The Structure of People Who Keep Worrying About the Same Thing
Hello. I am Ayaka, a counselor.
Continuing to worry about the same thing is not because your way of thinking is wrong.
It is a state of "continuing to view things from the same premise."
People try to change events, but what is actually being repeated is not the event, but the "perspective."
What happens when the same worry continues
When you worry about the same thing, different events are happening on the outside.
The other person changes.
The situation changes.
Even so,
you end up with similar feelings and results.
This is not a coincidence.
It is a state where the "premise" within that person is creating the same interpretation and choices.
The premise that creates the worry
For example,
・I must not be disliked
・I must do things properly
・I must not be a burden to others
When you have these premises,
you end up taking actions that align with them.
And as a result,
similar relationships and situations are repeated.
The problem is not the event,
but the premise behind it.
Why the premise does not change
This premise was not something you chose consciously.
It is something you acquired as a method that worked during past experiences.
Therefore,
it is difficult to treat it as an object of doubt.
It is treated as "this is normal."
That is precisely why you continue to think with the same assumptions.
The reason you cannot break free
Many people keep thinking about "how to make things go well."
However, as long as you keep thinking with the same assumptions, the answers will remain within the same range.
As a result, only the worrying continues.
You are thinking, yet nothing changes. That feeling becomes stronger.
The structure of people who keep worrying about the same thing
The reason you keep worrying about the same thing is not because you cannot change.
It is because you are looking at it with the same assumptions.
As long as the assumptions do not change, neither your perspective nor your choices will change.
The point where change occurs
What is important here is not to look for an answer.
It is to realize what kind of assumptions you are viewing things through.
What are you taking for granted?
Are those assumptions still right for who you are now?
What happens when you realize your assumptions
When you realize your assumptions, the way you see the same events changes.
Choices that you could not make before start to look realistic.
You do not have to force a change. Just let your perspective shift a little.
That change will
unravel the cycle of repetition.
When worries persist,
there is a fixed assumption somewhere.
When you notice that one point,
the same worry begins to change into a slightly different form.
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