It's meaningless unless you try hard? Are you actually a jerk? For HSPs 🤲🏻
"It's meaningless if I'm not useful to others..."
Is there anyone currently feeling that way??
I have nothing.
I have to try harder.
If I don't try hard, I'm not useful to anyone.
I have to try hard for the sake of others.
If that's you, you're lucky to have found this column ✌️
After you finish reading, your heart will feel a little lighter ✨
1. My subject is someone other than myself.
Hey, you there, HSP!
I'm sure that when you talk, your subject is...
"So-and-so is..."
Don't you say that?
Until I made peace with myself,
until I graduated from being lost in myself,
I was always making someone other than myself the subject.
But
what's wrong with that...
The problem is that you lose track of what you want to do. That's the harmful effect that occurs 🥺
.
I'm sure the people reading this article
are people who think they must prioritize fulfilling others.
My child is...
My husband is...
My mother is...
My mother-in-law is...
My mom friends are...
The company is...
My boss is...
My friend is...
Did anyone flinch? 😗
I was the same way.
But, people who can prioritize others are really good people ✨
, right?
People with beautiful hearts
Kind people
Considerate people
Don't you think so??
Aren't there many people who are often told that?
But actually, they are
incredibly annoying people!!!!!!!!!!!
They aren't good people at all.
They are people who are very good at blaming others.
That's why they think the reason they are [so-and-so] is all
"someone else's fault!!"
.
Doesn't this text make you angry? lol
No way that's true.
Yes, you want to retort, don't you.
Please rest assured.
I am the same as you.
And because I thought, why should I be told such things from that anger,
I studied a lot.
So, I have learned
how to make those current feelings go away
and how to avoid creating those current emotions.
Yes, 'I'm an HSP, so it can't be helped'...
There's no need to give up like that 🤲🏻
The reason why the subject becomes other people, and why it makes you angry when it's pointed out,
is the same.
It just meant that I was living for others.
2. I have no value unless I work hard.
I always thought,
If I don't work hard, I have no value.
I really thought that!
・I'm no good because I'm not working hard
・Things aren't going well because I'm not working hard
・I won't be liked if I don't work hard
To put it the other way around,
・I have to work harder so I'm not thought of as no good
・Things aren't going well because I'm not working hard enough
・People who don't work hard are disliked
That's how I was thinking.
I understand it now, but
at that time,
I was surrounded by people who said,
・Working hard is justice!
・Work harder!
Actually, this happened because
I was thinking 'I have to work hard!!' and
I was denying the part of myself that wasn't working hard,so
people with the same mindset were around me.
And,I was surrounded by people who were hard on themselves.
People can only attract those who share something in common with them.
Therefore, you only connect with people who think the same way.
So, when I was denying myself,
I was attracting people who denied me.
Isn't this scary?????
That's why, if you are denying yourself, even moresad realitieswill happen 😵
People with high self-esteem.
Self-acceptance(People who acknowledge and accept themselves as they are)People who can do thisThe reason why their
reality is going well and why their sense of happiness is high
is because of this.
How are you doing right now???
If what I just said
made you flinch!!!
please leave a comment 🤍
📢 Announcement 📢
In the past, I was:
・Other-centered → Swayed by other people's opinions
・Self-denying → Lacking confidence in myself and my own thoughts
・Self-loathing → Hating myself
Like this, my self-esteem was at rock bottom.
Because of that, I didn't know my own emotions or thoughts,
and I was in a state of being lost within myself 💔
What I especially didn't know were the things I liked.
And the things I disliked.
Once I became able to practice self-acceptance, I could accept my negative self as well, and my life changed 180 degrees.
However, to do that,
you must first know what you like.
But one problem is,
if you're alone, where should you start?
So, although it is coming up soon,
I will be holding a "Free Workshop to Find What I Like"
🤍
・The duration is 1 hour
・The first session is scheduled for the evening of Wednesday, 12/11.
This will be by invitation only,
so if you would like to participate, please register via the LINE link below
and send me a message saying "I would like to participate" 🥰
I will send you the scheduled participation date (the first session is scheduled for the evening of Wednesday, December 11th) and details 😍
I look forward to everyone's participation 🤍