Chapter 5: Why 'Just Guess' Doesn't Work – He Doesn't 'Notice' Because He's Not Cold

"Why don't you notice?"
"You can see I'm holding back, can't you...?"

Have you ever felt that way?

You end up expecting it unconsciously.
"I'm trying this hard, so he should notice."
"I'm showing it in my attitude, so he must understand, right?"

But—he doesn't notice at all.
In fact, he might even be casually scrolling on his phone.

Seeing him like that,
you might even think, "Maybe I'm not loved..."

But actually, there is a psychological reason why he "can't notice."

Women are accustomed to "reading the room" in daily life,
and have a high ability to perceive emotions from facial expressions, atmosphere, and tone of voice.

That is precisely why it is easy to think,
"I want you to understand without me having to say it" regarding things you are enduring or feeling anxious about.

On the other hand, rather than "guessing," men often use their brains in a way that
**"they only notice once it is put into words."**

This is not a matter of whether there is love or not,
but a difference in how we think.

So, even if he couldn't notice your feelings,
it doesn't mean he is "cold" or "doesn't love you."

In fact, when you tell him properly,
most men will respond well, saying
"I see" or "I'm sorry I didn't notice."

What is important is not "understand me," but
the step of **"let's try telling him."**

"I want you to understand without me saying it"
There is no need to deny that feeling.

But, if you want to improve your relationship with him—
try focusing more on "trying to tell him" than on "having him notice."

[Conclusion]

Instead of doubting his love because he doesn't notice,
you can sometimes see his true affection
in his reaction when you do tell him.

*This chapter is part of the magazine "Women Who Can Notice Are Loved. [How to Use Love Psychology <Women's Edition>]"
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