Let's give some praise!
The other day, I had my first golf round of the New Year ⛳ at Shido Country Club in the local Udon Prefecture.
It was a perfect day for golf with great weather ☀️, high temperatures, and a pleasant mood for playing 🏌️.
A certain lawmaker's secretary, whom I occasionally play with, hasn't been golfing for long, but is gradually getting better.
The person I met through golf is a junior from my high school days (about 10 years my junior).
When this person hits a nice shot, the others in the group shower them with praise!
Even when they make a mistake, no one offers (unsolicited) advice.
Since this is a hobby and not work, it's fine as long as we're having fun.
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"Praise to encourage growth"
"Scold to encourage growth"
Both have their pros and cons.
Pro-wrestling's Rikidozan trained his disciples,
Giant Baba through elite education,
Antonio Inoki through physical discipline,
raising them with contrasting guidance, and led both to become top stars.
He likely saw through their 'talents, aptitudes, and personalities' and provided guidance suitable for each.
Excellent mentors (instructors, advisors, supporters) are necessary in every field.
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Now, in the modern era, not only is 'physical discipline' difficult, but even scolding is a challenge.
Even if your guidance is born of love, if your intent isn't conveyed to the other person, you'll be slammed for harassment.
“Praise to help them grow”
“With such soft-hearted guidance, they'll never become a professional, right!”
“It'll have a negative impact on the work and their colleagues, won't it!”
“They'll get a big head and work even less, right!”
If you're from the Showa generation, you'd probably think that way.
(*Individual differences apply)
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Well, well, let's put such troublesome talk aside!
Are you giving them praise?
Who?
Me (Ryan)!
(*Excuse me)
Now then, who is the one you should praise the most?
Oh, you're sharp!
That's right!
Yourself.
Praise yourself to the skies and acknowledge your own worth!
Work, housework, cleaning, studying, exercise, good deeds done in secret, etc.
You are doing your best!
Even if it's something trivial, let's praise yourself for doing your best!
If you do that,
"I'm doing this for you"
"No one praises me"
"No one acknowledges me"
phrases like these will disappear.
Furthermore, you can become in a good mood, and perform better than your actual ability.
Continuing from the other day's golf🏌️.
"My driver and irons are perfect!"
When I challenged it with that thought, I hit a series of nice shots that were super sharp.
"I'm bad at putting..."
From birdie chances, I had three-putt bogeys three times (lol)
Let's praise yourself!