To you who feel that 'the kinder you are, the more exhausted you become'

“I’m so tired from being too kind…”

I truly believe that this is never because you are weak or coddling yourself.

But somewhere inside, you find yourself thinking, 'It’s fine if I just endure it' or 'It’ll be over if I just give in.'

The more you try to value someone else’s feelings, the more your own feelings get pushed to the back burner, and deep down, your heart grows tired little by little.

For you, I would like to share my story today.

I, who was hurting myself while intending to be kind

I myself once thought, 'It’s better for me to be hurt than to hurt someone else.'

Even when it was truly painful, I would smile and say, 'I’m fine.'

But every time I said 'I’m fine,' I actually wanted help. My heart was quietly screaming.

However, those feelings went unnoticed, and I carried a sense of unease in my heart for a long time.

The day I realized the true meaning of kindness

One day, I began to ask myself a question.

“Why can I be kind to others, but not to myself?”

As I repeated that question, a feeling of self-compassion began to sprout little by little.

I had forgotten how to be kind to myself for a long time.

Being kind is not about getting hurt; it is about cherishing both others and yourself.

3 tips to stop putting yourself last

I will introduce 3 tips I have gradually learned to stop putting myself last.
• Observe your 'self that cannot say NO' without blaming it.
When you couldn't say NO, don't blame yourself by saying 'I failed again,' but instead acknowledge it by saying, 'I couldn't say it this time,' without self-criticism.
• Have a small place where you can say 'Help me.'
You don't need to change immediately. First, find one place or one person where you can confide your small worries.
• Ask yourself before going to sleep, 'Was I kind to myself today?'
Try to make time to find even a little bit of kindness toward yourself every day.

Turn kindness into the power to protect yourself

You, who are exhausted by kindness, are actually a kinder person than anyone else.

May that kindness of yours protect you, too.

I hope you can be kind to yourself again today.

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