sticking discount stickers on yourself.

No.

It's not like a supermarket before closing time.

☕The price tag you put on yourself bleeds out to the outside world

How you see yourself and

how others see you

are not exactly the same, I think.

The fact that you were treated poorly by someone

is not because your value was low.

It is not your fault either.

But you know,

how you treat yourself

shows in how you speak,

how you apologize,

how you say no,

and what you choose to endure,

The extent to which you laugh off being treated poorly

slowly starts to seep out.

"I'm fine with just this much."

"My feelings can wait, it's okay."

"I don't like it, but I can put up with it."

The way you treat yourself like that,

people around you

might take it as,

"For this person, this is normal."

But that doesn't mean

you have to blame yourself.

You weren't weak.

To avoid being disliked.

To avoid hurting someone.

To avoid ruining the moment.

For a long time,
you've been surviving in your own way, haven't you?

However.

From now on, little by little,

it's okay to show yourself the same kindness.

You, who have always noticed the pain of others,

don't have to,

ignore your own pain anymore.

☕I didn't understand that "you have value just by existing"

"You are fine just as you are"

"Even if you do nothing, you have value just by being there"

Words like those,

I think many people have heard somewhere.

I, too, have heard it many times.

Every time I heard it,

I thought,

"Yeah. I suppose that's true."

But to be honest,

I never really felt it was true deep down.

Because,

what does it mean to have value,

even if you do nothing?

I haven't helped anyone.

I haven't created anything.

I haven't said anything impressive.

I'm just sitting here,

just breathing.

What about that is,

I'm sure I'll be useful to someone.

I've always thought that way.

But lately, you know.

It suddenly,

made perfect sense to me.

☕People don't just give away words and actions

Just by that person entering the room,

the air can become a little tense.

Conversely,

just by that person being there,

the atmosphere can soften up.

Even though they aren't saying anything special,

there are people who make you feel at ease for some reason.

Just by sitting next to them,

People who make your breathing slow down.

People who, just by making eye contact,

make you want to smile a little.

They exist, don't they?

It's not just through words and actions that people

influence those around them.

It's the atmosphere they carry.

The temperature of their voice.

Their expressions.

Their gaze.

Their breathing.

I sometimes call these invisible things

"vibrations."

I don't mean to talk about anything complicated.

However,

I think that even when it seems like we are doing nothing,

we are quietly sharing our own atmosphere

with those around us.

☕You are unaware of what you have been sharing

People who are HSP,

when it comes to the atmosphere they receive from others,

are very sensitive, aren't they?

Someone's bad mood.

The tension in the room.

The slightest change in voice.

A sense of discomfort that cannot be put into words.

To things like that,

you notice immediately.

But you know.

You might not actually notice what you are putting out into the world.

Just by you sitting there,

without saying a word.

Someone might have felt a little more at ease.

Just by you smiling gently.

Someone's heart in that room,

might have relaxed just a little bit.

Even if you don't remember it.

With your casual words,

there might have been someone who made it through a sleepless night.

With your kind gaze,

they might have thought, 'Maybe it's okay for me to be here today too.'

There might have been someone who thought so.

Someone whose name you don't even know,

touched by your gentle aura,

might have,

just for a moment, let their guard down.

It's not that you didn't do anything.

It just didn't take a visible form.

☕Is value that doesn't become a number not value?

In this society,

what you have achieved,

how much you have earned,

how fast you have done it,

how useful you have been,

they want to measure a person's worth,

by such visible things.

That is why I think people like HSPs

sometimes end up at a disadvantage.

Even though they are just thinking carefully,

they are told they are slow to make decisions.

Even though they act with the whole picture in mind,

they are thought of as people who don't step forward.

Even though they are looking for ways to ensure no one gets hurt,

they are told they are inefficient.

In places that are invisible,

they take in so much,

they think so much,

and they support the situation so much.

Yet that doesn't turn into numbers,

doesn't turn into recognition,

and they end up being treated as if they have 'done nothing'.

But.

Just because it's invisible,
doesn't mean you aren't giving anything.

In fact,

perhaps the most important things between people

are the ones that cannot be seen.

Peace of mind.

Trust.

Kindness.

Warmth.

“I can be a little more honest in front of this person.”

The atmosphere that makes you think,

Being able to create that,

is actually an incredible power.

☕Taking back the value of yourself into your own hands

Just because you have started to recognize your own worth,

it doesn't mean that,

from the very next day, everyone will suddenly start treating you with care.

In fact,

because you have started to value yourself,

there may be people who drift away.

But you know,

that is not a failure.

It might just be that the people who were conveniently using you,

when you had a cheap price tag on yourself,

can no longer handle you,

now that you have returned to your true value.

When you start to see yourself as valuable,

the way you stand will change little by little.

You stop apologizing more than necessary.

You stop laughing off

things you dislike.

When you are praised,

instead of throwing it away by saying, "No, no, not me,"

you become able to accept it with a "Thank you."

And little by little,

the you that the world sees will change too.

Because the price tag you put on yourself,

the world,

is actually watching quite closely.

☕Isn't it our turn already?

From the age of earth,

Into the Age of Wind.

That is a phrase,

I quite like and use often.

Things that are visible.

Things that are owned.

Titles.

Strength.

Speed.

From an era where such things were prioritized,

Connections.

Intuition.

Words.

Trust.

Things that cannot be seen,

but certainly move people.

To an era where the value of such things

is being re-evaluated little by little.

In that case.

The sensitivity we have,

which we've been made to think was a weakness until now.

The power to notice someone's small pain.

The power to soften the atmosphere of a room.

The power to receive things that cannot be put into words.

Perhaps that,

will connect someone,

will protect someone,

and will become something that illuminates someone.

Hey.

Isn't it our turn
already?

☕To you, the HSP. And to you, who used to be an HSP.

Ever since you were little,

to you, who have always been quick to read people's expressions.

When adults were angry,

to you, who felt like it was your fault.

When someone was crying,

to you, who felt the pain in your own chest too.

The atmosphere in the classroom,

or the atmosphere at home,

to you, who sensed it faster than anyone else.

You were not,

a troublesome child.

You were not,

a weak child either.

You didn't have to blame yourself for feeling too much.

Because you were quietly there,

there might have been someone who felt at ease.

Because you smiled gently,

there might have been someone who was saved.

You,

are not only valuable on the days you achieve something.

Even on days you couldn't smile.

Even on days you couldn't do anything.

Even on days you just lay there,

and were only breathing.

From you,

your own atmosphere flows.

Warmth.

Stillness.

Softness.

The prayer-like feeling of

not wanting to hurt anyone.

Even if it's invisible to the eye,

it is truly touching this world.

So, you know,

you don't have to put a cheap price tag on yourself anymore.

Your worth is

not something born because you were useful to someone today.

It was there

from the very beginning.

It's just that until now,

you, the person closest to yourself,

simply hadn't found it yet.

From now on,

let's start directing the kindness you've shown others,

toward yourself, little by little.

You, who have always put others at ease,

it's okay to put yourself at ease this time.

You,

don't have to prove anything.

You don't have to offer anything.

Just the fact that you are breathing today,

is enough.

Your gentle waves,

are reaching the world just fine☕💗

With love, from Manager Ayappe

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